church
By kitikatz
@kitikatz (191)
Philippines
January 5, 2009 5:14am CST
my bf for 6 months now
is pushing me to go to church on Sundays.
He is saying sumtin like, if i want us to
continue seeing each other, I must start going
to church. I know he thinks its whats best for us
but if u were me, what would you do?
3 responses
@bestblackgirl (88)
• United States
5 Jan 09
OK I'll be honest with you, because I did the same thing too. He is sort of pressuring you to attend church because he really likes you and see you as being potentially his wife in the future. I see that he has the same mindset as me. Let me explain to you why he is doing that. When you guys have kids, he will most likely teach his kids the importance of church and spirituality. But with him attending church and you are not... The kids will be confused as to why mommy is not attending church. So it will feel like he is pulling the kids one way, and you are pulling them another. But with both of you guys going to church, there will be more of an unity in the family when all of you go to church AS A FAMILY.
So with that being said, I suggest you really talk to him about why you dont like going to church, your feelings toward church and how you feel he is forcing you etc. And ask him you need a better reason to attend church with him besides it's best for us.. And here what he has to say.. But i am positive (85% sure) this is why he is asking you to attend church on sundays
Hope this helps
@jesssp (2712)
• Canada
5 Jan 09
When someone says 'do this or I won't be with you anymore' it is not right. They are using your feelings for them as a tool to make you do what they want you to; it's controlling and wrong. If you truly want to go to church then by all means go, but if you don't want to, have no interest in going or feel uncomfortable with the idea at all then do not let him bully you into going. What he's doing isn't fair to you and his religious agenda doesn't have to be yours unless you truly want it to be.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
5 Jan 09
well to me him saying if you don't is wrong. he must have liked you before so why not now. but i think if you two meant in the middle and come up with something like,
ok you will go and see if you like it, then you can say ok tried. and if you don't care for it, then he should be at least happy you did try going to church.
if you don't like it, tell him i will go maybe once a month, or on specail things like hoildays.
he should be happy with that. if not then oh well his lost not your's
