5 and six year old boys and girls changing together

Canada
January 14, 2009 8:20am CST
when my daughter's class goes swimming the boys and girls change in the same room together. there are no stalls they just all stand in front of each other and change. i don't find this right. do you? there is a boy bathroom and girls and i think the male principle should take the boys to the boys area and the teachers can take the girls. what do you think should be done
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@Frederick42 (1968)
• Canada
14 Jan 09
In my opinion, this is a good an dunique thing. If boys and girls change dress in front of each other, then that means they have the experience of knowing each other's body and that will be a rewarding experience. Unfortunately, most of us adults are orthodox people and we do not like this.
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@tessah (6650)
• United States
15 Jan 09
i dont think its all that much of a problem. it isnt as if these babies are gangbanging in the changing room. i really dont understand the mentality of some people that have to turn everything into something "dirty" explain that to me
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• Canada
15 Jan 09
i think if it makes a child uncomfterble you shouldn't force them to do it. my daughter is embarassed and shy about her body allready. she shouldn't have to let people see her if she doesn't want to. i tought her not to let anyone touch her or anything that makes her uncomfterble she doesn't have to put up with it.
@tessah (6650)
• United States
15 Jan 09
you didnt mention that yer little girl was uncomfortable.. just that you found it wrong. maybe you ought clarify a bit better so people understand the situation clearer. of course yer daughter shouldnt be forced to get undressed in front of others if it makes her uncomfortable, but if was MY little girl, i wouldnt be asking the advice of others.. idve already put a stop to it the first time my baby was wigged out about it.
• United States
14 Jan 09
Oh, I agree with you 100%. They should be taken to separate rooms at that age. Come on, they're at an age where it's starting to be embarrassing for them and I can't believe other parents aren't complaining too. How does your daughter feel about this? Does she say anything? I know I wouldn't like it for my daughter.
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• Canada
14 Jan 09
she's a little uncomfterble cause she said one boy kept trying to look at her. and she barely wants me in the room anymore when she is changing
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• United States
14 Jan 09
Awww, that's a shame. I don't know, I just don't agree with it. I see from other responses that they feel it's alright but I can't find it in my heart to feel this is ok at that age. I think that's when they start realizing boys and girls are different and they are not comfortable with being undressed in front of them. That's why I asked you how she felt. I wouldn't want my daughter feeling uncomfortable in any situation. I guess if it didn't bother her it would be fine, but this is not something that she HAS to learn at five or six. Just my opinion, don't know if it's right or wrong, it's just the way I feel.
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@CRIVAS (1823)
• Canada
15 Jan 09
I personally don't feel that this is right. I know that they are young children but truthfully I agree with you, I think they should be brought to the respected bathrooms. I bet the girls don't exactly think it's a fun thing either. I would be embarassed and I don't care what anyone says.
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@regal_aeros (2606)
• Singapore
14 Jan 09
well, they are only 5 odd 6. According to my mum (who teaches in a childcare), finds that it causes more problems when the kids are aware that they are different. And there would be petty fights about this person touch me here and there. Some girls can blow things out of proportion. Moreover, if they are being taught about their differences, won't it be a hassle when you have to bring your boy to the toilet when your husband is not around? I mean if one has to enforce rules, don't bend it. Just let kids be as they are, and when they are older say 10 odd, would it be more age appropriate to teach them the difference in gender.
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@mychattime (1013)
14 Jan 09
At my sons school its the same, when he does PE, they all change together in the classroom, I don't see it as a problem, at the end of the day they are only 5/6 so young and innocent, when I was their age I was changing in the classroom with the other boys and girls. Times have changed a lot over the last 20 odd years and it is sad really, its as they get older they should change seperatley. My son also goes swimming every week and changes in front of boys and girls in the changing room as its mums who take their kids, that doesn't bother them so why should it bother me? They are kids that is all so let them be kids I personally feel if I started saying he shouldn't change in front of girls then that would make it an issue with him but while I don't mind or say anything he isn't bothered Think back to when you were at school, where did you change?
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15 Jan 09
Thats a bit different if your daughter is complaining, maybe you should speak to the school and just see if they can suggest anything!
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@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
15 Jan 09
Hey, Don't worry about that, they wont remember anything by the time they get older. I actually had to do that aswell when I was 5 years old, change with the girls at swimming. Do you think I remember anything? Of course not! Happy Lotting!
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@sid556 (31031)
• United States
3 Feb 09
At 5 you don't remember? Well, I remember being 5 quite clearly and I would surely remember something like having to change with a bunch of boys.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
15 Jan 09
I think there is nothing wrong with that it is good for kids to grow up realising there is nothing embarrassing with their bodies.
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• India
15 Jan 09
I will have to agree with you on this. From such an early age, it would not be advisable to plant the seed of curiosity in their mind. And since the genitals are distinctly different, there’s bound to be questions. I think you parents should take this up with the principle and get something done about this.
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@subha12 (18472)
• India
15 Jan 09
i agree with you. I think they should be taken to separate rooms. otherwise now the children are matured beyond age.
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@pujagupta (102)
• India
15 Jan 09
I think you are right. The boys and girls should be provided separate changing rooms. The difference should me made from the very preliminary level. Now a days we see so much of adulteration. This kind of things like common changing rooms will increase these things.
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• China
15 Jan 09
I think they should be separated in the different rooms. 5-6 age boy and girl in no longer the little kid any more, they had better separated from each when they change. I think they are old enough to konw the different between boy and girl, since they were children we should told them boy and girl shouldn't change together. That is better.
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@Tinna_He (300)
• China
15 Jan 09
If it happened to my daughter ,i think i can't accept.The five or six year old is a age that they can realize the different of body of boy and girl.Maybe the teacher can let the boy change firstly.
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• Canada
15 Jan 09
i think you should file a complaint!! That it really unexceptable.
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• United States
15 Jan 09
no they should not be changing in front of each other at all. my 6 year old is at the point he realizes his extra member. he is starting to act out sexually so i know that he is not alone on this. I would be so angry is i found out this was happening at my school. have you talked to the principal about this?
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@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
15 Jan 09
I also don't think this is right. I think even boys shouldn't change while his friends can see him. I find that silly. If I have something personal, then why do I have to show it to everyone? I had that idea when I was a child too. And about the difference, it is even worse. The kids are fragile and they can have some different effects after all those things.
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@cynthiann (18679)
• Jamaica
14 Jan 09
All I can do is relate my own personal experiences with my 3 sons and daughter. I found that by the time they were nearly six they became more conscious of their bodies and wanted privacy. This happened with all of them. It is natural for children to develop shymess at this age and it is not a bad thing for them to develop either. Call me old fashioned but in my opion they should be separate facilities.
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@sid556 (31031)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Is that even legal? I wouldn't like it if I were a parent. By age 5, my girls were learning to be modest and the importance of respecting their bodies. With all that goes on in the world, it is important to teach them about this stuff. Stripping naked in front of each other is just plain wrong....I'd be doing some loud complaining. It just would not happen....I would not allow my daughter to participate until this was changed. Where I live...states.....that would be illegal.
• United States
15 Jan 09
I dont agree with it....if it was my son changing in a room of other girls I would not be happy with it. He has a younger sister and he knows the difference, but I still think that seperate rooms is necessary.....at this age they are very impressionable and that could be a bad thing for them right now.