I know that getting married isn't all that, but...

United States
February 23, 2009 11:49pm CST
I want to get married! I'm friggin 25 here, I have 3 children, and I'm starting to think that my dad was right. Maybe I'm not the type of girl guys want to marry. I was engaged a couple of times. The first time I just moved away, the second time the guy was abusive, and the 3rd time... he married someone else. So, I'm feeling like I'm defective somehow. I love the last guy still. I don't think I can stop because the first 2 times were for very stupid reasons. We thought we could get more money from the military if we were married. But, I wasn't in the military when I met the 3rd, I just loved him. For 4 years... we had 2 children together. So, I don't need a list of proposals to make me feel better. LoL. I need my man back... I need to know what I did wrong!
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4 responses
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 09
If he hasn't told you what was wrong by now, I doubt that he is going to. But assuming you are still in touch and he is willing to talk, why not ask? If not, you may have to reconcile yourself to the idea that you may never know. And that is really hard and could drive you totally nuts if you let it. At any rate he is married now, so I think you need to find a way to move past it and possibly find somebody else.
• United States
24 Feb 09
My brain totally agrees with you, my heart is going to take awhile to catch up, though.
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@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 Feb 09
yes, of course it is, that's what's so hard! Take care...
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
Only you can answer that... but I don't think that there's something wrong with you seeing from your picture (was that you?) you look real pretty. Maybe you just haven't found the right man for you. That's still ok, your still 25, your still young! =)
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
24 Feb 09
Sometimes it is us that we make ourselves to what we are into. So I guess you should avoid putting yourself down to what others are saying about you. If your father judge you to be like that then prove to him that you are not. I think there is nothing wrong about you if you start believing in yourself. Maybe there might be defect in you but then try to look what is good about you and from that you might start realizing to know what you lack from yourself.
@Lynnexu (29)
• United States
24 Feb 09
well ,I think you must give youeself some time to think about what kind of life you want ,then find the answer from your heart .