Bully's and growing up....

@autunno (350)
United States
February 17, 2009 8:12am CST
When I was in school...I was not "Popular" and an easy target to pick on...I had a bully..For 3 years I would take the abuse from this girl and her friends..Everyday..Oneday after 3 years of this abuse..After school at a convinient store,she was there..Picking as always...Inviting me to fight...Scared.innocent me..Kicked her butt!!! Never messed with again by her..Have you had this experience...Im a lover not a fighter because it took more than 3 years to do this...looking back it makes me think alot about smalltowns and mentality..Where are these people now????
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
17 Feb 09
These people are off picking on someone else. They are the bosses we hate, the cops who pick on the little things, they are the friends who just can't move on. I spend the whole of my school years being picked on so there isn't many stick out. There are a few over baring adult people I thought of as friends who left their marks but I'm gaining some strength in that area now. The last one wanted me to learn so I did. Maybe not the lesson she wanted me to but still...
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@TLChimes (4842)
• United States
17 Feb 09
Yes I think they are bullies and swindlers and just plain not nice. I am still learning what good friends are and that not all friends are good ones.
@btrcooky (176)
1 May 09
I had a bully for a while when I was young. Nothing ever happened. She kind of bullied everyone and we all just walked away from her. She finally got bored and moved on.
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• United States
17 Feb 09
I was an easy target for bullies oftentimes, as well, in my younger years. I had a different sort of approach to warding them off, though. I kept my finger nails slightly pointy. I did not engage in fights, but if one were to grab me for some reason, I'd grab his/her arm as well. Oftentimes, it didn't take long before they were begging me to let go, to which my reply was "not until you let go". They were most obliging at that moment. This was never a "permanent fix" like you are talking about, but it got them off my back temporarily. It may or may not have worked later in school. I'll never know for sure, as after 7th grade, I turned to homeschooling until college.
@autunno (350)
• United States
17 Feb 09
You guys are rigt..Product of thE enviorment----I have been lonG time away from it but you never forget..My famly wAs a navy over seas family..So poo poo on the hATERS....LOL
@jwfarrimond (4474)
18 Feb 09
Bullies are cowards. They pick on people who they see as being weaker than they are and often they will only do so from the safety of the gang of hangers on. In "kicking this girls butt" you showed her that you could beat her when she did not have the protection of her gang. Bullies are not only cowards, they are stupid as well because they are creating lifelong enemies - people who in later life may well be stronger and more powerful than they are and who will remember.
• United States
18 Feb 09
These bullies, still exist, but they are different from what they were. I was not that popular. I was picked on by just about everyone. I had to learn how to fight to defend myself. The biggest bullies in my life were my own family members. My step-father, sometimes my grandmother, and my boyfriend's father would verbally abuse me. Are they bullies yes, only now, they are classified as abusers. Bullies=abusers because once they grow up, and they start hitting other people and calling them names, they become abusers.
• India
18 Feb 09
I really don’t know where these people are. I would love to believe that in a wider world these people have met their match and now know their limit and that the world is indeed a much tougher place than they would otherwise have liked it to be. Or maybe they have learnt their lesson, been humiliated just like they humiliated us once, had nothing to answer back and are now wallowing in self-pity and insecurity and a perfect loser. I would love to think that the worst has happened to them. However, I have seen that those who were bullies at school, somehow develop a lot of confidence in themselves and as they are accustomed to getting away with anything, they carry on being aggressive and a nuisance wherever they go. However, they do succeed in competitive environs and make it to the top in a dog-eat-dog world.
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
I have never experienced being picked up in this form. It was always the teachers but in a good way and never putting me down. I am happy that you stood up to your bully and you kicked her butt. Sure makes her like the dummy now. Which she totally deserves. She was not so tough without her friends. These people are all sitting back down and remembering the times that they picked on someone in school and are feeling really low about it. They are suffering inside that they were mean in school because they thought they were tough. However it turns out that they are not tough once they entered the real world and someone told them and picked on them and made them feel 2 feet tall.
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
I was lucky during my childhood. Nobody bullied me. Probably because I had a lot of friends that were there to protect me. But it was nice that you stood up against this bully. They should be thought a lesson from time to time. I guess school would not be complete without these bullies.
@winterose (39921)
• Canada
18 Feb 09
no I never did have a bully that long but I did have bullies, and they bothered me for awhile and then left me alone. I never did learn how to fight I am not a fighter, I can fight with words if I have to, but not physically fight.
• United States
17 Feb 09
My son was bullied in school just the way jolasu was talking about. I ended up getting a call from the principal. When my son was in the first grade there was a boy that would come behind him and push him down everyday and then hit him. Even after he went and told the teacher and the principal this bulling still went on. I finally got tried of seeing my son coming home everyday crying and not wanting to go to school. I know this is wrong to tell a child, but I told him the next time that that boy pushed him down to get up and beat the sh-t out of him. He did, that's when I got called to the principals office. After this the boy never touched him again, in fact when they got older they became friends in school.
@jolasu (49)
• United States
17 Feb 09
These people are sitting at home on a ratty couch, with a ripped up grease stained t-shirt and an open bag of potato chips watching daytime t.v. while still thinking they're "the bomb" and just waiting for someone to drop by to reminisce about their glory days. My son is 8, he's got a bully too on the school bus. He's been picked on all year, pushed, teased and hit. I've reported to the school a few times and got no real response. Our school shares it's busses with another school and it happens that my son's bully goes to the other school. Apparently no one really knew how to handle it since it included two schools. He came home about a month ago with a black eye and in tears once again from the same kid. This time my son actually hit back (although from the report of my littler son - not very effectively). This time when I called the school I let them know that it would be my last call. Next time it happens I will be seated in their office and I will not be there by myself. They took that to mean an attorney. I actually meant my husband or my dad (ex-marine that still scares the bejeeses out of me), but I didn't correct them... There hasn't been an issue since - fingers crossed!
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
i am a person who always fought my way if it is necessary. i never bowed to bullies. i am a girl, so frail looking being thin and small. so, the bullies, they took a lot of edging on me, too, autunno. the good thing about me is the fact that i refuse to be bullied by anyone at all. immediately after school, i will be waiting for the one who tried to bully me. surely, regardless of whether the person is a boy or a girl, he/she will receive my hits. so unlike you, autunno, bullies cannot be hanging around me at all. for you, i am happy that you dealt with the bully at last. that's how and the only way to get rid of them.