let his/her happiness be your first priority

Philippines
February 18, 2009 1:11am CST
I meet this girl a year ago, Shes very beautiful and she was very special to me. We've been together for about four months because she has to leave me to work in japan. Eventough its hard for me to let her go, I don't want to be a reason for her to be un-successful. She was the eldest daughter and I understand her situation why she have to do it. We started as chaters, Textmates and sooner become lovers. I was amaized with this girl because shes beautiful, sweet and hard working. She teach me how to love and made me fill the happiness I've been searching for. At first, I never tought that I will be so inlove with this girl. It had just developed when we were together. I love her so much so I did everyting for her. For about four months being togethI take good care of her, introduced my self to her parents and be very nice to her brothers and sisters. I always buy and bring to their house her favorites like avocado and pizza which she really appriciate. Even tough I just came home from work, the way for my relaxiation was to gave her a foot massage which she find a very sweet act for me. She even told me that I was the first guy to gave her that kind of love and she always blame me why I was to late to come to her life. That moment made me think why she had to told me about that. Nothing has change with me even tough a lot of questions was hangging in my mind until one day, when i checked her email (since i know her yahoo account) I began crying with what I saw with her email. She was married to an old japanies guy here in the philippines. I went home crying that i cant even calm my self because of what i feel. She then confirmed to me about why she don't want me to know about that. Because she dont want to loose me. Its for her to have a VISA in japan so she can work their and help her family. All of her failed relationship motivated me to gave her the love and care she haven't felt. I was very sad with her story because before she got married, she was thinking that no other guy in this world had truly love her until i came. She did it not for her self and even its againts her free will. That's why even at the last moment that we will be together, I gave her my time to spend with and share stories with each other all the memories we will cherish. We were both crying but as a man, I tried to comfort her because she will be alone once she left the philippines. She even told me that she will missed all the things I did or her because no one in Japan will did it to her again. Six months after, I'm still missing her. I always think of her and pray. Im looking forward that someday we will meet again. Not as lovers but maybe as two individuals which once shared happines that will last forever.
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10 responses
• China
20 Feb 09
Please go out from the wrong love river ,she got all she wanted by her love but all this brought you pain .Fortunatelly all were past ,your tomorrow will be bright
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
She doesn't love the man. its only for a JAPAN visa...and I think she's unhappy with that. And I wont make it last forever..I have to do something..=) thanks btw..
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
19 Feb 09
I do always let his happiness be my first priority, when I see him smile, happy, I'm more happy than anything. But at the same time, I want some appreciation too, it's like when I do stuff for him, when he is happy and does appreciate, I feel happy.
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
hey mermaidivy =) yeah you're right. It's about give and take in a relationship to make it work. Its a way of showing your love in actions and not just in words (coz anybody can say he/she love's you anyway lol)...Im happy for you because you're very satisfied with the relationship you had right now. And I advice you not to stop loving him and making him feel it...good luck..=)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
19 Feb 09
I too hope it has a fairy tale ending. That she looks to her own happiness - and your own.
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
thanks arte,,,but It's seems it won't end that way... But im still hoping.because I love her whatever she would be,,
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
that's too sad to hear..a beautiful love story that never blooms :) you can always cherished all the beautiful memories you shared but i guess the best thing you can do is moving on and enjoy what your doing now and try to socialize with others and have fun..maybe she's not the one really meant for you, there will be someone's better coming your way..you just have to be patience and wait..have a nice day!!
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
Yeah patience for searching for the right one is one of the thins I like on what youve said. God has plans for everything so we need to be patient for waiting for the righ one so we wont be blaiming our selves in the end for choosing the right one. Everythng in life is a choice...
