My friend needs help...

United States
February 3, 2009 9:21pm CST
One of my close friends is on a medicine that is to help her stay stable and not hate the world. I just got a phone call that she is not caring anymore about life and could care less what happens to herself. I don't know what to tell her because it seems like the more I try to talk to her the worse it makes her right now. Im scared, she's my best friend and I don't want to see anything happen to her. But what do you do if they just don't want to talk to anyone but they don't want to live anymore? They don't care about anything so you can't talk to them and tell them what they're going to be missing out on. And you can't call 911 on them because you don't know where they are. It's really bad because I have severe depression so stuff like this really gets to me. I don't know what to do because I can't solve her problem and I feel if something happens to her it's going to be all my fault. I called and talked to her mom and dad and they said she just left without any sign of being upset. She seemed fine but they don't know exactly where she went. She said she was just going for a ride. I don't think she would do anything stupid because she is smarter than that, but I know she has a lot on her mind. What would say to your friend to show them everything is going to be all right? What do you do in a situation like this??? Is there anything to do?? Is it my fault?? Please someone give me an answer?
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I would either go look for her, or call the police and explain the situation. I would tell them where she was last seen, and let them know you are worried about her. You could also call her doctor, because he/she might know best whats going on in her head. Good luck! I know how scary this can be for you (i've been there) and you friend is probably scared as well.
• United States
4 Feb 09
thank you. im at work so i can't leave. i think she'll be okay. it's just a scary situation. but she definatly needs to get off the meds i think!
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@jess368 (3368)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I do think meds are over prescribed. and many times once your on them your body becomes dependent. I hope she can make the right choices for her body and mind.
@Luchie50 (51)
• Philippines
4 Feb 09
Hi mylotters, i want to discuss and respond about the topic of taggedskate.I have also a friend who happens to be a LUPUS patient . She has been suffering for almost 4 years , shes undergone different laboratory examinations and having continues medication but seems no changes made, in fact shes getting weaker. She continue reporting for work since we're together working in the office and i could see and monitor her situations , she used to get tired and pale . The white color of her face is not normal. Headaches , backbones, and even almost parts of her body is usually her complaints . We really emphatized and feel whatever she feels having a comnplaint about the disease that shes bearing now, shes even cried out and ask GOD why it happens to her. Mylotters please give some advices to my friend coz we give our best just to give her the support that she needs so far. Hoping for your help . Thankj
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
4 Feb 09
I would call her parents again and let them know how worried you are about her, tell them they should really take this seriously, and when she gets home to make sure she takes her medication. Obviosly she is in an irrational state of mind, and only she can talk her self out of it. The best you can do is make sure someone is keeping an eye on her. Other than that there is not much you can do. When people are in this frame of mind they don't care what anyone says to them, they only know how they feel at that moment. You can only let her know that you love and care for her very much, that is the best you can do. If she does harm herself, it is in no way shape or form your fault. You have been a good friend. You have tried your best, she will do what she is going to do. She is very likely chemically imbalanced and really, really needs to get back on her medication. Possibly you can talk her in to taking her meds, but if she does not it is not your fault. Please do not blame yourself in any way for this. It is not your fault. It is very important that you know that.