returning home after a degree

United States
February 26, 2009 1:54pm CST
I am a college student and am married. I have my own life and would never dream of moving back in with my mom after I graduated. I know many people though that are planning to move back in with their parents after graduation and I was wanting to understand this better. Why would you move back in after leaving the nest, especially when you are anow qualified to work in a good job?
4 responses
@thungster (157)
• United States
26 Feb 09
There are a couple different reasons. Some people don't always have jobs lined up right after they graduate from college. So, they will move back in with their parents until they find a job. Some of my friends that have already graduated and are currently working also still live with their parents. This is because their jobs are located very close to their parents' home. Since they can't afford to buy a house of their own at the moment, renting an apartment would just be a waste of money since they can just live with their parents while they save up. Another reason is because they are pursuing a higher degree after college. If they are going to go back to school later that same year, or possibly fall of the next year, there isn't really a need to rent an apartment for such a short amount of time. It would probably be better to live at home and save some money for future tuition.
• United States
26 Feb 09
Thank you for your comment. I am glad that there are legitamate reasons, I am affraid that the people I know just want someone to do their laundry and cook for them.
• United States
26 Feb 09
Haha. I forgot about that reason, too. You're right, if the reason is just so someone can cook and clean for them, I always want to tell them to go get a job!
@1hopefulman (34914)
• Canada
1 Mar 09
I'm with you. I never went back, except to visit of course. I like my freedom. I would only go back if their health or some other important reason needed my return.
• United States
27 Feb 09
I am married and it's a moot point now. But the only reason I would move back in with Mom now was that she was so ill to the point that she couldn't do anything for herself. She is not there yet. She does have cancer, but it is at stage "zero" pretty much, well under control by radiation. The spot on her lung was small to begin with. But she can still cook--enjoys the heck out of it too. She can go to the bathroom by herself, she can walk (although she has arthritis), she can talk on the phone, she can read for herself--she is very alert and articulate, especially when it comes to the political issues of the day. She is fiercely independent. She has made it clear that she does not want us to move in with her, or vice-versa. I was determined when I left school that I would carry my own weight, and try to find a job for myself. I was still single and looking for Ms. Right. You know, women have written songs about men who still live at home with their mommies and daddies after 30. Such men are the butt of their jokes, and rightly so. I wouldn't want my daughter married to one of them.
• United States
26 Feb 09
well the thing is there are a lot of things out there to make you move back home. i am sort of in the same situation. i didnt graduate but i left home in dc and started school in pa. i thought of movin back home bc sometimes unfortunate things happen, especially in today's economy. just make that a last resort. but it never hurts to have an extended visit.