January 14, 2009 7:46pm CST
I have a friend that has recently become someone I no longer wish to speak to. I don't want to be mean but they just plain p!$$ me off now. I don't know what to do, I have told them about what makes me mad and they contiune to do it regardless. What can I do now? I would love some input. How have you terminated a friendship? Have you ever had to do this before? Let me know people, I'm at a loss.
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15 Jan 09
I understand your predicament and say that it is really not easy to be human. When you try to be nice and please everyone, you will end up pleasing no one and in the end, you will only land yourself in trouble. What you can do is to practice patience and tolerance. Others will soon realize that you are a no nonsense person and in return will change their attitude towards you. Those who can maintain cheerful during stand off time are admirable and a source of inspirations to others. They can avoid conflicts by seeing the lighter side of things. A wise man can avoid a quarrel by answering jokes and remarks directed at him with another joke. When people humiliate us we must learn how to face them gently by good humouredly turning the joke against them. There is no need to severe your friendship with your friend,she might not realize her mistake and by showing your good nature she might treat you decently with her actions and words. Should I say this is a test of your patience!
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15 Jan 09
Crivas, hello there again. I think with your situation, I've done it too many times over. Perhaps that's why I don't have long lasting friendships nor can I find someone special like that. Oh yeah, I've terminated lots of friendships, marriages and other such things. Life is too hard to have people who will just weigh you down with it. When doing it face to face, it's harder, I think. Especially since the other person didn't want the relationship to end. Boo hoo. I'm just up front and honest. But, if it was done by someone who did or didn't do something I liked, I had to examine how it affected not only myself, but my children as well. If mommy's unhappy, then the person isn't worth it. But, I've flicked people out of my life...and somehow they came back. Once or twice it was for the better, but eventually I cut him loose again. This time, it was for his own sake. *Pleiades