My cousins best-friend and I messed around... situation...

@sameroad (3180)
United States
January 2, 2009 8:29pm CST
For news years i hung out with my cousin and a few other friends. my cousins bestfriend was there... i've known her for probably 9 years now i think. but we don't really know each other on a "personal" level..it's never been just the two of us. my cousin has always been around... well, new years eve night we were making out and feeling each other up.. and my cousin knows.. i asked him today if he was mad and he said he didn't care. the thing is... shes talking to me like she wants to get together now... and i don't know how i feel.. i don't know if i can be in a relationship with her and i don't want to ruin or make anything weird between me, her and our friends. since we have known each other for 9 years. we have the same friends... and she always has a girlfriend....and so i don't know if shes a player or if shes just always pick the wrong person??...but i do know i don't want to make things weird or ruin anything down the road... i mean, i just don't see us being in a relationship forever.. so what happens say 6 months to a year or whatever down the road and things just aren't working out and we break up? what happens then? she told me shes liked me for a long time but just thought that i didn't care.. but i didn't know she liked me... but i just don't know what to do.. i can't stop thinking about that night and what we did...i can't stop thinking about her and whens the next time i'll get to see her.. have you ever in been in a situation like this? what did you do? what would you do if you were in my shoes?
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@neuronic (242)
• Japan
5 Jan 09
Try explaining to her what's up. I've been in similar situation but I've told the girl that I am attracted to her only because of good looks. She accepted that and we had our adventures until she moved out from a building. So, if you are true to yourself, and everyone around you, things will be OK. If you keep on lying, well, you know this road already, I assume...
@savypat (20248)
• United States
3 Jan 09
I guess I don't understand, why should your cousin be upset? This is her best friend not a lover? Seems like your both adults and what ever you do as long as it doesn't hurt each other should be ok? Just make sure your are honest and there are no lies between you.
@timmons (120)
• United States
3 Jan 09
If your into the chick I say go for it. We only live once, and whats the worst that can happen if it goes bad? Tell her that you are into hanging out as "good friends" in order to test the waters and see how things go, if things arent cool you can go your seperate ways, no blood no foul.
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
3 Jan 09
You are worrying way too much! Life has a way of working things out, all by it's self. All you have to be is completely Honest, and this includes being honest with yourself. Every relationship begins with many uncertainties. Of course your new friend wants to be together with you because shes being honest with herself, and trusting her feelings. You need to do the same. Stop thinking of her as," your cousins best friend," and begin to think of her as a good friend of yours. Every body has experiences just like this, and most times they work out just fine.