Cleaning dishes

@bamakelly (5194)
United States
January 28, 2009 10:45am CST
Have you ever had a time where you had a lot of dishes to deal with after a meal and decided to walk away from them in hopes that your husband might help out and pick up the dish washing duty for that night? And has it ever happened?
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7 responses
• United States
28 Jan 09
Yes for sure. If he is home to eat with us, since I cook he cleans up the mess. But if he is not home then i do it. I do not see anything wrong with a man being domesticated and helping out. After all isn't marriage about compromise?
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Thanks for your response. I don't see anything wrong with a man doing some help cleaning either. After all it does take two in a marriage. It is good to help each other out whenever possible. Being married is something where two people need to be compromising and make sacrifices once in a while. Take care swietekfam.
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
i can never count on my husband to do this for me during the times we were still together...he is such a lazy creature. when my children had gotten to be old enough to do the chores at home, this is the time that i can rest from this kind of housechore. usually, they volunteer for clearing the table after we have dined. this all goes through with the cleaning of the kitchen and washing of all those dirty dishes. i am so blessed with very loving and helpful kids, bamakelly.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
17 Feb 09
That is a shame to hear that you didn't get the help you probably hoped for. Thank goodness for the children. They are so wonderful to have around. And I don't mean just for the cleaning. You must have really made an impression on them raised them well. It is a wonderful thing to have children and I cherish my little five year old every minute I have him in my life. I just want him to grow up and remember that he had a good life and loving parents. That is all that matters. Take care.
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Yes I have done that on occasion but learned very quickly that my husband won't do the dishes until I have a fit telling him I'm overwhelmed with the housework. So usually it's just easier to do the dishes immediately. I can ask him to do something else and I feel better that the kitchen is manageable.
@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Isn't it a shame that you have to go to the extreme of having a fit so your husband will help you out? A husband really should appreciate more of what a wife and mother does. We housewives do a lot of work and I know that I don't work outside of the home but I want to say that I do have a job. Because it isn't always easy.
@deejean06 (1953)
• United States
18 Feb 09
It is a shame that I have to be on the edge to get some help. The problem is that we both work. I totally understand the need to come home, kick off your shoes, and relax. However certain things must be done: laundry, dishes, general cleaning, etc. I know he appreciates me on some level, I just wish he'd do more in terms of helping before I turn into a raving lunatic.
@alharra (507)
• United States
16 Feb 09
I would never do that because there is no way my guy will do any type of housework. He thinks since he goes to a job he shouldn't have to do anything at home.
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@bamakelly (5194)
• United States
17 Feb 09
That is a shame that your partner won't do things like help with the cleaning. I just don't buy the fact that if someone works and the other one doesn't then he is exempt from helping at all. As far as I am concerned, if you help make the mess you should at least take some part in cleaning it up. That is just my way of thinking. Thanks for replying.
@alharra (507)
• United States
17 Feb 09
I wish he saw it that way too. At this point take care of three kids, my fiance, my Mom, my step-dad on the weekends and myself. And I'm the only one doing anything in a house that is not even mine and in which I have no say in anything at all. I will admit it is not as clean as it could be but I feel like what's the point since it's not mine and no one will help. I feel like a darn maid- without the pay.
• United States
17 Feb 09
yes, I have dreamed that dream, and it was pointless. But I do think that I am fortunate because my husband prefers to vacume and wash laundry. It is not such a bad trade.
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• United States
14 Feb 09
Hi bamakelly, Yes, my husband helps me with the dishes all the time. Take care...
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
Actually I have given this chore to my children. Someone washes, someone else dries, and another will sweep the kitchen and they rotate tasks each week. But I do all the pots and cooking stuff before hand, so they only really have the plates and cups and stuff. So once supper is done I clear the table and they do the rest. Considering I do all the cooking for every meal, laundry, all other dishes, and chores around the house and work and be everyone's taxi and they actually get money at the end of the month for it too, it isn't much to ask for.