Terribly Depressed

United States
February 22, 2009 8:45am CST
Hi Everyone. I may be having a severe pity party right now, but I just have to vent to someone. Ive been living on nothing but child support for the last 2 years cause Ive applied for disability. OH by the way, I got my first denial yesterday so that has me depressed to. Anyway, the support hasn't come in all month. I am so broke. I had to dig in change to even afford toilet paper. I feel like such a loser having to live this way. I am 42 years old and a failure. Ive had health problems all my life and now because of them Icant work anymore. I couldn't even if I wanted to. I don't have any money for gas so how would I even get there? If there was a job to be had in my town. There isn't. So many people are losing there jobs because of the economy. So I just keep going on like I am. I have to appeal the decision now on disability and have someone else review my case. I am so scared about this. Having depression most of my life, I have never really been happy. And since I got sick, Ive been even more unhappy. Wondering why I am even on this earth. I am in therapy and on medication. But if bad things keep happening to you, there is no way to get out of depression. It is a disorder. Not something you can just get out of. And it is in your brain. Believe me, I wish I could just throw it out the window. I just pray that things will get better for me. Someday.
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6 responses
• United States
24 Feb 09
I do know what you are going through I know two people who waited almost three years for disability.Neither of these people could work they were denied twice and hired a lawyer.They now are on it thankfully and their life is a bit better. Hang in there I know it is difficult,I hope you have a lawyer. Jas
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• United States
24 Feb 09
Hi Jas, Thanks for responding. I don't have a lawyer yet but I am looking right now. I hope I can find one. It has been very difficult doing all this by myself. If you have any suggestions, please let me know.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
15 Apr 09
I've heard that oftentimes, it takes more than one application for disability income before someone is finally accepted. Keep looking up--God's got your back. :)
@suegt31 (165)
• Australia
23 Feb 09
Hi Lagirl1966, it's is horrible feeling this way. I know from experience since i suffer with on going depression just like you. Have you spoken to the people who pay the depression payments about some other kind of payment. Her in Australia, i was on a payment could Newstart where i have to look for work. My job network agantancy (people helping find work) Refered me to a personal support program which excluded me from having to look for work for a while. This program can last up to 2 years. I was still able to get my fortnightly payments. Can't you get a support payment for taking care of your son? A payment like parenting payment. Or even a carers payment? Have you discussed your income with your therapist? I feel they should be able to put you on some kind of payment while your disability payment is sorted. This is possible here in Australia. I am understanding more how you are feeling now. I am sorry that you are in the position you are. I too pray someday that the depression would just go away. Always remember you are not alone. I'm here. Just an email away. You can email me anytime and write how you are feeling to me. I will read and try to get back to you. I do understand depression too. I will pray for you, when i am praying for myself. Please hang in there, remember your son needs you. I know things are tough with him too. Try to keep yourself busy and keep starting discussions, people here on mylot are a wonderful source of information and help.
• United States
25 Feb 09
suegt, You get paid for having depression? That must be nice. I have never heard of that. There is nothing here that will pay you for having it. I am sorry you suffer to. It isn't fun is it? It sounds like a really nice program you have down there. I wish there was something like that here. Since I am in pain daily, there is no way I can work. I need to take frequent bathroom breaks and no employer here would ever allow that. I do get child support(sometimes when they decide to pay) but it is defenitly not enough. It is barely enough to survive. Thanks for the offer to email. I might do that. I will pray for you to. I agree. I think mylot is a great place for support. Take care.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
24 Feb 09
lagirl, please accept my apology for taking so long to get back to your discussion!! Having so much going on yesterday, I didn't have time to but I saved your discussion so I could answer it. Please do not forgo your disability! Appeal appeal and appeal! Don't ever give up!! You really need to get a lawyer and fast!! Don't waste any more of your time, get a disability lawyer to do the fighting for you! Make sure you get a lawyer who doesn't get paid unless you do and the first consultation is free. Once you're in the lawyers office, let him or her know your situation and how dire it is because they can extradite the appeal process and get you a court date A LOT sooner than normal. I know this because hubby is trying to get disability too and his lawyer told him if things get bad to let her know and she could get a court date sooner. Please, get on the phone as soon as possible and get an appointment with a lawyer!! Trust me, you'll be glad you did!
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
24 Feb 09
Let's talk by email.... too much information can be given out on here and we both don't need that!! lol
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
22 Feb 09
Hi Lagirl. I know that society makes it seem like you are a better and non-loser person if you have a job and can support your family in a nicely arranged way possible, but that is not true. I want to tell you that I don't think you are a failure. You are still breathing and tomorrow will come, this is just a bad phase that comes with life that you must deal with. Depression is a difficult thing to deal with and people who can't understand it can't understand that we who are in it don't want to be in it either. If you need to cry, you can cry all that you want and if you need to be mad, you can be mad all you want, but just don't give up. You're not alone at feeling alone. You're doing a good job at scraping some money online, that's a triumph! Best wishes.
• United States
25 Feb 09
Lore, Thankyou for your response and I am sorry it took me this long to respond. I am dealing with so many things right now. Mainly my disability case. It is very stressful. Believe me, I have cried. Alot. I just found out that the growth I had on my cervix has come back alittle. I just keep praying I dont get cancer on top of all everything else. I do hope that I am not a failure. But sometimes I feel like I am. Thanks for writing.
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I'm sorry you have to be going through all that. I think you're really strong, but of course it's normal to feel like we fail too. Best wishes to your health. When will you know what it is?
• United States
14 Jun 09
okay, I know how it feels. I'm only 16, but believe me, I've had depression, I've recovered ansd is off meds now, but depression, I remember not being able to snap out of it. You're not a failure- it isnt a good mind set to have when you have a child. And I'm sure your using your last bit of energy to help your son, i'm sure you are, and that will mean the world to him in the long run. Be proud of yourself for suirviving something most people could not. depression is a war in your mind, and I remember feeling like I was made out of porcelain- so cold, so hard, and shattered to easily. Your strong for going on like you are- I wasnt able too, and didnt have the strength to live, so I tried to die. I'm glad I lived
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
8 Oct 10
Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.