Will you give a cheater a second chance?

I had my ex husband cheat on me and my answer is in the "ex" part of this sentence...LOL! I wouldn't ever give someone a 2nd chance if they cheated. I think it is very easy for people to think they could but until they are on the receiving end of that pain and the reprocussions of cheating they can't say truthfully they would. I always thought I would give a second chance until it happened to me. Tons of emotions get involved and too many questions with no right answers. How could he/she? Why? Can I ever really trust him/her again? Can I ever really forgive him/her? Will my relationship ever be normal again? Will he/she do it again? Not to mention how most people blam themselves and the questions that come with that.

before I was married I would have said a BIG no I would not give them another chance...but me and my husband have been together for almost 11 years and we have had a lot of ups and downs and we both have cheated and we talked about divorce but we decided instead of giving up we would fight for our marriage because we truly love each other and we were young. I am happy to say that it has been 8 years and neither of us have made the mistake of cheating again :)

A lot of people say once a cheater always a cheater and that is not true. This depends on how much you love him and if you deep down believe that he will not do it again. I hurt my husband twice!!!!! and he has given second chances. Will i do it again? no. I finally found what was causing me to hurt him and we have came to a solution that works for us both. People may think I am nuts or my husband is stupid but we have been together for 12 years now. I love him and even though I hurt him. He still loves me..

Hi there jongdeguapito! Good day =) I wouldn't give a cheater a second chance. You know never let someone hurt you twice, giving him/her a second chance is exposing yourself to be hurt again. If he/she had done it once, its bound to happen again. You know why? Because you gave him/her the idea that no matter how much he/she will hurt you, you would still accept him/her over again, giving him/her the power to hurt you. Once is enough and twice is too much. =( Happy Valentines day!

i have given my ex lots of chances to change his ways but i just realized that he wouldnt change because he cheated on me for 4 years. i never wanted to break up with him cause i was with him so long and we have a baby together but i finally got the courage to leave him. and im soooo happy i did

no not a chance. if she did it, then it she will do it again for sure. and one more think if you dont feel something wrong then she sholdnt tell you . it is better if you dont know. when you are ready for the end you will feel it and you will know that she cheets you and you both will follow different pathways. kiss goodbye and goodbye.

No, because if he cheats once, he is likely to do it all over again. Hate to say it, but "once a cheater, always a cheater".

No I don't think I'd give a lover who cheated another chance. To me it seems that they're "that kind of person" if they go off with another person when they are in a relationship. :/

i think some should have a second chance. i given a person a second chance after she cheated on me.

I'd say NO WAY. But looking at it in a different light i might differ slightly. Suppose you were the one to cheat?? Would you want your spouse to take u back?? If you were truly sorry and he still said no what would you do?? It all comes down to how much feeling you have for that person. So yeah what would u do if it were you? Not chowmein. Her BF MIchael.

I gave several of my exes a second chance. They did nothing but cheat again. So then they got a third and possibly even forth chance. I was young and have since then learned my lesson. Unless we are married, I will NEVER give him another chance.

Yes why not. It is better to forgive someone who really means that he/she is sorry for the sin he/she made. If you are a married couple, much more you have to fulfill the vows you have said to each other. But certainly it is not that easy to say. You have to be strong in your heart and put your faith in practice. If you think that he/she is sincere then give her/him another chance. But if he/she does it again, i think that has to be stopped and teached the person a lesson he/she will never forget. This is just my opinion, but if you hold grudge, do you think it will make you feel better?

I believe that everybody deserves a second chance. If he admits his mistakes, sincerely sorry and exerts effort to win back your trust then I guess its worth giving it one more shot. But that's all i could give, a second chance. If he screw up again, then I guess it's over.

no not a chance. if she did it, then it she will do it again for sure. and one more think if you dont feel something wrong then she sholdnt tell you . it is better if you dont know. when you are ready for the end you will feel it and you will know that she cheets you and you both will follow different pathways. kiss goodbye and goodbye.