I have to divorce my husband and he does not know.

United States
January 13, 2009 9:32pm CST
I love my husband to death but I have to divorce him...Why because his family does not know me and they do not like me at all. I was barely living with him 2 moths before we got married and had never met his mom and she cussed me out and told me to get out of his house that he owns. All I did was try to talk to her on the phone.His mom will do anything and his family to make me unhappy. My husband is in Iraq right now and I am going to file for a divorce tomarrow. I can not take no more I am living in a horror movie. I know that it is mean to file while he is at war but these people are crazy! My family treats my husband with the upmost respect, his family spits & craps on me. My husband does love his family and all of this is hurting him. I love him so much I rather divorce him then see the drama continue and hurt him more. Maybe I will meet him in another lifetime. I just feel like I have no choices.
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@Sporks19 (17)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I can sympathize with your situation, but filing for divorce just because you hate his family isn't fair to your husband. It esp. isn't fair to do it in that way! Think of how you would feel being at war hoping to just make it home anxiously awaiting any letters from home to get a sence of something normal. Only to have divorce papers come? Thats not right. I can understand your situation but honestly I would just not speak to his family you really have no reason to, he's overseas so its not like he would want you to go visit them with him or anything I would personally just ignore them. They obviously have issues anyway! Good Luck
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• United States
15 Jan 09
Hi panzerswifey, don't do that if you love your husband then tough it out, besides my goodness he is in Iraq and it would be devastating to be so far away, and very distracting to him. If it makes a difference, my mother-in-law and sister-in-law can't stand me, they have despised me from the day I met my husband. I wouldn't do it, wouldn't let his not-so-nice family win. I would reconsider, how long is his tour, I would tough it out so you both can deal with it together. That is just my 2-cents worth. Be wishes! I hope it works out for you and your husband. Be happy, be joyful, be safe, be strong! oohcute2340.
@megsgem (123)
• United States
14 Jan 09
What a sad situation....How people treat each other! Do you have to have to deal with her or can you go about your day without speaking to her? Don't divorce your husband...If you love him you must endure...stay away from her and if you have to move out....move out for awhile if you have to but to divorce a guy when he is at war cuz of his family when he cant do anything is kinda hard for a guy to swallow.
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• United States
14 Jan 09
How much do you think he loves you? Don't let anyone upset your life together. Sometimes, a break from the family is needed. Have you thought about moving? Sometimes conflicts resolve themselves when one of the people just refuse to fight. Perhaps you two could move and start out fresh somewhere else, where family will not get in the way. Eventually, they will accept you. Talk to your husband. I am sure losing you because of what they are doing is not an option for him.
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@sudalunts (5527)
• United States
14 Jan 09
I do not think you should file for a divorce while your husband is away. Are you living with his mother? I would suggest to you to break all ties with them, since they are not pleasant anyway. Live you life, continue loving your husband, and when he comes home, see what happens. He will be devastated, if he receives divorce papers, and that would only feed fuel to the fire with his mother. Please do not be too hasty.
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