how do you know if your man is cheating on you???? please help me find out.

Philippines
January 25, 2009 11:31pm CST
am starting to think that my man is cheating on me. now he become more stranged. i never felt like this before, doubting the one i love or get puzzled in your relationship. he changed a lot... i love him but its hard to trust him.
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@cherriemae (3375)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
well, in my experience, if your bf has no time for you, he dont even care your effort..he really changed alot.. no sweetness, lots of troubles in your relationship..and once i ask him about the girl and he's that defensive in answering and he will not look straight to your eyes, i can conclude that he's cheating on me.. it hurts a lot but we can't do about that, it's that his choice..
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• Philippines
26 Jan 09
well, its something that you been thru a lot of pains. hehehehehe pag sure che.... salamat...
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• Philippines
26 Jan 09
sure kau ko oi..hehehe.. fall out of love na ako no! well, i'm happy being single again..charmos ginamos..
@Corimore (249)
• United States
26 Jan 09
trust your instincts. My first husband cheated on me and I knew it before I KNEW it. I suddenly noticed subtle little differences in his behavior and then bigger ones. I had a feeling something was not right. I even had an idea who it was he was cheating with. I was right and he was cheating. First ask him for the truth then tell him why you feel this way. If you love him and want to work it out Listen find out the truth. If you want to trust him then do but if you truly believe he is cheating than tell him you think he is and if he is lying then you will find out you will be checking messages on phones on line you will be watching him because you really feel he is lying. If he is not lying he will do everything in his power to appease you and make you see he is trustworthy. If he is cheating then honestly,honey, he wasn't worth your time in the first place.
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
thanks... for the advised. i will talk to him tonight and to know the truth even if its hurt. i have to accept it. coz the more i deny it the harder to move on. God bless.... ms. corimore
@Corimore (249)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Remember though it wasn't your fault he cheated and it wasn't the other womans fault she is single and can do whatever with whomever she chooses. It is his fault,if he couldn't be honest with you and tell you how he feels or he just wants to have his cake and a little pastry on the side then he wasn't the right one for you and he is just standing in the way of the true soul mate that is waiting in the wings. Let go now take care of yourself for a while and the right man will come knocking when it is time. Love yourself (not in the nasty sense) first then you will have room for the right man tolove you.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
I've been through that and all I can say, I wished I didn't find out. Talk to him straight. Tell him that you feel that he's different and you love him so much. But also do not cling. Tell him that if he wants to leave, you won't be in his way, so just tell him to be honest. Remember even if you do everything in your power to keep him, or even force him not to leave you. Sooner or later you'd just be wasting your time because nobody can force love. Be strong, listen to him. Perhaps he has changed because you have done something too. Perhaps nagging alot? Stressing him out? or perhaps he no longer sees you as someone mysterious or someone appealing. Check yourself and try to be better. Just remember, don't beg. Have respect for yourself. And at this stage, do everything you can to make him miss you. And if he shall leave, let him realize that you're the one that got away. So don't let him leave happy to leave you. Good luck! You'll know sooner or later.
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• Philippines
26 Jan 09
i cant even remember i've changed, nagged at him or stressing him out. ive been submissive to him.i do/give whatever he wants and needs. maybe i think its too much. i plan to visit my parents this weekend, how i wish he will miss me. thanks......
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
Perhaps you've been to lax too. They also like a girl who is a little perky too hehehe.. well, I hope it's all in your head though. Try to talk to him rather than guessing. Remind him that you're his baby too. Good luck!
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
well that is really a tricky question...when I was in a 4 year relationship that was to my ex I encounter one that I caught him cheating on me...of course...first impression of a girl...so,so furious,mad, mixed emotions,dialoges of "how can he do that to me""why did he hurt me so bad...etseterra,etseterra..and the last thing you knew your at the bar, or in your friend's house having drinking spree talking your heart out...crying and anything...right???after I have done that, and done worst...hehehe...O come to realize that...if he can do it why cant I....I have a funny revenge of watching him closely,every text that he receives,every gesture that he makes, I examine him as a specimen...And then tried to talk to him so intently...that if he really is not happy woth our relationship just tell me...i cant pretend that I dont love him but the feeling of your focus to me is notthe same as before and the incling of falling out of love got me to ask him he truth...he said that he has somebody...at least you find out yourself not with a situation that you cant bare...
• Philippines
26 Jan 09
thanks for the advised. he will wait for my sweet revenge. hahahahahaha God bless
@siomaiii (238)
• Philippines
27 Jan 09
I think you should acknowledge your instincts and pay attention to the changes you've noticed. Talk to him that something has been bothering you. But make sure that you don't sound that you are accusing him of something. Ask him the reasons of the sudden changes, just to clear things out. Do it as calmly as possible, although it would be difficult but it really helps. After all, it is better to know the truth behind the changes than to keep yourself believing that everything is perfectly fine. You can do it djcharlie! Be strong!
@celticeagle (118286)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Jan 09
I think if you don't trust him there is a reason. Either you have some serious issues or he does. Are you over pocessive or is there a past that you can't forget. You can go to www.cheaters.com and read through that site and see if there are some healthful hints there for you to go by. Good luck!
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• United States
26 Jan 09
I'd say that if he's suddenly acting strange and saying he must work late or something and you eventually find out he wasn't actually at work but out with other people or something is a giant red flag that something may be going on. If his behavior towards you changes from open to more secretive and if he gets defensive when you bring up the fact that you feel something is going on, I think that is another red flag.
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@jstmarfz (1499)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Instinct sometimes may be true and sometimes may not. Though you felt something weird against him, you should observe him. Don't just judge him without showing any proof. But then, you can confront him by asking or telling him what you feel. It is better to let him know. With that, he is aware that you are not ignorant about things happening.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Hello DJ Charlie. They say when a partner gets highly suspicious about his significant other, there's some basis to that. Why not raise that question and see how he responds. Men's behavior is not as complex as women so you'll be able to figure out. Find out also what makes him feel this way. Has he been mentioning names of office mates or female friends, or he is just busy or perhaps he has some personal problems he doesn't want you to know and be involved in. You know your man. It'll not be good to be so doubtful.
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