Mommy or Daddy, such and such hit me!

It's always tough with more than one child when it comes to how they act towards one another. I have three children myself, ages 10..9..and almost 3. Very tough! My 10 and 9 year olds act just like my 3 year old most of the time. The two older ones are boys and then my 3 year old is a girl. They have never hit her, but they do tell on her a lot and now that she's in daycare she likes to tell on them to...usually just to say they've done something even when they haven't. Children closer in age though, you just have to tough it out and seperate them from one another. The more you seperate them and they realize they don't want to not be around the other person they usually do better towards one another. Find stuff for them to do together, with you, that way you can watch how things are going. Do stuff with them seperately as well. Children need to know that they are special in their own way and that no matter what you always have time for just them. It gets easier as they get older, but it's still key to keep these things up. good luck and God bless

I was brought up as an only child myself. I have two children, a girl and a boy. I could never understand why they were the way they were. I thought it was suppose to be fun to have a brother or a sister. My daughter was about 9 years old and was beating up her brother, he was 7 at the time. They have a difference of 1 and a half years. He was not aloud to tell anyone that she was beating him. I accidentally heard them , when something did not sound right. I had heard that a couple times before, but they always let me now nothing was wrong. This time I heard him cry so sadly, I picked around the corner and saw my daughter hitting my son.She was beating him! This time I new what was going on. I asked my daughter to come to me alone. She came, and told me they were only playing. I send her away and asked my son what was going on. He said, nothing. There was nothing going on , we were just playing. I looked at him and stared at his eyes and he started to cry. Asked my daughter to come back and she thought her brother had told on her and said: He was not aloud to say anything!!! Oh my, I was shocked! And angry, I smashed the door with my fist and almost went through it. I did not look at my daughter anymore, because I did not want to lose control. I told her to pack up some things, and go to grandma and grandpa. They only lived 5 minutes away, not even 5 min. I called my Mom and told her, I have to calm down. It was better for my daughter to leave the house. Two weeks later she came back home. After this she never did that again. I now it sounds drastic, but it is better than losing my temper on my daughter. I was really angry, she could have killed him. I still don't understand how she could act like that. She is now 23 and my son is 21. When we talk about it now, she does not remember. She only remembers the bad mommy who send her to live with Grandma and Grandpa. Of course. hahaha! But, they get along great now. Take care.

My almost 2 year old is always beating up on her older brother who is 9. I am always hearing him yelling because she is hitting him, biting him, scratching him, or throwing toys at him. I usually make her say she is sorry and then keep them separated for awhile.