Aggrevation
By davebrown64
@davebrown64 (443)
United States
February 2, 2009 5:56pm CST
I know this is a long shot, but here is what I would like to ask: "For either a father or a mother who work hard all day long, spend hours of the day in traffic going from assignment to assignment, getting home and having to do so much that even the slightest facial movement or the continuous dropping of a baby's pacifier can be too much aggravation." This is not to say that the babies in the household are not loved, because they are, but need some help in how to deal with this. I hope this makes sense.
Thanks so much.
3 responses
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
3 Feb 09
It sounds like you're totally stressed out! Do you have a CD player in your car? Keep CD's close at hand that are relaxing to you. When I have to drive in the city I have my favorite CD's or a favorite station in the city where I drive that totally relaxes me and removes the stress.
Cleaning and house hold chores will always be there. With small children you should NEVER expect the house to be immaculate. If you're too tired, do the bare minimum that it takes to keep yourself and the children taken care of. Sit down with the kids; sing to them, read a story to them, watch cartoons with them and relax! Sort out the priorities and you'll find that the house is way down on the list. Allow yourself a short nap when you get home. Eat a balanced diet and add vitamins to your intake. Allow yourself "me" time, whether it is five minutes to read an article or getting a babysitter and taking yourselves out to dinner (even if it's just McDonalds).
The main thing is that you destress over the things that aren't going to stop the world if they don't get done. Dishes, dusting, vacuuming, laundry, the lawn etc are still going to be there five or ten minutes later or even the next day. Your children are going to grow up fast and do you want them to remember a dad or mom that is stressed out and frantic? I learned a long time ago that the house will never be immaculate, there will always be dishes, but there has to be time for de-stressing and stopping to smell the roses. It will make a big difference in your life.
@davebrown64 (443)
• United States
3 Feb 09
Thanks for your response. This is fantastic. Read my response earlier and you will understand why I have started this discussion. I am going to get my friend on Mylot as soon as he is able to get back on the computer so that he can start some discussions as well as respond to those already started.
Thanks again and great response. I wish I can give the two of you both best responses.
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
3 Feb 09
I just read the previous response that you posted. I used to have to carry a boom box with me to play my CDs. It helped a lot, and they are extremely inexpensive in comparison to what they cost today. It might really help! Plus, if nothing else he might record the cd's on a cassette tape and use it in a tape player.
You have hit the same problem I have on responses. I really wish that there was a way to award two or more best responses.
@davebrown64 (443)
• United States
4 Mar 09
Thanks. Music is great. I listen to it when I am on the web and doing my searches and my writing. Have a great week and sorry for the very late response. Have had computer problems and some problems around the house. Things are looking up slowly, but surely.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
3 Feb 09
You just love and take care of the baby anyway, because it will be grown and gone before you know it and it will break your heart when it is.. Babies are hard to handle when you are tired but you have to always remember that this little person is depending on you and you have to always put the baby first.. Take a few minutes and take care of it, when it is fed, dry and loved, it will settle down.. If you have someone in the fmaily to help, that makes it so much easier.. I always enjoyed my son, no matter how tired I was.. I loved to get him settled down and lay in the bed with him while singing him his favorite lullabies.. Don't let your tiredness make you miss out on the joys of being a parent, you will regret it forever..
