Could a boy and a girl be best friends?

Philippines
December 30, 2008 2:24am CST
In my whole life, since I was a kid, I only have boy best friends and they are really close to each other with the same gender. Girls are also close to each other in the same gender, but I think when it comes to groups or pairs, there are only less inter-gender groups that I've seen. Until now in college, I only have boy best friends, and no such girl. I am also connected with lots of girls and they're also friendly, but seems to be they're not hanging with us, boys recently. I also want to have a girl best friend, but how? Can you give me tips on how to be close with them or how to be a best friend with a girl? Thanks!
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@cripfemme (7718)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Of course. My best friend all throughout high school was a guy. Nothing happened. We were just best friends. The two misfits of the group. I have a lot of guy friends even now. People who have known me forever. Their gender isn't relevant to me. They're my friends. I have no interest in their genitalia.
• United States
31 Dec 08
i agree, i have several male freinds, all could be considered my best friends, and nothing weird has happend( between us i mean, amongst themselves, cant say so much). were all close friends, and thats all well ever be, and i like it that way.
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@adhavgeek (252)
• India
30 Dec 08
Hi friend i have lot of boy and girl friends..i dont feel anything like that as you said here..main thing is whenever some boys speak to girls,they used to think they are different and we are different..just imagine they are same human being just like us ,having the same emotions,feeling,thinking etc..but the different is we are male and they are female..whenever we speak to girls we should be frank and bold in our words,we should not speak irrelevant words to them..never make fun of any girl,or never make any girl compare with other girl,they hate these things very much..always used to encourage them for small things..they like these things most..:)..whatever we speak,we should speak with a little smile..should not smile like a mad person..our speaking words should have funny words also..girls always like bold,funny,jovial person mostly..in simple you should speak with girls same like boys,just casually..All the best..lol.. thanks Adhavgeek
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• Philippines
3 Jan 09
Yeah know, but the thing is, I'm really shy to talk with the girls because they are really cute, beautiful and they would expect too much if they talk to a man like me.
@babyorchid (1739)
• China
30 Dec 08
I have many male best friends .Among one, who was born at the same day.month.year as me!! really very lucky! we are so good ..like we are a family, never argue, never angry, never had any conflicts..bcz both of us are precious our friendship..once we do have some differ choices. we all like to give up ourselves to meet the others. that's the secret. i think not only for differ gender friendship. but also for all friendship, all relationship.stands in other skin , and don't be selfish. consider others more.. that's the key.. best wishes
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• Philippines
3 Jan 09
Whoa! That's great! I hope somday I would have more female best friends. Thanks for your opinion.
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
Yes of course, but if you consider yourselves as bestfriends, you should be aware that in some time, you may be lovers. Lovers start from being friends and best friends. Presently, I have guy and girl bestfriends. All my secrets were revealed to them coz I trust them. Tips? easy, start from being a simple friend, then have chat always (never cut communication) and bang, she might share to you her problems, and even deeper problems. Your response will affect though but in anyway, that should start the closeness.
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• Philippines
3 Jan 09
I agree with your opinion. For some time, we might be best friends then later, lovers, if I treat her very well and love her.
@benzzzz (57)
• China
30 Dec 08
I think a boy and a girl can be good friends. For me, I have serval good female friends, we met each other when we were in the junior high school, and it's longer than 10 years. Every Chinese New Year we will meet each other and have a very happiness party together with some other boys friends, it's very happy. When I was in college, I also had some girls friends, we still get in touch with each other even if we are now working in different cities. True friendship exists in a boy and a girl. I don't know if there is a easy way to be a best friend with a girl, but in my opinion you just treat them truthfully and honestly, you will be good friends by the time passing.
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• Philippines
3 Jan 09
Thanks for the information, this will help me a lot to get closer to the girls out there. I wanna be close to them and be a gentleman to them, and at the same time, a good best friend to a girl.
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
Had you tried to approached them in a nicely manner?And have you ever tried to introduced your self with them, this maybe a good start with a good start conversation. :)As long as you are behaving properly, I don't see anything wrong with that :)
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• Philippines
30 Dec 08
I did that already, but somehow its not really enough for me, even I am a real gentleman and having a good behavior, they have no time to hang out with my group of boys, but we can talk when we're in the classroom.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
Yes, they most certainly can be. I have plenty of male friends and I have a boyfriend as well. I have friends of every gender.
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@Soccer21 (17)
• United States
31 Dec 08
I believe that boys and girls can be best friends. Infact I have one of each and both are very loyal to me. They get along quite find as well and we are able to hang out. All i would know for tips is just be yourself and your bound to make friends...who cares what gender they are a friend is a friend. You can do pretty much the same thing with a girl friend as you can with a guy friend. Best of luck to you. :)
• Canada
31 Dec 08
OFCOURSE because opposite always attract each other.
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@conbill (369)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Yes a girl and boy can be best friends. One of my best friends growing up was the boy across the street. We have been friends for 45 years now. We kept in touch when he moved out of state and throughout our marriages. We still call each other in good times and bad. I don't believe friendship has anything to do with gender.
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
31 Dec 08
i don,t think so unless he gay if they do sooner are later it could lead to something more.because if you around a person a lot you start having feeling for them even beening gay.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
Just be there for her and treat you would a sibling. If you want to be best friends and nothing more then don't make any moves that u think might give off the wrong idea.
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@Zanetti (71)
• China
31 Dec 08
yeah,i think it's existed. when one girl and two guys are good friends,the girl could choose one to be husband and the other to be best friend. how to do it? it's hard to say. you can have a try to ignore theirs' gender,and something will be easy.
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• India
30 Dec 08
both can be a good friend make me your friend to learn the art of being close and friendly with love and care
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
Sometimes,It can be but girls and boys are secretive.When I was a kid, I had a best friend that is a boy but we came to the point where I started to avoid him because he had this crush on me.He gives me the creeps so I don't talk to him at all. I think boys and girls are not meant to be best friends because it will just lead to lovers.
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30 Dec 08
My best friend is a girl. I guess finding best friends though is kind of like finding a girlfriend/boyfriend. You don't really go looking for it. It just happens :) Nowadays, there are many people that I spend more time with than her, but she's still my best friend.
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@cooiky (548)
• China
30 Dec 08
of course it is possible. it may be so when we are young. but when we grow up, as a boy , we try to make friends with girls.do not be shy. all needed is a start.
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@chiaeugene (2226)
• China
30 Dec 08
i think it is possible and i have some really nice good friend who are woman and with them i felt comfortable to discuss about my personal life and asked for their opinions and also how to solve some relationship matters and i think they are great. Some people may say that once a couple broke up, they cannot be friends but i do not think so. They can still be good pals and even closer than friends cos they had shared some intimate moments together and would understand each other better just that they are not suited for marriage or long term relationship.
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• United States
31 Dec 08
It is possible to be best friends with a girl. All to often I think people think that if it is a girl/boy best friend there has to be something else in the relationship. I think if you treat a girl with mutual respect and listen to what she says I think there is a bond that grows there. I have seen boy/girl relationships where the people have been best friends and that is all that it is.