kindergarten stuff or loyalty to a friend?

@dawnald (85135)
Shingle Springs, California
December 19, 2008 2:53pm CST
Saw this happen a few times over on Yuwie, a person asks their friends to delete somebody and (in some cases) they do. Unless this is a real serious thing (like one time a guy made threats against somebody's daughter and enough people heard the message that I believed the story was true), is asking a friend to delete another friend just plain childish? Or is it loyalty?
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
I suppose it would depend on what happened and if it was serious or not. I do not think I could do it though, but you never know the situations you get into, so I will leave it up to you. Maybe if you told the other what happened and they might automatically delete them anyway. Tricky one.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
We did have one situation on Yuwie where one member made a threat towards another member's child and several people that I trusted actually heard the threat, so I did delete that person, but in general I wouldn't do it.
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
O that was bad. I have not went on Yuwie after the virus, but I will as long as I do not get theatened, but then he's gone.
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@hildas (3031)
22 Jan 09
Yeah blocking is a good thing. I hope that guy gets sorted out. My brother can get nasty with drink in him, but everyone deserves a second chance though, so if he cleans up he might be a different person.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
21 Dec 08
Okay this is my opinion on the matter..I think it is childish to ask someone else to drop someone as a friend because they are having problems with them. You can tell others what they are doing. Fine but don't pull the "you need to stop being friends with so and so or I won't be your friend" routine with me. Because when people do that..I look at them and say see ya. I choose my friends, good or bad. Noone else can do it for me.
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• Defiance, Ohio
18 Jan 09
Yes, that is how I am. As I don't think it is right for others to dictate who someone friends are. Unless you are a parent telling your child to stay away from another. Even than I do have certain reservations.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Dec 08
yep me too...
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Dec 08
people who start telling me what I have to do and how I have to act and who I can be friends with are more likely to get themselves deleted!
@riyasam (16556)
• India
20 Dec 08
i do not think it is kindergarten stuff.your friend has every right to caution you.but i think it is entirely upto you to accept or reject your friends request.i have never been to this site you mentioned.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Dec 08
Yuwie? It's not a bad site for making friends. To make any money there you need to really refer a lot of people and support them and keep them active though.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
22 Jan 09
[i]Hi dawn, In my honest opinion, that is very childish! Everyone needs to be open-minded that if she doesn't like one person, she can't dictate all her friends to dislike the said person! Anyway, I know there are people like that really![/i]
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
22 Jan 09
Yep there are. I don't like being dictated to though and unless the person had a really good reason, most likely they'd be the one going bye bye!
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
18 Jan 09
I think that is just plain childish if your friend is having trouble with someone and your not then why should you delete them unless they are not a good friend of your's then that may be a different story.You have a great day.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jan 09
I think it's childish too unless it's really extreme circumstances.
@doddee (53)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I hate drama!...Esp childish stuff. If someone really made threats against someone I think it should have been reported and investigated and if the story turned out to be true the person should have been banned from Yuwie. If the person being accused was a real friend I would want to hear their side of the story. If the person wasn't a real friend then I might delete the person if my friend asked me to. I wouldn't delete a friend just because another friend asked me too. This takes me back to elementary school. I had 2 friends and they both wanted to be my best friend. I didn't see why we all couldn't be friends but they didn't see it that way and were always trying to find a reason for me not to like the other one. They were both my friend and I wasn't going to give up one friendship for the other. After awhile they respected that and I was friends with both of them until Jr high school when I moved again. It's just plain childish if we're talking a bout real friends here.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
23 Jan 09
yep and there has been enough drama over on Yuwie lately for a lifetime!
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
19 Dec 08
I guess if it is a serious enough issue it is ok but I wouldn't do it unless I thought it was a serious thing as I think for myself and don't do things just because people have a problem themselves in that area..
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Dec 08
I don't either. Just because two of my friends have a problem with one another, doesn't mean I have a problem with either one. I understand that there are going to be personality clashes.
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Sounds a bit childish to me but if like you said... it was about some serious matter then no i think there is no problem with it. Keep in mind that just because you were ASKED to delete someone doesn't mean you have to. It in the end is totally up to you. Personally i haven't gotten that except perhaps once on myspace and i just ignored it because it just seemed stupid to be asked/told to delete someone because they gave you a comment you didn't like. (Especially considering comments CAN be deleted...) So it depends WHY the person is asking to delete another person.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Dec 08
I was asked one time. And this person told me if I didn't delete the other person, he would delete me. Well it turned out that the person he was asking me to delete had made a really nasty threat against another person's daughter (7 years old) and several people that I trust had heard the threat. So I did delete the person. But I didn't do it without a lot of thought and investigation first.