Am I being irrational?

It sounds like the novelty of the relationship is wearing off. I have a theory that relationships in high school will end once the novelty wears off unless the people can get along after the "lovey-dovey" phase of the relationship. It looks like you guys gave it a good go at 11 months. It can take a lot less time than that. As for your girlfriend, I don't know what game she's playing. This is the part where you learn why communication is so important. It may feel cheesy to get up-close and personal and ask her what's going on and where your relationship is headed, but sometimes you've got to do it. It sounds to me like she is either bored with your relationship, is looking for a way to make you jealous, or is looking for a way to tell you that she wants out. If it's the latter, it's possible that all 3 are true. It could just be the first two. Either way, you need to ask her what's up. Tell her if she wants to hang out with all these other guys, then she can do it without you in her life or she can ditch them and spend more one on one time with you. Either way, it's going to take a confrontation and a discussion. Welcome to adult relationships. She might not even realize what she's doing. The bottom line is that you've got to ask her, though.

Coming from a girls point of view and this is just something that I would do personally...I don't think she is cheating on you. I think she has guy friends that she is scared of you getting mad at what she says to them. I have gay guy friends and i say "i love you" to them...just because they are just like a brother to me. They are easier to get along with and girls can really talk to them about anything because they listen and their not like a normal guy (no offense to you!) I think what you shoul ddo is just be patient with her and see what she does, if they are gay you have nothing to worry about. Maybe she just wants to hang out with new people and see how things work out. 11 months of always being together gets old and some people like change. Don't take it personally. Im sure she still loves you and Im sure she isn't doing anything intentionally to hurt you. Like I said just give it some time and don't think she is cheating. I think she just found some friends that understand her. Maybe she wants to open up to you but doesn't know how. Talk to her about it and see what maybe you can do to make your relationship better if you want to keep her as your girlfriend. Everything should be just fine though, just don't worry so much. Good luck and I hope this helps!

umm it is hard to say on this you need more observation. but first of all trust her.. to stand on your side and think, i would be like you too, i think that is a normal respond at least at first. if i were you, i would join her to the beach and spennd sometimes with her guy friends as well. maybe it was all misunderstanding. so it is good to clear things out i guess.. i do not think that she is cheating on you.. cause she invited you to come along..she is just spent more time with her friends.. if that other guys were chasing after her she probably just enjoying the chase.. cheating? not really but could be...

Well I can see this being one of two things. One she's either really starting to like this guy and it may lead up to cheating or the end of your relationship, or, she is just afraid of what you think about her relationship with guys that she feels are great friends. Personally, I think you really just need to press the issue and talk to her about it. Tell her you are feeling a tad uncomfortable and you'd really like to know where she stands on the issue of the other guys. Tell her you're starting to feel a bit left out because you guys are dating and you are not spending as much time together as you used to and you want to know what is going on. That is the best way to really figure out what is going on. And, if you have been dating her awhile and have known her awhile, it should be rather easy to determine if she is or is not lying to you about the subject.

i think she could just be making u jealous, i mean, she just me these guys and they could just be friends, i mean, really if you are a great boyfriend to her then whats to worry about? what does the other guy look like? nerdy or somehting?, i mean if u c her cheating on u with him then, yeah beat him the heck up by all means, but if its nothing then sit back and relax, shell come around miss how u two used to do things

Maybe you should sit down and have an open discussion with her about how this is making you feel. It's really hard to say whether or not she is cheating on you, in addition I would hate to say whether she is or isn't as cheating is an extreme action which obviously causes a lot of pain. Perhaps your girlfriend has moved out of what they call the 'honey-moon phase' of the relationship? In a relationship, the beginning is always exciting, and usually the two people involved want to do little but spend all of their time together. Now that you have been together almost a year, maybe your girlfriend has moved to the next phase, which is not a bad thing becuase the next phase can also offer great things like companionship, trust and understanding. These are just my thoughts, I hope I have helped. But I think your mind will be most at ease if you speak to her and let her know how you feel, without accusing her or being aggressive - that way she is likely to be honest with you. Good luck

Personally you both are only in High School so she probably is not ready to commit to just one person, and maybe she is finding that she needs to explore her options a little more for sure. Personally what I would do is find time to sit down and talk with her, and explain how you are feeling, and find out what she is really wanting. Maybe it is time you consider breaking off your Relationship and just be friends letting her see others as she wants, but still being there as a friend in case she needs to talk. It does sound like she is wanting some space, and maybe it is just time you have to give it to her.

