Would you financially maintain your 30 yr old child ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
December 23, 2008 4:37pm CST
In most countries the legal age for which parents are responsible for a child is about eighteen years. Beyond that no parent is legally responsible for maintaining a child, however would you maintain your child for a period greater than the eighteen years ?.
If your answer is yes ,please state under which circumstances and if your answer is no please state why as well ?
Thank you in advance for responding ?
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9 responses
@suzzy3 (8342)
•
23 Dec 08
I think it all depends on the circumstances if they were ill, or out of work but actively seeking work then yes ,you would have to. Those would be the reasons I would financially maintain a person of 30.I think by that time education should be finished and life must start properly.To be quite nonest I would not want the burden at that age because you would not be a spring chicken your self by then,if the child has thrown away opportunites he would have to live with that himself,I would be thinking about dragging my husband off to an exotic location and spending quality time together if you get my drift.
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
i have a case at hand. i will surely support my youngest child for as long as he needs me. he is suffering from leukemia. he is unable to finish grade school even. until now, he is not fully cured of his illness at 21 years old by february 03.
he has a brother and a sister. both are gainfully employed having had finished college years ago.
i have made it clear to my children that even if i have made sure that i will leave behind a good earning farm if i pass this life, my youngest wll still need their support. this is because he does not need money only in order to survive, he needs to be cared for and well taken cared of at all times for the rest of his life.
this means that there are instances when a child will need to be supported and attended to regardless of age, it is for as long as the person is surviving.
@wifeofharvey (1156)
• United States
25 Dec 08
Yes, I would. Any of my family, siblings, children, grandchilden, can come to me for a place to live and food to eat. After that basic how much other help I would give would depend on the circumstances. If the person doesn't try to help themselves then bed and food is about all they would get. If they were sick and unable to work then of course I would do more for them. How the person acts about the help is also important. I would be much happier [and giving] to someone who helped our around the home than one who lay on the sofa watching tv.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
23 Dec 08
For me it would all depend on why a 30 year old child needs help. by the time a person is 30 years old they should be pretty will set and able to take care of them selves. They should have been responsible enough to not get them selves into debt and to be well settled in their own home. But I do realize that there are unforeseen circumstances that can't be helped. In those cases yes I would help as long as the child was also doing all he/she could to get back on their feet. In case of a long term illness There wouldn't be any question about helping.
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@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
when parents have children who needs to be supported even when they are old enough, it is painful on the side of the parents.
it is never easy to see a son or daughter, still needing parents support when they should be earning their own keep already at their ages. as always, parents want to see their children independent already at their youngest possible.
yes, we will give our support for as long as needed. we can never tell what circunstances will befall them which will require the parents to come and rescue them. but the parents will always be around to help, of course.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
I'm late in this discussion but still I would want to participate.
I am happy I have able to raise my son well. I think he will no longer be financially dependent on me by the time he reaches 30. However, if and when he still needs my help, I think I will still financially maintain my 30 year old child if does not have a good job despite his efforts to have one and hence needs my help. And I will also maintain even his family if he already have but still financially stable. I don't think my duty to help my son would end at any one point. For as long as he needs my help then I'd do. But of course I will not tolerate laziness, I have to see that he also is taking good effort to earn, otherwise, I'd teach him and encourage him to the best of my ability.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Hello ronnyb! If ever my I have a children and they are already 30 years old. I would still help them. I mean, I am their mother and whatever age they are I will still remain their mother and I will not stop helping them if they need my help. My motherhood wouldn't stop even when they are old enough because they are my children, my own blood.
@CRSunrise (2981)
• United States
30 Dec 08
It would depend on the reason for the need of help. When my children turn 18, as long as they are working, and going to school, they can live at home. As long as they're doing something.
Now, if they're 30, if they're sick, or laid off, or something, then yes, I'd help. If they're not doing anything, I'd help them some, but they're not going to a whole lot of extra help.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
31 Dec 08
If you say 30 years old, that is technically adult.
But you say 30 years old child...that means he or she
is not capable of taking good care of his needs. Then by all means
it's the parents duty to provide for that 30 years old child. And If
i had that kind of child, I will take good care of him or her.
@sugarbee4mn (17)
• United States
30 Dec 08
If my child were capable of making a living and could be self sufficient, but lacked the ambition to do so, no I would not financially enable them. But, as in my case, my oldest son had three strokes due to chiropractic manipulation at the age of 29. He could not take care of himself, but did not require being under 24 hour nursing care. I had no choice. The government provides NO assistance for adults who become disabled and cannot sustain themselves. (Yes, there is disability, but that takes years to recieve and then only after a lawyer is involved.) I would also help if they were laid off from their jobs and attempting to find other employment.
