I think many ladies regret having an abortion

@maximax8 (28558)
United Kingdom
January 10, 2009 10:30am CST
If a lady has an unwanted pregnancy she might feel scared and worried about how she would cope with having a baby. She might consider having an abortion but I think that it would be better if she thought about adopting her baby. Because abortion is legal in my home country she might feel that she is doing the right thing by aborting her child. After it she might feel relief but many ladies feel regret. Years later she might get depressed and remember the time her baby would have been born. I would never have an abortion but I respect another ladies decision. Do you think some ladies regret abortion? Should they have aborted their baby in your opinion? Is adoption a good alternative?
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8 responses
10 Jan 09
One of the reasons I do agree with abortion is that I feel there are too many unwanted children in the world that spend their whole childhood in a care home due to not being wanted and I think rather than do that it would be better for the unwanted child to not be put through that - I do think a lot regret abortion but, I also feel that a lot don't and yet I don't think people believe that it can be possible to have one and not regret it.
@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
10 Jan 09
i dont know about how they feel after abortion because i never have encountered yet.adotion is a good alternative if both side agree on it.
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@urbandekay (18312)
11 Jan 09
How can the unborn agree? all the best urban
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@bombshell (11266)
• Germany
11 Jan 09
i mean the couple who wants to adopt
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
11 Jan 09
I do think some ladies regret abortions, yes. I also think that some know they made the right decision. Everyone is different and so are there situations so I do think it is good that we have choice. I don't think that most women run to get an abortion without giving it much serious thought and also discussing the situation over with the father and/or others. There are some that do it without caring or thinking but they are a minority. Adoption is a good alternative for some depending on their situation. Even with that decision, many women experience doubt and guilt afterwards. It is really up to them to choose and live with the consequences of their choice. Regardless of your personal beliefs in the matter or what YOU would do, I guarantee you that if abortion was made illegal again that we would quickly go back to the day when abortions were being done illegal and not very sanitary or safe. The law was passed for a reason and I think it would be very wrong to change it back to the old ways. Perhaps more councelling in helping a woman come to a decision that she can live with would be a better solution.
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@xcammiex (272)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I very much agree with everything you said. =)
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
I think adoption is a good alternative. It would be the lesser evil, at least the mother didn't end the baby's life. The moment she gave up the baby for adoption, the mother also gave up her right to be the baby's mother. But i think she would feel less guilty if she has chosen to abort her baby. Then, maybe if the baby was adopted by a very nice and kind family she would not regret having given the baby up for adoption.If this is so, then the baby would grow up into a a better person.Which i think would help the mother feel less guilty and regretful.
@xcammiex (272)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Actually, more women regret giving their children up for adoption that having an abortion.
@ds6413 (2073)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Hello, I think some women regret having an abortion but it is legal in my country and no one else has the right to tell her what she should do. Will all these people wanting a woman to have an unwantd child pay for the medical bills,pay for the kids clothes or pay for food and shelter and pay for schooling until the child is able to do it him or her self? If these people want to give orders they should give at least a tenth of every paycheck to pay for child care for the unwanted children! Every situation is different for the mother to be. You can't put them in to the same catagory. Not all unwanted pregnancies end in abortion or even adoption.
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• Canada
11 Jan 09
I know I would feel regret if I ever had a abortion. But Then again if the time is not right then its just not right. I am on the birth control shot. So for me I am not prepared to have a baby. If I was to get pregnant while on the shot or pill Abortion would be a choice for me as adopting out would be so much hard for me. I would be regretting it big time but dealing with it knowing it was not the right time. When I am ready or willing or can afford a child then I would consider going off the shot and trying but until then I have my heart set on these step kids of mine and my animals. A baby is not for me today, tomorrow, this year and even next. But who knows.
@xcammiex (272)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I don't want to write this long epic saga so I'm going to try and just stick to the questions. Do you think some ladies regret abortion? Absolutely. I think the ones that do regret abortion are the ones who felt pressured to abort without being sure that's what they wanted or those that weren't fully informed about the ramifications of abortion. I'm sure there are other things. For example, if a woman who had an abortion later learned she could not have children, she might regret having an abortion. No matter what, I'm sure there will always be some people who regret it. Should they have aborted their babies in your opinion? Are we talking specifically about the women who regretted their decision? If we're talking about them, I would say it depends. If they made the decision to please others and it was not what they really wanted, then I think they shouldn't have done it. If they thought it was what was best at the time, who am I to judge them either way? Is adoption a good alternative? A good alternative to what? Abortion? No. It's not an alternative at all. Abortion relates to carrying to term or not carrying to term. Adoption relates to parenting or not parenting. I don't really see them relating to each other. Is adoption a good alternative to parenting? Generally, I would say no. I think the only time someone should give their child up for adoption is if they truly have no desire to parent, have no bond with their child. Being young, single, poor, etc is not a good enough reason to me, and according to the adoptees I've spoken to, it's not a good enough reason for them either.
@xcammiex (272)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Just wanted to add something. Statistically speaking, more women regret giving their children up for adoption as opposed to having an abortion.
@dodo19 (33685)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 Feb 09
I think that some women may regret their abortion. My father teaches medicine and he has mentioned that an abortion may lead to a lot of emotional ups and downs. I think that abortion is a woman's personal choice. I don't know every woman's situation. I don't think I'm in a good position to say whether a certain woman should or should not have an abortion. It's not my place to judge these women' situation. However, I do somewhat think that adoption is a better alternative.