Some people just don't know how to listen well and explain well.
By qaseh56
@qaseh56 (25)
Malaysia
February 6, 2009 9:36pm CST
I have a cousin who owed a huge sum of money from another friend, which is also my friend. When I asked her about it, she would cry and explain her difficult situation or how she don't even have enough money to get by. Well, the thing is i already know her situation and what i would like to know is what are her plans to overcome the problems.
And when i suggested a few things so that she can overcome her problems, she make a lot excuses just so as not to accept my proposal.
Not only she is bad on listening skills, she is even worse at explaining. Seems that her age does not match her brain capacity.....for a 30 year old, she act like a 12 year old kid.
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2 responses
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 09
Your cousin is not the only one. It is sad because they are not helping themselves. Instead they are relying on the goodwill of other people to bail them out of trouble. It is difficult to educate this type of people because they feel they are always the victims.
If you care for her maybe you should try to change her thinking. Most probably she would not accept direct advice or suggestions. Instead be subtle. Learn something about counselling techniques and try to apply them. It is going to take time but if done correctly she will start changing her ways.
all the best in your endevour,
rosdimy
rosdimy
@mrgeebee (133)
• United States
7 Feb 09
dont get involved , you can offer solutions all you want , doesnt mean shell use one of them , best to keep a seperate interest here or you may lose a friend and have a long lost cousin as well . at least she didnt borrow from you , when family borrows from family it goes into the the family acct , no interest no payments , if your friend asks you to get involved say no , its between then not you .
