Do you like to do things by yourself?

This little guy likes to eat by himself! - Baby eating all by himself
@jesssp (2742)
Canada
February 3, 2009 5:45pm CST
Do you like to do things like eating out, going to the movies and shopping all by yourself? Until this summer I had never even eaten in a restaurant alone. I always seem to do things like that with others. Even when I go shopping I usually have someone along with me. I don't really mind being alone, I just don't have the option very often! What about everyone else? Do you like to do things all by your lonesome? What are some things you prefer doing without company?
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@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
I have never experienced going to the movies alone, my entire life. When I was a teenager, I went to the moviehouse with a lot of my friends. But still, I had a very bad experience with a man who sat beside me and pulled out his p**is! But I did experience going to the mall alone while my husband and our son stayed home. The experience was kind of lonely for me especially when I was all by myself while eating at a restaurant. I missed those two while I was there, eating alone. When I have to go to the groceries, that's the time that I prefer to be alone. So, I can finish the task at a faster speed unlike when I have to bring my little son with me.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
Oh my! Well that certainly would have been worse if you were there by yourself!
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
If I was all by myself and he had done that, I'd do the first thing I can think of. Dump my big glass of very cold soda on his lap!!!That ought to teach him a lesson. I really didn't notice him yank out his P**is. Because I was almost leaning to my friend on my left side. So, I almost had turned my back on that man. But I did notice that the chairs were slightly shaking. At first, I thought we were experiencing a very mild earthquake. So, I asked my friend if she felt the chairs shaking. She said no and turned to look at me. That's when she noticed what the man was doing. She immediately told me to stand up and told our other friends to get up and look for another seats. When we have transferred, that was the time she told me what she saw. When a couple of our male friends learned what happened, they went back to confront the man. But as expected, he was already gone.
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@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
LMAO at 'mild earthquake'! That's a truly disturbing (and hilarious) story. Thanks for the chuckle!
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I have done all those things myself, and I guess I've gotten used to it. Normally I do at least have some kids with me, but I've never been what you'd call a social butterfly, so there's been plenty of times I've done things on my own. When I was a teenager I went to thousands of movies alone, and even still do now and then. That's the problem with having 5 kids and no friends or family, it's hard to get a sitter, so if I want to do something, it's either with everyone, or by myself leaving the kids with hubby. I'd rather do most things with a friend or with my husband, but that's just not going to happen anytime soon. Shopping is one of the things I'd prefer to do alone. Rarely do I ever go shopping to browse or hang out, I just want to get in and get out, and that's much easier to do when I'm alone.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
With 5 kids I imagine shopping alone would be a treat! I sometimes prefer to shop by myself for house wares and things just so I can stop and browse at what I want when I want. If I have my fiance or a friend with me then I don't really get a chance to check out the (usually quite boring) things that I like.
• United States
4 Feb 09
Normally I only have my youngest 2 with me. I shop on Fridays while the older 3 are in school. If I wanted I could wait until Saturday evening when hubby is home from work and go alone, but I'm more comfortable with getting it done on Friday. I used to wait until Sunday, and sometimes I'd go alone, sometimes I'd send him (big mistake) or sometimes we'd all go together. Again I realized it's easier to just do it myself on Friday. I spend less and the store is less crowded. I tend to get everything done that day. If I have to purchase anything for the house, I'll do it while shopping. I do most of my shopping at Walmart anyways because it's cheapest, so if there's something else I need I can just grab it while I'm there.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
Gotta love Wal Mart! Makes life so much easier (and affordable). Before we had one here I had to buy things like paper products and laundry stuff at the super market. I can't imagine having to spend that much on things like that anymore!
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
It used to be not such a big deal doing things by myself, such as going to the movies, eating out and shopping all by myself. I rather be things with others. Especially eating, at home or dining out. I never go to a movie alone and now that I have my dog, I don't go shopping by myself any more either. If I have to go alone, shopping, it isn't such a big deal. I make it a quick trip. I still prefer to go shopping with family and or friends, overall. I find myself eating by myself a lot. When I cook something extra special and absolutely delicious, I think of those I wish were joining us. Some times I like to spend the evening alone. Catch up on work or just relax watching a movie. I prefer to go to the doctors and stuff like that, alone. Traveling out of town, by car, I prefer to go alone. Just me and my dog.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
One thing I really like to do alone is house work! I can't seem to focus on it if there are people around. I don't mind shopping by myself but for the most part I like to have company.
