Open Relationships

United States
February 7, 2009 10:30am CST
What do you guys think about married couples having open relationships? I have been married for two years and me and my husband discussed this one time. We never went through with it but I wonder if it would be wrong for married couples to do this. Marriage is suppose to be sacred and of course, cheating is wrong. But it isn't really cheating if you both know about it, or is it? Give me your take on this everyone!
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10 responses
@UK_Shree (3604)
8 Feb 09
I wouldn't be okay with this if I was married. I think that having fantasies about these sort of things is fine and can be healthy but I wouldn't actually go forward with it. I think that in the long-term, one or both people in the marriage would feel hurt, and there would probably be major damage to the relationship which could not be repaired
• United States
10 Feb 09
Thanks for the comment. A couple that I know that has done it told me that it helped there relationship. The husband stated that he had actually started missing his wife. They did it for a few months and then stopped because they missed each other so much. I think it really just depends on the couple and if they are strong enough to know when to stop.
@UK_Shree (3604)
15 Feb 09
Yes, it definitely does depend on the individual people involved. I am glad for your friends that it worked out for them. I just don't think I would take the risk
• United States
7 Feb 09
I don't think open relationships are a good thing. That is just my opinion, what you do behind closed doors is your business. I think that sleeping with someone else, whether your spouse knows about it or not, is cheating. I would not feel comfortable with my boyfriend sleeping with someone else. I would feel like he was constantly comparing the two of us.
• United States
7 Feb 09
Well, it was actually me that initiated the conversation with my husband. He wasn't very thrilled with the idea at all but told me that he would do it for the sake of our relationship. He stated that he wanted our marriage to last so if I needed to get something out of my system to make our future seem better to me, then he would allow. Like I said, I never did it because I was really just asking questions. Now, I feel like I made the right decision because I believe that it may have ended badly.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
8 Feb 09
Well I don't believe that an open marriage can really hold for long. Well It is a type of cheating each other, even you both know and agree about it. Well imagine you have children and these children knows that there are other people coming and going from your home.
@barehugs (8992)
• Canada
8 Feb 09
A relationship is exactly what you make it. As long as both parties are happy it can be anything, anyway, anytime. Marriage is not sacred. Its just a man-made institution to keep family records straight. Cheating is wrong but its not cheating if both parties are doing it, or both parties know about it and are happy with it. In my book there is nothing wrong with an open relationship as long as both people are having fun.
@hotsummer (10308)
• Philippines
8 Feb 09
i will not it is morally right. but for some couple it works for them and they just like it that way. but for me i will feel offended and will not be at peace about it. i think there are some couples who just are not happy to have only one partner and so they end up with partner that will have the same belief as them and will be happy with that kind of set up.
• India
8 Feb 09
i think that married couples having open relationships is very bad they should not each others as it is very bad .still i am unmarried but i feel that it is bad habit having relationships with other women or husband husband and wife should be very much faith toward their life so that they can lead a good life
@jambi462 (4599)
• United States
7 Feb 09
I think that an open relationship would be a very positive thing. As long as you both still love each other why does it really matter? Marriage is something that a couple should not really have to make work in the end so as long as your both still comfortable with it why not?
7 Feb 09
I think the whole idea of open marraige is ridiculous...why be married to someone if you want to be with other people??? Is it that people who do have open marraiges want the security of having a home and someone that cares about them to come back to after sleeping with others?? This seems very selfish to be...People get married for a reason...open marraige would destroy everything a marraige represents in my opinion..I could never imagine my partner being with someone else and i dont know how other people can allow it to happen to them....I just dont understand it all...
@laglen (19783)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Different strokes for different folks. I myself would never go for it. I believe that this goes against the marriage vows and wonder why you would marry somebody if you want to be with someone else.
• Canada
7 Feb 09
i personally dont believe in open marriage. If i still wanted to date, or play the field, i wouldnt have gotten married in the first place. If it works for both people in the marriage, who am i to judge, but it is honestly not my thing.