Parents or Spouse???

Singapore
December 27, 2008 11:09am CST
If you are caught in a difficult position between your parents and your spouse with regard to the way of managing your household issue ( Both ways are feasible) , how will you handle the situation? Who will you take side? Just wish to hear your views.
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@bhanusb (5709)
• India
27 Dec 08
We love oue spouses.At the sme time we should respect our parents.In house hold issue we shall not take any side.Definitely parents will get preference.We shall have to come to a compromise.We should convince our spouses to repect our parents and accept their opinion or decision.
• Singapore
29 Dec 08
Hi, Yes we need to respect our parents and accept their opinion if we are are staying under the parents' household. But if you are staying on your own with your spouse, it will be your own household. therefore your spouse's way of managing the household is more important. I feel that it is important ot hear your parents' opinion but not follow totally to the extend that it is all about their preference. Cos you have your own household and you and your spouse have your own lifestyle, it shouldnt be affected by your parents. They should understand too, they dont get to choose your spouse for you, you chose on your own and therefore you need to work out your own household rules with your spouse.
@Galena (9124)
27 Dec 08
I would say that as your partner is a part of the household, their opinion is more important. as they are part of your household too. so you and your partner reacha joint descision, but take into account the advice of the parents. but you don't have to act on that advice just because they're you're parents. the choice is between you and your partner. you listen to the advice of others, be they parents, friends, etc. and make your own descisions between the two of you.
@laglen (19783)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I would take my spouses side. You are supposed to be grown up now and get to make decisions about your household on your own. you may not always do what please your parents, but you are now responsible for it. You and your spouse are now a team and must act accordingly.