If you were dying would you want to know and why?

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We provide hospice care to adults facing the end of life and their families in Allegan County and surrounding communities. Care is provided by a team of caregivers in patient homes, hospitals, nursing homes, assisted living facilities, and any other settings. 

Wings of Hope Hospice is the only hospice located within Allegan County. It began serving Allegan County in 1984 through a dedicated group of volunteers who believed that Allegan County needed and wanted this type of care. Their dedication paved the way for the strong grassroots volunteer base which is the heart and soul of Wings of Hope. The butterfly, adopted as the logo when Wings of Hope formed, symbolizes the struggle and resulting beauty achieved as the butterfly emerges from the cocoon. It reminds us of the hope hospice gives during the freeing of the spirit. Wings of Hope is a community-based, freestanding, and independent hospice dedicated to open access to all those who wish our care. 


To better achieve this goal we moved our office location from Plainwell to Allegan in June, 2000. This central location means that we are closer to all locations in Allegan County. The name of the organization changed to include "palliative care," indicating the commitment of Wings of Hope to provide leadership for a new focus on care for those with chronic, debilitating illness. 

Giving Assistance, Providing Support (GAPS) 

Giving Assistance, Providing Support (GAPS) is now available to chronically ill people who would benefit by receiving practical support in the home, such as household chores, meal preparation and transportation. 

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Grief Support is available to anyone in the community living with the death of a loved one.
United States
November 8, 2006 11:13am CST
I ask this question because my grandmother is a member of the Wings of Hope Hospice in my area. At the county fair Wings of Hope had a booth and that was a question they had and people were allowed to respond to it. All of them said yes for different reasons including so I could spend time with my family. All except one--mine. I said no and here's my reasons why:1. We are all going to die sometime in our lives, I'm better off not knowing. If I knew I probably would do the things I do no on a daily basis and I would just mourn and be depressed. 2. I wouldn't want to put my family through the misery of knowing I'm about to die. 3. Further, I feel that as soon as a person finds out they are going to die they die quicker then had they not known. For insance: a. A friend of mine had what she thought as a smokers cough. She didn't feel sick, she just kept coughing. She went to the dr. and found out she had lung cancer. She began to become sad and not do things she used to do. Lung cancer was cured and then she died a month later of brain cancer. B. My best friend's mom was bleeding out of her butt badly for over a week and didn't want to go to the dr. Her daughter called the EMS to make her go. Cops came and forced her to go to the ER. She died three days later. C. My grandfather was a healthy man until one day he got a colonoscopy and found out that he had colon cancer. Stayed on a death bed in the living room for quite a few months and died. Those are my answers and reasoning, what are yours?
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@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
18 Dec 06
If I was going to die within in a certain timeframe, I would not want to know when. I'm very much a worrywort and so I'd be the type to feel depressed every single day and worry about what dying will feel like and what will happen to my family. I hope that when I go it is suddenly and that I don't suffer an illness where I'm basically just waiting to die...I cannot imagine that!
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• United States
28 Jan 07
I definitely like your response. That's exactly how I feel. I would be the worrywort wondering how things are going to take place. I wouldn't be into "living life as I was going to die" because I would know I was going to die. I would be depressed and wouldn't know what to do with myself.
• United States
8 Nov 06
yes I would, so I can live life to the fullest during my last days
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• United States
8 Nov 06
That's the only reason I would say yes to that question.
@beckyomg1 (6758)
• United States
8 Nov 06
Yes i would want to know. I think that it would be better. I would want to be able to be with my family and spend as much time with them as i could.
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• United States
8 Nov 06
Thank you for your comment. That's how a lot of people responded to that question at the Hospice booth.
@angel108 (570)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
I feel that I rather know it. In this way I can go to the place where I want to live this mortal coil. And just be in God's remembrance as I want to live this body in His sweet remembrance.
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
If i were dying from a serious disease, i would really want to know so that i can prepare myself by spending time with my family and finish what i need to finish before going. I want to express my gratitude to all the people who became a part of my life and i also want to have a confession just to cleanse my soul. Though it would difficult for my family, i want to be there to tell them that they dont need to worry because i will be with god and will still be with them in spirit. I want to help them accept the fact that i am really going and they dont need to feel very sad.