MYLOT and Friendship

@kerriannc (4280)
Jamaica
February 26, 2009 3:16pm CST
Firstly I don't know if this is the right interest to put this discussion or to put it under friendship but still I am going to make it stay here. I really want to know what is the really value of friendship here in MYLOT. I have noticed that there are persons here who request friendship from you yet they never contributed to your discussions. Then you deleted them and after couple of months they requested again. The true meaning of friendship to me is to support each other whether it is online or offline. Although alot of us say that the money is second I know that it is not so because every morning my eyes goes to the panel to see how my earning is and then I started to contribute to my friends discussions. I don't see the reason to accept friendship from persons who were already on my list and never make it to my discussions. So I will just politely say it is no use to request friendship from me if you are not contributing. Everyone who knows me Know that I am a responder and I will come to each and everyone discussion and give my little bit. But when it comes to putting out a discussion I want to see my friends there as well. I might sound as if I am ranting but I am not. There are alot of persons who are experiencing this as well. Having over ten friends and never seen more than five responses which only include two genuine friends is not uplifting. I think that persons should realize that MYLOT is base on friendship. Even referral will come and get ignore by the person who invited them here. I think that you all need to rethink and understand that no one is an island and no one stands alone. If you are not prepare to contribute to my discussions please don't waste your time requesting friendship from me. Have a Holy and Blessed Lent Season Kerry
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@mathss1 (1181)
• United States
26 Feb 09
you are right Njoy
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• United States
27 Feb 09
allow me to rant here just a tiny bit I agree that this place is based on friendship! I used to be one of your friends but went by a different name I know that you were looking for me after I had to cancel the other account so i sent you an IM on yahoo (you never bothered to respond) and I tried to re-request you with this account. twice you denied me so I wonder, are there different levels of friendship? are there only circumstantial friendships? what is the value of friendship to you?
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
I didn't get your IM and I am becoming to figure out who this is. I am so happy that you explain because there are alot of trolls who were attacking me and I didn't want to accept friends until those trolls were under control. I am so happy to reunited with you again. I am sending you a friend request please to accept. I don't know what went wrong with the IM message because there are times when it will seems as if I am online but I am not. Please my dear I am really sorry and I am glad that you have come to this discussion and explain. Please to accept my apologies.
• United States
28 Feb 09
of course i accept your apology!!! apparently there was some miscommunication and some paranoia due to trolling issues please accept my apology for taking my frustrations out here on this discussion hugs?
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
28 Feb 09
That's o.k. dear and hugs to you too.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I got your point of view, it is perfectly understandable that if some one requested your friendship should at least try to participate in your discussions even if not all after being a friend for several months. I found out some members did not have much courtesy even to respond to comments posted by me in their discussions let alone comment in my topic of discussion after considered by me as a friend, so i decided to delete some of these not so true friends of mine yesterday and manage to reduce number of friends in my list, i am sorry to do that since i don't have too much time on hand to try to support all my friends that is not sincere. I hold the same sentiment like you feeling that since i supported their discussion and participate in topic they started, at the very least, they need to repay in kind and give some supports to me instead of just take. You are right to spell it out clearly in here for whoever requested to have you as a friend in the first place. you are a very straight forward person, that is good to know that.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
Hi lampar I am outspoken and sometimes it get me into trouble . But I believe that it is better to let persons know what you have inside then having it fester I think that this would be hypocritical. I hope that persons will understand what friendship means here in MYLOT and change the ways how they do things here. Thanks for your input and I hope that those that you have retain on your list will continue to contribute to your discussion and you to your's.
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@lampar (7597)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I surely hope so with those friends i chose to retain. Those who never gave me any supports at all , and i mean not even one comment in my eight discussion topics even though had been my friends for several months and i contributed at least few if not all in their discussions are disappointing me, now i can understand the reasons why some members just requested for my friendship at the beginning, a lesson learn in mylotting, trying to think of it in a positive way. lol!
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
I got your point and it seems good if we support each other then maybe we get more. Then include me as your friends here in my lot. LOL have a holy blessed lent too - jude
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
27 Feb 09
I do try to come and answer your discussions, and I see that you try your best to answer to mine. This is how it should work
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
Fwiddy my dear this does not refer to you and the others who are always in my discussions also know that it does not refer to them either. There are alot of persons who are going through what I had written about. I am always thankful to see your sexy shoes my dear. Are you feeling better now. Kerry
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
26 Feb 09
I truly agree with you. Some people also request friend from me too. I approved all of them. But when it comes to my open discussion, only 1 or few postings. That is really frustrated act. I don't really appreciate your friend request earlier, I shouldn't approved any of you all at all.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
• United States
26 Feb 09
I myself have been thinking a lot about this lately myself. But I think a reason that a lot of my friends to not respond to me is because I do not respond to them. I have been making more of an effort to do that. See I was going to the no responses colunm here at mylot and responding to people that had none to theirs. To me it just made sense. Now that I have been on mylot for 4 months I know a little more about how the site works I make every effort to respond to others that are on my list. I also have noticed another thing as well. A lot of my friends from when I first started are not really active here on mylot and I would prefer to unfriend them, I think sense you have brought this up I am gonna do that right now and kinda do a go through and see who has been active and who has not, I mean I want to be active and I try to make the effort to sign in everyday, I mean life happens but I am here to learn and earn and I need friends that plan on doing the same for me. Good discussion and I totally understand where you are coming from. I am a little wiser now about mylot so I think I can make better decisions as well! Take care and happy mylotting to you.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
27 Feb 09
Hi mom I am glad that you take the timeout to understand what MYLOT is all about and I hope that you will continue to be successful here.
@KrauseHome (35522)
• United States
1 Mar 09
These are some awesome thoughts there, and I feel the people we can really count on as a Friend here, are the ones we get to know by them responding back to our discussions all of the time, and we taking time to respond back to theirs. There are quite a few people in here I know I can count on and that is good. No a friend does not have to respond back to all of my New discussions but if their is one here that they can, that is much appreciated for sure.