Get A Life Of Your Own!!!

Could You Resist That Face??? -  This is a pic of my great-nephew when he was younger.
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
January 24, 2009 8:19am CST
Before you bring another one into the world. Maybe we just need to say this in a way that the young and old alike, can understand. If you don't have a husband and a way to financially support a child, keep your legs closed, both of you. When you do things any other way than what God told you to do, you are asking for trouble. Yes, you are going to have trouble either way, but with God, you know that everything is working together for your good. People keep doing things the way that they choose and then when things don't turn out right they want to blame God. And he is saying, if you had done it my way in the first place, if there was any problem you could pray. But now, you are feeling all guilty and don't want to pray, cause you know you were wrong. Most people know the right thing to do, but they choose to do what they want to do. This is one of the main reasons we are having such a big problem with the abortion issue. And then people like Barack Obama come along and make it easier to not take responsibility for your sin. I had never dealt with the subject of abortion, until my niece got pregnant at seventeen. Exactly one month after graduating high school. It was devastating for the family. She is the oldest of them and we have big dreams for her. She is extremely bring, but has behavior problems. The day her pregnancy was confirmed, the doctor suggested that she get an abortion. I could not believe it. I told my sister that if she got an abortion, I would never speak to either one of them again. But then, I started to really think about abortion and how it is so easy to just march down to a clinic, kill your child and get on with your life without missing a beat. I still did not want her to get an abortion, but I started wishing that she would miscarry or something. I just wanted her to have her life back. The baby will be three years old in March. My sister is so in love with her grandson that it is nauseating listening to her talk about him. She was a strict mother, but has broken all the rules for him. It's just not worth it to end the life of an unborn child. You have to live with that for the rest of your life. You can't undo that, if is final. You can not say, alright, I've changed my mind, I want my baby now. I know that things are going to be much easier as far as getting rid of your child, but just because something is easy, that does not make it right. Give your baby a chance at life, just as your mother did for you. If you trust God he will make a way for you and your baby to survive. My niece is in college and right this moment she is studying abroad in South Africa. There are so many more options than abortion, check them out. I want a baby more than anything in the world, but I am not yet married. Whenever I hear about abortion, it just breaks my heart to hear of these precious babies being taken out as if they are nothing.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Jan 09
In many ways I can relate to and agree with your thoughts. Still, I think they are a bit harsh. Everyone's circumstances are different and it is not our place to judge them. Choosing abortion is NOT an easy decision for most women! Ask any woman that has been caught in such a situation. I have been in that spot....i chose to keep my child and trust me...it really makes you stop and think...not a bad thing. I also have friends who have chosen abortion. Again...it was a tough choice. They did not just go...oh well, I'll just get an abortion and be back to normal. It is not as simple as you paint it...not at all. Whatever choice they made would have had a great impact on their lives and the life of the child...possibly other children they had. I am glad that all worked out for your niece but not everyone is in her situation. As for Obama's decision to lift the ban...I do agree with it to a point. Family Planning centers offer many other services beyond abortion. They offer birth control, councelling, cancer screening, std testing, etc to women and families that otherwise could not afford such services. Those services were being forced to shut down under the current law which refused any aid to facilities that offered abortion or directed patients to abortion clinics. Without that service, there would be many other unwanted pregnancies, etc. it was a bad plan. I do agree that we should not pay for abortions. I think that funding should be available but the clinics should be held accountable and the fundings should not be allowed to finance abortions. I think that lifting the ban is not the answer but the ban itself was wrong also....compromise is needed. Making abortion illegal is not going to end abortion....it'll just be done illegally and probably unsafely.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Jan 09
That is another term that makes my blood boil, "Unwanted Pregnancies." I like the term, "If you lay, you pay," a whole lot better. We are making it too easy for women to be careless and just end their plight. If you think what I said here is harsh, check out what I said before: I do not care if they have to do abortions illegally. If the women die, too bad. If the baby does not deserve to live, neither should they. Do you know that there are many people who use abortion as a form of birth control. Some women will continue to have abortions until they can't anymore. My niece was not in any special situation. We raised her to trust God, but we let her know that abortion was not an option for her. We also made sure she learned from this mistake. But we have enough love in my family for any child. We do not believe in abortion. When it is not an option, you are forced to do whatever else you can.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Jan 09
to each his own. You are entitled to your opinions.
@mariefe18 (663)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I am 24 years old and I have a 5 month old baby, I am not at all married but I have my own work. I'm not asking any support from the father of my baby. I manage everything all by myself and I am very proud to say that even though things in my life got complicated God has given me the most precious one in my life. Its not easy at all being a single mom but I can say that everything has a reason and I think this is God's way to keep me stronger. I never blame God for the things that happened in my life rather I pray to Him that I would lift everything up to Him and I know He has something worth for me. Every time I see my baby everything just lightens up and I know that we can live this together. I have uploaded my picture and my baby's picture if you want t see it. Thanks for sharing. Have a good day.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Jan 09
That is the key, with God all things are possible. Nothing in life is easy, but with God on our side, we are sure to make it. Keep believing that God will bring you through and he will never fail you. God bless and keep you and your family.
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Hi Rozie! Thanks for the BR. Its true God is our only way and He really works in mysterious ways. Instead of complaining why not lift it up all to Him all our burdens right? Although I admit that I sometimes question the situations I am in yet after praying He really answers and when I need something He really provides. Thanks again for the heart warming words. Have a good day and God bless you and you're family too.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
3 Feb 09
I think that education is important in telling teenagers the right way to live their lives. Some of them like to get a boyfriend and they get too serious when they could be just going out once a week to the movies. They should wait until the get married when the are older but man have the desire get into a serious relationship. When your niece got pregnant at seventeen you wondered if that would badly affect her future. I am so pleased that your niece has gone to college and that your family love her three year old son. I have just come home from a trip to South Africa and it is a lovely country. I believe life begins at conception. Miscarriage is sad and abortion is horrible because it is on purpose. I wish the babies are all adopted to loving families not aborted. I would never have an abortion.
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
30 Jan 09
i am totally agree with you. i think abortion is a great murder. if God sent us that baby He will take care of him and of us so that the baby have what he needs for living. there can be found solution for every special case. even when a 11 years old girl is pregnant, there can be find other solution, abortion is not a solution. abortion is the real begining of the problems, cause is a very great sin, and a huge fault and a big pain that never will disappear. so abortion should be illegal.and also to educate our children to refus emaking this when they grow. we should learn them that life begins on the conception and that abortion means to kill un innocent unborn baby, their baby
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
Hi Rozie dear! It is sad when leaders and most of us think this is a better way and it is helping mankind but I guess, we all think differently and how we perceive the babies. We were all given the gift of free will and the burden and responsibility that goes with the gift, and with that I know whatever we decide on we will be answerable for those one day. Just a thought! Take care and have a nice day! lovelots..faith
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Jan 09
Alright, that is fair enough.