• India
18 Feb 09
Your story is really sad. Its just that you were not destined to be together. Its very unfortunate. My good wishes are with you. Remember one thing - the happiness of the person you love should always be your first priority. At least it is my topmost priority. I am even ready to give up my life for the happiness of the girl I love and I know even she is ready to do the same. Sad to read your story
• Philippines
20 Feb 09
Maybe its a sad story for now but I think someday, I can take it as one of the most memorable at of my life.. She gave me the reason on why I never stop dreaming, and the impact of this relationship gives me hope. She's one of the reason why I want to go to japan 2 years from now. If we were destined for each other, I tell you guys the happy ending of this story. Right now, my focus is to establish my self so that if one day, we met again, I'll be ready to face her. But if not, im still positive with my life that someday I'll find that someone again...=)
@coloos (98)
• China
19 Feb 09
To tell you the truth, I was moved by your story the first time i read it. I don't know what i would have done if i had been you. It is likely that i would reject her because of her dishonesty. So from you story i know that your love to her was actually your first priority. You treasure it so much that it must be very difficult to accept the fact the she was gone. Well, i don't know if you believe in something like faith. The past is the past. No one can change this. All we have to do is truly accept the situation, and long for the future. We never know what's waiting for us, and i am sure you will find you true love.
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
Thanks coloos, Yeah you're right.Learning to accept the things that happened in our life make us a better person. With this event im my life, I was touched by the people around me. That made me realize that there are so many things I need to prioritize. Like my family and our future. Love takes proper foundation so we can be assure that It won't be easily end. So right now, im thinking of this things and thing what's better ahead of me..love? maybe at the right time...=)
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
It is a sad thought that you two are separated because of economic reasons. But I guess she is right that you came in too late as she is married already. I guess for as long as the girl doesn't formally separate or divorce from her current marriage then you are bound to be in a situation that you are only a third party. For now it is fine that you still the grief of losing her. It is a natural feeling but as days do pass you should start moving on with your life. She has a life now in Japan and you deserve to have a life of your own here.
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
Thanks...that's what I'm thinking for.I'm satisfied making her fill that there's a person that made her feel special and expressed the love she deserves...Im starting to move on..thanks a lot =)
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
This is a very good story. I hope this will have a fairytale ending soon. In my case, I would say that my first priority is my wife's happiness and safety. That's been my passion ever since. When you love someone, you are always willing to give the world. And that's what I'm doing.
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
yeah it feels good to make someone you love happy because the return it makes you was huge than what you expect. I'm also looking forward for a happy ending befor I reach the age of 26. It's a promised that we made...Her marrige was just for a carrer reason. They don't leave together because its only a proxy marriage (sooner they will devorce since its a part of the deal)=) thanks for making me feel positive about that...5 years from now, I will inform you if that happenes..thanks
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
18 Feb 09
Oh How sad! two lovers couldn't end up with happiness. Sometimes, in life, we all have to encounter something that we reluctant to face. But that is our lives, that is our fate. We have to take it as a fact. It always heartbreaking, and it is always against our ultimate will. It just happened there. I just wanted to say, you will find the one you love again. She will be the most cherished memory in your lifetime. Don't lose hope, you will find love once again.
• Philippines
19 Feb 09
Thanks Clorissa.. Its a sad experience but I guest I learn alot from that. It made me to be a better person each day i remember her. Im just proud of my self that I was able to gave her happiness she's been serching for a long time even for a while..=) we will cherish all the memories we shared..thanks
• South Africa
18 Feb 09
I think you move on with your life, just as she has. She was not honest with you and that is a real relationship breaker. You don't need to marry someone to work in a certain country. All she could have done was to apply for work permit. You deserve better, and I promise you that there is a very good woman out there for you, and soon you will find her. I once had a boyfriend who went on to marry some other girl while we were dating. I told myself that he does not deserve me and that one day I will meet a very good man who will love me truthfully. I met him finally and we have been together for four years. Do not hold on to the past I hope you find her
• Philippines
18 Feb 09
hi sun, I was inspired with what you told me...She got married befor we meet. I felt sorry for her because I know she didn't want to get married with the man she do not love. But she don't have the choice since her parents are the one who forced her to do it. Im satisfied that once in her life, I made her realize that I gave the love she was looking for. And I'm very happy that she was thankfull about that until now..=)