@EvrWonder (3577)
• Canada
11 Feb 09
Itoo like company when I am shopping and as far as cleaning the house goes, I'm with you! I always kick everybody out. Now a days they just leave when I start cleaning. I used to like turning the tunes on really loud and going for it. Now I just putter through it, usually with the talk radio going or nothing at all. I love to clean alone. Then I can focus on two steps ahead rather than having conversation and trying to think ahead at the same time. Thank you for your comment.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
7 Feb 09
I cant think of anything worse and the thought of going out on my own really scares me! I think people that go out for meals on their own are so brave!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
I think so too but it really isn't as scary as it sounds, I was a little terrified at first too. Once you just go and do it then you realize that it really isn't a big deal at all.
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I don't like going to the movies alone. I'd rather be with at least one friend. Eating out though is another thing - I can eat out alone if I wanted to and I'm used to it since I've lived away from home my whole college life - my family lives in another province, away from the university I went to. I think everybody should be comfortable to eat alone :) Thanks for the response on my discussion!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
I don't know why I was so nervous about eating alone for so many years. Really, no one is starring at you wondering why you're all alone, no one even cares!
@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I don't like going to restaurants by myself, but I do it when I mystery shop. I really like going to movies by myself though. I find it therapeutic for some reason. I also like shopping by myself. If others are with me, I get distracted and it takes me a long time to figure out what I need. I guess I am kind of a loner at times.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
I think that mystery shopping would be really interesting. Have you done it for long?
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Even though I am Happily Married, and enjoy having my husband around to go and do things with, I do not mind from time to time taking myself out to eat, do some shopping, etc. Personally since I was single for a long time prior to getting married, doing things alone has never been a problem as well. Matter of fact, there are still times even now where I like to go out alone and just have time to think and relax as well.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
Being comfortable by yourself is important, I think. I always tend to wait for my fiance before I do something and I want to work on that. I need to learn to just GO instead of waiting around.
• United States
4 Feb 09
If it is eating out or social activities such as that, I usually go with friends. I like to do stuff by yourself. I like having space I need to think and reflect; I find it deeply relaxing. Sometimes being surrounded by friends 24/7 can be hectic and you might never get the chance to slow down
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
I agree, it does get a little hectic. Plus I think you don't appreciate them as much when they're constantly there.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
4 Feb 09
I need a fair amount of alone time but I like doing things with people too. Shopping is something I can easily do alone. Other things, such as travel, museums, movies, zoos, amusement parks, etc. are more fun if you're with somebody!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
7 Feb 09
I think that some things are just more social. Even with eating out I find that if I'm not going with other people there just really isn't much of a point in going to a restaurant. Might as well fix something at home and save some calories!
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Yes most of the time i like to do things alone like eating outside, shopping and other things. I don't really mind if i do it all by myself because i don't want to bother other people. Though that is not always of course. There are still times that i do things with family, friends and other people. I think it would really depend on availability and to the things you will like to do. When i was a student, i had a lot of friends to tag along when doing things but in time it changes as so everyone else has its own things to do so i guess its pretty alright to do things alone as we all need time for our self.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
7 Feb 09
I think spending time by yourself is important but some things are still more social. It's nice to have a balance.
@MissAmie (720)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I absolutely love going places alone. It doesn't matter where it is...out to eat, the movies, shopping...I just like to be alone I guess. It seems like I never have anymore alone time since I'm stuck with kids all day, but before I was a mom I used to eat out or go to a bar alone quite often. I remember once I walked into a restaurant, obviously alone, and the host asked how many of us were there? I just looked around and said "looks like it's just me." He looked so confused. Like I was so icky I couldn't get anyone to go out and eat with me. It was hilarious. Little did he know that I was in town for business and I didn't know wnyone there to eat with. The last time I went to the movies I was alone. I have a huge crush on David Duchovney and I went to drool and watch the new X Files movie alone. I might have even been the only person in the entire theater that day. ha ha. It was a weekday matinee, so it's very possible I was all alone in the theater. i've noticed when I tell people that I get an "awww, poor thing." but it's not like that at all. I really do like just being with myself.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
7 Feb 09
I imagine that once little ones are in the picture then alone time is at a premium! I am starting to force myself to just go do things instead of wait around for someone to do them with. Out of town is fine but in town it's more of an adjustment just because you know everyone.
