Do you know any "blended" families?
By sweetdesign
@sweetdesign (5142)
United States
January 4, 2009 10:30am CST
I am not talking about interracial marriages here so don't shoot me down yet. I am talking about families where the parents have distinctly different religious practices.
I know of two families that have this and they have done very well with it. The first family is a Catholic/Baptist mix. The wife is a practicing Catholic while the husband is a non practicing baptist. She has raised all three of their children to be very devoted Catholics. The children are all grown now but all three were married in the Catholic church and two have children of thier own who are just as devoted as their parents were before them. they have nice sensible children. I lived "across the street" (we lived out in the boonies and it was quite a walk to thier house lol) from them for 6 years when we were all little kids (I was in the third grade thier oldest girl was 3 years younger than me) but have kept in touch over the years.
The other family is a Jewish/Christian mix. The daughter is a friend of my DD. The father is a non practicing Jew the mother was (she died in a car wreck a few years ago) a Christian. They now celebrate both aspects of their religions.
Do you know of any blended families?
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Jan 09
Yes, I know of many blended families. Mine is one of them. If you look at my kids. You will see two are white. The other, my teen is dark olive skin like me.
I am a Christian and serve my Lord, Jesus. My husband claims he believes there is God. But I am not sure.
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@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
4 Jan 09
I bet your kids are beautiful. Though this discussion had nothing to do with interracial marriags (I stated that right off cause I didn't want to get slammed) but interreligion marriages. Though I can see how yours sort of fits that too. I was married to a man that was raised with no religion whatsoever and he didn't call himself anything though he tolerated my beliefs. We are no longer married.
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@rusty2rusty (6751)
• Defiance, Ohio
4 Jan 09
Yes, I know you stated that. But you also asked the question and I answered it. My family is interchanable as my teen is a child from a previous married. Blended family means a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. If you don't want people to answer the way I did . Maybe you should rephrase your question next time. I never slammed you. I just answer you question in the subject line. There is a big difference.
I do feel my family fits your discussion. As it is hard to raise kids in a religion that your husband such as mind does not achknowledge it. Who thinks going to church is for weak minded people. It is hard to teach kids when a spouse is that way.
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@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Oh honey slow down I wasn't even directing the slamming statement at you just explaining why I explained what I meant by blended in the first sentence of mmy discussion. Please don't be upset i count you as a good friend here. I never meant to offend you.
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@kitttenskysong (676)
• United States
4 Jan 09
mopy mom and brother are LDS, me my sister and my other two brothers are both Pagan Wicca to be specific. If that counts
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@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Well they are definatly a different set of beliefs so I would say yes that counts. Do you get along well with your mom and brother?
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@kitttenskysong (676)
• United States
4 Jan 09
for the most part yes, we do have disagreements from time to time. but if i fight its usually with one of them who's pagan and then i get blamed for it. only once did the others defend me.
sorry slightly off subject. 
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@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
5 Jan 09
In India, there are plenty of such families. :) We have different blends such as Hindu/Christian, Christian/Muslim, Hindu/Muslim, and God knows how many. Usually, parents leave it to the kids to choose their respective Gods. Otherwise, they celebrate aspects of both religions. I think it is a bit complicated. :)
Cheers and happy Mylotting
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@aakay4u (799)
• India
4 Jan 09
yes i have seen quite a few of such blended families here in india.hindu and muslim,muslim and christian and christian and hindu families.in two cases i know the partner has been allowed to follow her religion and faith.they have kids and everything seems fine though initially things were horrible for them.
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@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
5 Jan 09
I guess I could say I was one. My husband comes from a die-hard Catholic family. I'm an atheist. I suppose I believe in a higher power, but it would come closer to what the Indians believed in. Nature.
When I got pregnant, we decided to send her to his church till she was 16. Then she was allowed to choose for herself.
I don't see a problem with it. They all worship God, they just use different names and have different rituals.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Yes, our minsiter. She is Lutheran where as her husband is a devoted Catholic. I think this would be a challenge as so did they, but they've been married several years - raised all their children and they're very content couple.
I think in terms of mixed religions in a family on party would have to be non practicing in order for it to work, but in our minister's case, they've been at peace with each other and their differences in church for many, many years.
Kind of a bright spot isn't it? If they can do it, why can't everyone else hold that much respect of the other. Just kind of makes you think alittle.
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@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
4 Jan 09
Yes it does. I have a great respect for those who make it work and do so very successfully! I think that if they can do it why can't we as a nation or world embrace each other in a blanket of acceptance instead of the hatred for something that is different from our own beliefs?
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