A 5 year old bully!!!

Malta
February 4, 2009 3:18am CST
I am soooo upset. There is a bully in my daughters class. They are only 5 years old!!! I don't just mean a little girl that likes to tease and bother other children, I'm talking about, hitting, biting, shoving and threatening other little kids that if they don't play with her, she will beat them up!! And she does. I'm not talking about a hit in the arm, I'm talking about a huge bang in the head!! She has not physically touched my daughter yet but she has seen her and is scared of going to school now!! This child obviously needs some help, she obviously has alot of anger. Do you think all of this is coming from her home life?? That is the only answer I can come up with. All the other mothers are scared to go speak to the head of the school. I am definetly not, but this girl hasn't done anything personally to my daughter yet. Should I still go? If this girl is like this now, I can't imagine how she'll be as she gets older. Advice??
3 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I would definitely talk it over with the teacher and if she hasn't picked up on any of this then I would go higher. It's her responsibility as a teacher to get help with this child. I'm surprised nothing has been done yet.
@Jae2619 (1483)
• United States
4 Feb 09
When my son was in 4k he had a classmate that was like that, she would push the kids down, throw balls at them and so on... it finally got to the point where she flew off the lid and pushed over a book case at the teacher. The teacher had been asking for help from the uppers but they knew this child had temper problems and felt she just needed extra guidance... still after pleading she wasn't getting any help, she felt so helpless, so she broke the rules so to speak, and asked the few parents she knew she could count on to call the Superintendent to complain that as a parent we felt our child's learning is being disrupted and we feared for the saftey of our child. This worked. With in the week, they had the child pulled from the class and put in a class that would help her learn how to control the temper. I would first go and talk to your child's teacher and tell her your child isn't enjoying school because she's in fear that she's gonna get hurt by this other child. If she can't offer you any solution of saying, We will work on this problem, then tell her straight forth, I will go above you. I want my child to be in a safe learning environment. I would think that the parents of children who this child has been mean to, would want something done and be able to speak up about it, so I would be gathering them up, asking when you drop your child off at school... has your child been bullied by such in such, ok.. I need you to come with me such in such time, we NEED this stopped so we HAVE to talk to the teacher, it's gonna take more than just one complaint to have any action taken.
@katsalot1 (1618)
4 Feb 09
I would definitely go and talk to their teacher. It's very easy for teachers not to notice these things, particularly at playtimes. It sounds as though this child is upsetting a lot of children, so trying to get something done about it would be doing everyone a favour, including the girl herself.