Daughter-Mother Drama Questions

@ShellyB (5244)
United States
January 21, 2009 10:24am CST
I have noticed there is a lot of drama in my home cause between me and my daughter. It is based on nothing. Just yesterday, my daughter was moody, and continue to get even more moody before she went to sleep. Our last discussion of the day was me not answering her they way she wants me to or not answering her at all. I will not even say what it was about, except that she is over sensitive and I did not wanted to say I know, cause I don't know. So how do you handle your drama with your daughter or mother? By making more? By giving up?
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@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Unfortunately at that age it's quite normal for her to be acting out and getting her feelings hurt and being oversensitive. I was awful when I was seventeen, sometimes to extreme. My mother and I would argue all the time and I would just want to get out of there. 12 years later, what was I thinking? Lord, I'd love to go back and be a teenager and live at home again. I thought it would be easier to be on my own. She'll soon notice that being at home wasn't so bad after all and the two of you will get closer and her feelings won't be on her shoulder all the time. Right now she is dealing with all the puberty stuff and for females it's between the ages of 16 and 19 that their moods get all screwed up for some reason. Good luck and God bless
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
23 Jan 09
Thanks for reminding me. My daughter is a good kid, she is just mouthy and her feelings come first. I am hoping things will improve, I am rather hoping they will change now but I see I have some time to wait. Thanks for your response, it is helping me more than you know. Thank you again.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
21 Jan 09
Most of the time I chuckle at the drama between the two of you. Yesterday was no exception. When she asked me to support her and I did not then I really had to laugh when she said "fine" in that godawful teenager tone and went and covered her entire body under her covers. There are way too many days when our child has a bug up her rear. I have no idea what her problem is or how to solve it
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jan 09
I do not know what to say to her anymore, all I know is that I do not want to tell her what she tells me to tell her cause well, if she was in my shoes, she just would not do it you know. She would basically tell me I am a controling freak or outright tell me so.I am sure this is a day at a time thing tho.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
21 Jan 09
If she were in your shoes, she'd be so much happier, especially those shoes you own that drive her crazy because you won't let her wear them
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
22 Jan 09
You so crazy, I am kinda going nuts now, I hope she does not see this discussion, hehehe
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
21 Jan 09
My daughter doesn't live with me she has her own place. She does call often and sometime we have a little dramatic conversation. Mostly if it something she doesn't want to hear she will not call me because she always say that I speak whatever is on my mind. And that is the truth, I don't try to sugar coat it, I will tell her how I feel and let it go at that. I can always say that I will tell you whether you agree with me or no. My way of handling the drama is to tell it the right way but tell it. You have done your part and you can be at peace with yourself. My sister tells her son how she feels about certain things. After that she will say now I feel better and what happens now is on you. He is also grown up and living away from home.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jan 09
You have good points and I have done that sometimes, tell her what I think. But it seems that what I think if it is not what she thinks or knows, or thinks she knows that I am not taking her side, if this involves a teacher, no matter how right the teacher is then I am taking the side of the teacher. And then now and then, I am just tired of her drama. I feel that my daughter does not respect me. I am hoping this too shall pass tho.
@palonghorn (5486)
• United States
21 Jan 09
you didn't say how old your daughter is, but if she is pre-teen or teen age, get ready for more before it's all over LOL. I raised two daughters........and survived to tell about it, and by the way they survived it too LOL I usually would just state it how it was going to be and walked away. Arguing with them will you get you nothing but a headache.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jan 09
She is 17 and the drama would probably continue for many years. lol
@bunnybon7 (37425)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Jan 09
i've found there is lots of drama between most mothers and daughters. i say most because i have 2. grown. when the oldest was a young even before she was a teenager family members set up a situation that caused us to never get along. since she married and left home, we get along ok but cant stay around each other over a week at a time. i know its sad and usually its me that begs forgiveness when we clash. but my other daughter (theres 8 yrs between them) its always been almost like we are twins. even when we argue, which is very seldome,we make up in 5 mins. very strange. i love them both dearly and they get along great. they love each other dearly.