Parent's self control and positive message makes great difference
By Zhu Huifen
February 9, 2009 8:37am CST
Your children are again quarelling with each other, "Don't touch me." "That is my book." ... What are you going to do? Look what the mother did and what difference they made. - I dashed to the room, shouting at them, "Don't quarel any more. I am fed up. Go to your room. Wait, see what I will do with you." - I realize I am giving the wrong message. I went to the dining room, taking a deep breath, where a big pink heart is stuck on the wall. Calm down a bit, I went back to the room, and said to them, "Most of the time, you are together, playing and doing things together. You are in good terms." I notice the change on their faces, and continued, "It is ok to have different ideas. I believe you can find a way out." They are back to sense, having meals and smiling on their faces. Our self control, and positive message will make great difference.
9 Feb 09
Hi zhuhuifen, You are right, when we use self control we teach our children to do the same. If we become angry, children will think it's okay for them to do act in that way also. A positive attitude will teach them that there are ways around every problem. I feel that raising children is the most important job in the world. Blessings.
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