its better to love and hurt than to have never loved at all

@jenisky (406)
Philippines
February 24, 2009 7:22pm CST
hi mylotters!! what do you think about this quote? i kinda believe this quote.it feels great to be in love isn't it? but somehow we experience pains in every relationship and we can't avoid to get hurt.there are people who said they dont want to fall in love again because of the heartache it cause them alot.but for me i still fall and be in love no matter how many pains i'll experience. i may or may not be hurt but at least i fall in love and i learn and its a great feeling to be in love :)
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12 responses
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
26 Feb 09
Hello jenisky! I haven't tried to be hurt yet, because honestly, my husband is my first boyfriend. It felt wonderful because my husband loves me so much. But understanding about that saying, I guess it tells about loving someone and never regret of loving that person although that person hurt you. I agree with it. Better be hurt and grow than not being happy and be loved at all. In every relationship, it's a risk. So we better risk loving that person than regretting all your life because you never tried at all.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
hi aisa, thanks again for the response,you are one of the friendliest i met here in mylot...btw good to know that your husband was your first boyfriend,that was amazing:)
• United States
27 Feb 09
hehehe...I am glad you found me friendly..But if i got mad, I transform into a tiger..lol
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
It's a cliche but like everything else in life, there's always a risk. A gamble whether to find love or heart pains, success or failure or happiness or sorrow. A person can not aspire one without having the chance to get the other. That's just how it is, I guess. Like the quote said "better to have love and hurt than to have never loved at all."
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
yes sometimes we really need to take the risk to find out what is gonna happen:) thanks for the response
• Mexico
25 Feb 09
I believe this is pretty simple, it comes from the fact tthat is bettr have the experiences and the pain that come with , than live a life with no expectations, it also part of the fact that we normally expect the worse to happen, who says you will be hurt??? you don't know that, but if you are, the experience will be worth it!
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
thanks mayaruby for the response:)
@enciel (371)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
i agree with this quote! the whole sentence says it all if you know what i mean :) i would love to experience love and get hurt and try again than never to know what it felt like to be loved! up to now i am waiting for this to happen T_T and i have been waiting a looong time if you should know x_x
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
dont worry that someone will come in God's time :)thanks a lot.
@liza369 (103)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I have heard this quote before and I believe in this. I agree with you though. Id rather be love and at time be hurt and go through the hurt that comes with the relationship.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
thanks for your response lisa..
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
25 Feb 09
Hi, If U donot touch fire,how do you know what 'burning' is.... Gold becomes Pure, when it is burnt, similiarly how do you know the LOVE(all characteristics) until U r Hurt in Love? =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
what a nice way to said your piece..thanks forslahiri:)
@ktosea (2027)
• China
25 Feb 09
that's a good proverb,I think it's reasonable. you lose the chances to love just because of your fear of hurt or pain ahead of you,how silly that is? it's just a normal step to be mature,you will learn nothing if can not take action just because of the uncertain results? if we always think that way,we will lose everything,JUST DO IT,this quote is good
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
thanks for the response..:)
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I could turn that quote around and say you can not miss what you never had. But honestly what is life without love. I think you have to take risks. Maybe it will not work out, but what if it does. You can't miss out on love because you are to afraid to try. We need pain in life, it helps us to earn. We also need the exitement of love.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
we really have to take a risk in life and in love.we wouldn't know the answer if we didn't try. thanks :)
@Aurone (4758)
• United States
25 Feb 09
There is a song with the line "Ain't it better to lose at love then to never love at all?" by Rod Stewart. And even though right now I am on the losing end. My husband walked out on me in November, I still think that quote is true. For even though I am hurting a great deal right now, I don't regret being in a relationship with him.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
i believe that quote too.and you're right you should not regret someone who at one point became a part of your life:)
@katb28 (225)
25 Feb 09
there is an old saying which says better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, i think that it is an experiance we should all have once in our lives when we truly find that one person god has destined us to be with and yes at times you will feel hurt by them but if you never experiance this part of life you would have missed out on so much,
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
thanks for your response kat.we'll surely missed part of it if we didn't try at all :)
@dfollin (12734)
• United States
25 Feb 09
I think it is totally silly.I don't know who came up with that saying but I think it is dumb.
@jenisky (406)
• Philippines
25 Feb 09
hi dfolin,to each his own,we all have our point of views.anyway thanks for the response :)
@oyenkai (4398)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
It's a traumatic experience to be hurt by your loved one - it's one of the many reasons why the relationship ended and people wouldn't be surprised if the hurt party would try to shield himself/herself from further damage. Although feeling loved is the most amazing thing in the world, feeling hurt by the very person you trusted the most is the worst. Frankly, I don't know if I would choose the roller coaster feeling of being in love if there is no happy ending - or if I'd rather live a plain life that is focused on cultivating my skills (which is a good and worthwhile "distraction"). Thanks for the response on my discussion!