Fair weather friends

United States
February 26, 2009 6:58am CST
What do you think of people that will only be your friend if they need something. I made friends with this one lady and she was in need of some help. So we would help her out when ever she needed it. Then we fell on hard times and she just stopped talking to us and even turned on us. What do you think of someone like this???
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@ANTIQUELADY (36492)
• United States
26 Feb 09
i have no use for people like that at all & am not going to fool w/them when i find out they are that away. too many nice people aroung to fool w/somone like that.
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• United States
26 Feb 09
No I well not talk with her anymore. I have no use for people like that in my life. I call them toxic people. Just makes me mad.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36492)
• United States
26 Feb 09
good for u. u don't need people like that in your life, don't any of us.
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@donsky14 (5964)
• Philippines
26 Feb 09
Oh, I call them "user-friendly" ... they just use their friend up. lol. Obviously, they're not really true friends as they're only there when they're in need
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• United States
26 Feb 09
LoL user friendly! I will not be helping her out again.
@donsky14 (5964)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Thanks for the best response. ^_^
@TnWoman (1896)
• United States
26 Feb 09
hello moneymommy i am so sorry to hear about the lady that you became friends with like that for her to not have anything to do with you these days. my family and myself used to rent a house before we moved to the house that we are living in now, and my next door neighbor lady friend, when that i lived beside of her, we would used to hang out and do all kinds of things together. we would go to yard sales, out to eat lunch, we would even go to Doctor's appointments with each other, and we also would play a board game from time to time as well. well, when that she heard the news that we were moving and buying our own house, then she decided that she really didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. what the heck? lol she only calls me now when that she wants me to do something for her or take her somewhere. she called me yesterday morning as a matter of fact wanting me to come and pick her and her two dogs up sometime in March along with Doughnut to go get them all three their rabies shots. whatever. she told me that she'd pay for sissy's rabies shots for coming to pick her and her two dogs up. i am going to take her up on that offer as well. at least we will get to hang out together some in March that day. take care and have a beautiful day today!
• United States
26 Feb 09
I also have my good friends. I moved miles away from them and we still stay in contact for years now. I havent been able to find friends like that again since moving from my home state. Oh well I always have mylot lol.
@winterose (39913)
• Canada
26 Feb 09
they are no friends at all, sometimes people can't help you in the same way as you helped them but they do help in the way that they can, and that is a friend, not someone that just wants you for what you can do for them.
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@derek_a (10904)
26 Feb 09
yes, I have had fair-weather friends too. But it is OK with me. If I have lent them something and they haven't given it back, then they won't get anything else. I tend to be a bit outspoken though and tell such a friend what I think and why, if they ask, I won't give them anything. Otherwise, how are they going to learn that they can't just take advantage of people? Some of them don't even realize what they are doing! Derek
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• Malaysia
26 Feb 09
That kind of "species" is actually a self-centered "species", where only nature can turns them down. It happened so many times in my life and some of them came back to me for other favors. At this point of time, I take "interest" first and just say to them ~ take it or leave it, then I can render my help for those who said "I take it". In life theory, every action there must be reaction.
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@tudors (1556)
• China
26 Feb 09
I think it's ok to have fair weather friends. yeah, we do claim and advocate that " a friend in need is a friend indeed". But if we change a position to reconsider this issue, how many of us, to be honest, can be a friendly shower to our friends as the saying depicts ? are we ourselves always there for our friends to reach? the answer is--- not necessarily so. so i see there is no need to demand others to be our solid friends, to remain loyalty to us in their lifetime. A fine weather friend is also useful, when we want to entertain , we call them to hang out for fun. they have already played their part. that's totally enough. In a word, we need various kinds of friends more than one type.
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