Ainokea, First of all, I would really want to ask myself here (if I were You) just who am I to her in the first place? Do not mistake me for being condescending here. But, just who do you think you are to her? Did the both of you lay any commitment with each other in the first place? Have the both of you forgotten that this is a simple casual relationship to begin with? Has it occur to you that she is not actually into anything serious in the first place? Look the both of you are still young to begin with and I do not think that relationship should overtake your study priorities in the first place. I do not have to paint the picture of how long the road of yours is going to be and so does the relationship. You might think that you love her (since the feelings pretty much withstand a tremendous amount of time), but I am going give you my $0.02 which might let you consider otherwise. If your feelings, X(sorry for I do not know her name here), fails to initiate an action, then X is mere fantasy. If X exist in fantasy, hence, X exist only in potentiality and not in actuality. Therefore, X cannot be considered as Love for Love must first exist in actuality and must be mutual. I will give you a simple philosophical analogy: Suppose we are hungry and we want to abate our hunger, our natural instinct will prompt us to eat. The existence of food (Love) and the act of consumption (Initiation of Love) must occur simultaneously before our hunger pangs will vanish and achieve satisfaction (Relationship). The entities by itself are meaningless unless they conjuct with one another and if we Love without acting, it's akin to having food without consuming - the hunger persist. We harbor expectations for all sorts of things, people and dimensions and sometimes we are simply going overboard here and actually harboring false expectations. In fact, we might even lose track of our reality, especially when we abdicate our self awareness over such illusion. It's common for people who indulge in fantasy because we are unwilling to shatter this image by putting dreams into reality. We prefer to give beautiful descriptions about our worship with imaginary and wordings - many times, so perfect and immaculate that we know at the back of our mind if we were engage this extraordinary person in reality, we will gradually be forced to abandon our fantasy because nobody can be as perfect, other than the figure in our mental construct. As far as the relationship is concerned, it can go any direction. It may not worked out eventually and the both of you may simply end up with different lovers in time to come. She and you just do not hold the crystal ball here and there is never anything binding here to begin with. Just be rational and sensible - do the needful and if she wants space and privacy by all means give it to her. If she falls for someone she feels is better than you, so be it. Take care and have a nice day.

I doubt it is anything really, in the beginning of a relationship there is usually a spurt of excitement and long conversations, at least in my past relationships. Just think how lucky you are to be able to see her a few times a week, I only get to see my boyfriend a month or two out of the year because he lives in Sweden. Fifty text messages seem hard to keep up with, though what do I know, I do not think I have sent even ten in my lifetime haha. Do not get worried about these things unless there is substantial proof that things are falling apart. Sometimes girls just want time to do other things as well. Do not go staring over her shoulder suspiciously either. Good luck and happy mylotting.

Relationships die when both individuals can not be open with each other. I think your reactions are pretty fair considering what she is doing. With all of the information you provided you have the right to at least be phobic about the issue. She really needs to talk to you (and you to her). Now a days it is hard to tell what anyone is doing. With cell phones and increased electronics, I am sure the "cheating" rate has increased. It is not that you would need to know every intricate detail, but as a boyfriend you have the right to know what the hell she is doing. Thats part of the relationship, a give and take. You both lose some freedom to one another. If she does not want to lose some freedom (or you) then the best move would be to break up. It is not like you would be asking her to stop being friends or viewing her like an animal, but some things for the sake of a man's sanity need to stop; like blatantly hiding messages, saying "I love you" to other guys, saying how brotherly this other person is. I dont know, things like this piss me off really. It is not just "guy friends", but the fact that girls can be so avoident of their boyfriend to be with their "guy friends." Plus the rise of homosexuality just adds to the complex pot. It seems like everyone is gay now a days.

Well I think that it is only natural for you to feel a little out of place, I think that I would be too. Having said that though, I think that she is just excited to meet new friends, could just be that they have a lot in common. I think that the best thing for you to do would be to talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling. No one knows what she is thinking wexcept her and only the two of you can solve this proble. I think that you should try that first before anything else. Hope all work out.