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
4 Feb 09
I like company for all of these things. I have never eaten alone because even the thought of it makes me feel weired. I did not watch one of the most awaited movies just because I could not find company for it :( And the thought of shopping alone freaks me off, as it will not present me an opportunity to ask for my friends and relatives' opinion as to what looks best for me, etc.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
7 Feb 09
None of it is too bad once you actually do it. I hadn't eaten alone until last summer and I was really nervous about it for some reason. Once I did it it was no big deal at all though.
• United States
4 Feb 09
I don't mind doing things by myself at all - nine times out of ten, I actually prefer being by myself. After reading The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron in 1998, I've been taking myself on "artists dates" quite often (and you have to do them alone). Prior to that, the idea of doing things alone seemed weird and scary. LOL
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
7 Feb 09
I wish I could do things like that but I'm not quite that comfortable by myself yet. Maybe one day!
• Indonesia
4 Feb 09
Personally I like it very much. I do like to do things by my self. may be this is because I'm single and don't have much time to know and socialize with people. I go out for dinner in restaurant alone, cleaning the house everyweek, study and earn money from the Internet, going to some beautiful palces, all that things I do alone. but for some situation, just like office party or bbq, I'm with colleague.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
I think it's all about balancing alone time and social time.
• United States
4 Feb 09
I've only eaten by myself once and it really wasn't enjoyable to me. I was upset for a few reasons because of several issues and I just felt like people were staring at me the entire time wondering what I was doing eating alone. I have shopped by myself and although it isn't as fun shopping alone as it is shopping with someone else, that isn't so terrible. I have done it before but never for really long periods of time. I just like having someone along to talk to but if I have to go shopping then I'll do it.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
6 Feb 09
I always feel like people are watching and judging me, it's something I need to work on!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
4 Feb 09
Hey jesssp! I don't mind doing things alone sometimes. In fact there are times that I do prefer doing things like shopping alone. I get more accomplished when I am by myself. That way I don't have to worry how much time I'm taking, if the other person is in a hurry or bored. I find it less stressful to go alone and do what I have to and take my time! I also don't mind eating in a restaurant alone. It's not so bad! You just get your food and eat! It is more fun when you have someone with you, but it is ok to eat alone once in awhile!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
I'm fine with eating in a restaurant if it's in a different town but it would feel strange to do it where I live just because you know everyone. I guess I would just bring a book with me!
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Hi jesssp, I often do things with friends and family. Lately, I have my twin daughters tag along with me everytime, everywhere! (LOL!) They are my shopping buddies, spa buddies and even parlor buddies (er- parlor beauties! ). And I love spending my precious time with them. But there also comes a time that I wanted to spend time alone. Probably once a month or once every other month, I shop alone. It makes me think more. It also gives way to self-realization. But when I become lonely in become alone, I seek for the company of the twins again.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
That's one of the great things about kids - built in company!
@becdmd (705)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
As much as possible I like to have company when I want to go out and have some fun, but as I age I've learned to do things by myself, like when I need to buy something at the mall, I don't ask for company anymore, because I think it's much better to buy alone, nobody's distracting you sometimes to think which one to buy and I think it's not time consuming, I also have experienced eating out by myself a lot of times already and it's been liberating, but I haven't been to the movie alone, that's much liberating but I can't have the nerve to do it. Maybe some other time....LoL!
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
I like having a girlfriend with me when I'm clothes shopping so I can get feedback on my choices. But I have found that if I'm just shopping for every day stuff it's easier to do it alone sometimes.
@eagle_f15 (2054)
• Malaysia
4 Feb 09
I am married but I still like to go shopping by myself. This is because I would like to take time to look at things and even observe things. But when it comes to eating out alone....I don't really like it. I would rather take away. And as for going to the movies alone.....never done that before and not going to. For movies and eating out I go with my husband.....but shopping.it's me and myself.....
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
5 Feb 09
I know what you mean, eating out and going to the movies are more social situations.
@Tinna_He (300)
• China
4 Feb 09
when i was single,i liked to go to the cinema by myself.it has another feeling when you stay the crowd and watch the movie.Also i liked travelling by myself,you can go anywhere which you liked.you have no need to consider your partner's idea when you travel by yourself.Of course,you will always find that it is hard to share your happiness with somebody when you do these by yourself.Now i will do things with my husband.LOL.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
4 Feb 09
Being able to do what you want when you want is a nice feeling but you're right, it is nice to have someone around to share it with sometimes.