What is her problem?

@tarheel (151)
United States
December 19, 2008 1:11pm CST
My wife lost her job a few weeks ago and she has been staying home and taking care of our 3 year old son. She is usually on top of things....making sure the house is taken care of and having dinner ready when I get home and ironing my shirts. There are a few days here and there that I have had to come home from work and do the dishes or iron my shirt for work the next day. When I mentioned to her that she was letting some things slide she blew up and started cussing and hollering at me. What is up with that?
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@xtedaxcvg (3190)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Well, I guess it's maybe because she thinks you're eyeing those things that she failed to do. I was once out of work for 3 months, so I was the one doing all the household chores. When my wife started reminding me of the things I failed to do, I got I bit down-hearted. It felt like I can't even finish the only thing I was assigned to do. We talked about it and we compromised. I'll be a little less sensitive while she'll be a bit more sensitive.
@ronnyb (6119)
• Jamaica
22 Dec 08
Well I suppose she may be a little frustrated at being laid off .I think she probably feels that now she is nothing more than a helper or homemaker,not that anything is wrong with that.I know you too may feel disheartened by the fact you are the worker in the family and she is not supporting you but this will call for patience on your part in understanding what she is going through. Pleas be patient with her and be midful of her feelings in what must be a difficult time for her.I know that you have needs too and these must be met but just be patient
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I would agree with the two earlier responses. She is probably depressed and the loss of her job probably affected her more than you and her thought. Losing a job can have an adverse effect on a person's self-esteem. I know it makes sense that if she is at home, she have plenty of time to take care of things. It's not wrong for you to expect certain things done, however, maybe you can find time to talk to her and really find out what's bothering her. Maybe by being supportive of each other in these difficult time, you will be able to weather it and find a solution that will make both of you happy.
@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
19 Dec 08
She is probably very frustarated and depressed that she lost her job. Believe me, I know how that feels. It can be very depressing and you come home and started harping on her that she didn't do things for you? When my girlfriend lost her job I was very supportive of her andyou should be too. She had every right to blow up at you.
@CRSunrise (2964)
• United States
19 Dec 08
It's possible that she feels depressed that she's not able to work like she use to. Give her time, she'll come around. Just let her know that you love and support her, and you will stand by her through everything. She'll bounce back after a while.