Second Chance
By Llonorra22
@Llonorra22 (1150)
Philippines
February 27, 2009 2:37am CST
Hello, lotters!! I have this long-time friend that I've known for quite a while. He is always there for me to be my friend. We've a lot of our secrets too. I can say that he is the only friend that I can shamelessly tell anything to. He's always there for me to be my friend. Although we're friends we know for a fact, that we do like each other. (In fact, he planned to court me then but he refrained because I had a boyfriend then.) Another thing is, we have a lot of things to consider. We are both handicapped. He is a polio victim while I'm cerebral palsied. Nevertheless, we had a very short-lived relationship that ended weeks ago. He chose to end it because according to him he is not worthy of the love I'm giving him. Though it ended, we still remained friends. Just yesterday, he told me through a text massage that we have a lot of talking to do. He said that we need to talk about "us". I still do care for him a lot but I'm afraid that he would hurt me again. What would I do now dear lotters? Should I give him another chance? How should I know say that he is sincere? Or should I just let him be my friend? Please share your thoughts and opinion on this... Thanks a lot in advance... Happy posting to all of us!!
12 responses
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
27 Feb 09
Sit down and talk to him, hear what he has to say, and tell him how hurt you are, and how you feel. Talk in depth and get everything out, and then the two of you can decide what is best for the both of you.
Your handicaps should not matter.
Good luck.
Hugs MaryLynn
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@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Thanks a lot MaryLynn... We really need to talk. I was really surprised when he said that. In fact, he'll visit me tomorrow..
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@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
Thanks a lot my new friend. I promise to keep you posted. Happy posting!
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@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
28 Feb 09
Hi there
Message me anytime. I will be glad to listen.
I am glad that he will visit tomorrow, just sit down and let him know how you feel about everything.
Good luck, chat with you later
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
27 Feb 09
I think you are in the best position to decide for yourself. He may be sincere and the fact that he comes back to you shows he still have the feelings for you. If you love him let him go but if he comes back to you he is yours to keep.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
I really hope that he is really the one for me Zandi, Wish me luck... thanks a lot...
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@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Hi Llonorra22, I think why don't you give him a chance to express what he feel for you. It's so nice if you started as friends it's a good foundation in a relationship. It's getting to know each other. Just let it flow. One thing it's like he can't let go not having you as a friend or more on that. If your not ready for a relationship tell him if he could wait well he loves you too much that you don't know what he really feels. He will respect your decision if he is really sincere to you. Love moves in mysterious ways. Sometimes my friend a relationship needs space to think and you respected that now let him win you back. It's your ball not his. Go girl you deserve the best in this world and that is your happiness. You take care my friend! God will always make a way!
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Thank you, n30wing for a very sincere and heartfelt response. I admit that I'm happy now but I don't want to feel it to much.. I just take each day as it comes with a prayer that it would be better for us this time. Wish me a lot of luck my friend... God bless you and your family always!
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
Hey my friend or my younger sister, make it slow, let him wait for the right time, if he loves you he will stay. It's not his ball it's yours. Just smile and the world will smile with you. You take care! Count on me always like a brother to you! Have to go now having a date with my fiancee hahaha!
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
yes bro!!! Thanks a lot for your advice... As of now we enjoy texting each other...
@ketybhagat (4123)
• India
6 Mar 09
I wonder why he did leave you in the first place. He is your friend and more. He left you for his own reasons. Let him win you back. Place your card on the table and be frank. If he loves you truely, he will accept you as you are. Give love another chance for maybe he has realised his mistake in the space apart. Good luck.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Hello Kety,
Maybe he's a bit confused by our situation. I understand what he thinks. I know we have a lot of things too consider before we have a relationship. You can read the second part of my story, please go to my profile and read my discussion entitled: "A Special Friend(Second Chance 2) Thanks and GOD bless you...
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
well if you feel like he deserves to have a second chance then why not. he may now realize that the love you are giving is what he needs to live and breath. if you feel like you are better be of as friends then there is no reason for you to think twice. you need to talk to him and hear what he wants to say.... then from that you can think of what to do. balance what you feel when he starts talking... do you still feel the love or do you just feel a friendly feeling about him. he said you both have a lot of things to talk about.... then talk. after that you can now answer this questions. goodluck hope it will be a easy thing for you to decide.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
27 Feb 09
I really hope things would be better for us this time. I know we still have a lot of thing to consider particularly our "condition" but I really hope for the best. Thanks a lot my friend!
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@suzzy3 (8342)
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27 Feb 09
He misses you .Sometimes the transition between friends and lovers can be a difficult one,my husbands cousin both had polio as children and they have both married with children and are very happy,maybe he feels not enough of a man to look after you and give you the extra care you need,but you must make him realise that he is just what you need.Between you,you will deal with anything life throws at you and you love each other no one can argue with that,tell him you love him ,tell him you want him around,for goodness sake to find someone you love and to look after is a gift you would be silly to throw that away,take care love suzzy3 xx
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
That's a nice story! What you've said, almost made me cry.... I really miss him too. He may not be perfect but I can surely accept and love him for who he is. I just hope and pray that God will guide me always... thanks for your response.
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@melissapalardy (213)
• United States
28 Feb 09
first thing, i would let him know how hurt you were when he ended it the first time. you can't go back and forth with him. your heart can't take it. but try to understand why he did it. i would give him another chance and let him know that you two are in it together and if he is crazy enough to end it again, then you should leave it that way.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
28 Feb 09
I'll take your your advice my friend... Thanks for your response!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Feb 09
I think only you can make up your mind on this one, we don't know him we don't know if he is sincere or not,
if you think in your heart of hearts that he is the one for you, then give him another chance, to prove himself, if you think that he is not and it could never work then don't go there.
I really is something that you need to figure out for yourself.
@lucy19851120 (261)
• China
6 Mar 09
it's a command to be loved by anyone else,when you have the boyfriend,and we should know that there no more pure feelings bettween the woman and the man,so when one has the "spouse,or the half "plese keep distance with others,if you like hte "friend",and he is more worhty to be valued,u can give up ur boyfriend ,then live with your "friend",but u should considerate it well.wish u lucky
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
My first boyfriend and I broke up years ago. This "friend" that I'm talking about is my ex, who I thought would ask for a second but he never did. Please go to my profile and read my discussion entitled; "A Special Friend (second Chance 2)" for you to know what happened. Thanks a lot for you response Lucy...
@shiwangipeswani (613)
• India
6 Mar 09
hi shiwangi here
sorry to here about your 'special condition',but honey i still say tat you must give him a second chance for sure ,may be after staying away from you he may realized what u mean to him.
you should give him a second chance.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
I really hope so too my friend... As of now, we're just enjoying the "special friendship" that we have right now. But whatever happens I will always be here as his friend.. Thanks a lot my friend. Happy posting...
@cabinet24 (15)
• Philippines
4 Mar 09
well I guess if your really still care form him give him a chance.. don't be afraid to get hurt because it will only make you stronger. And if you give him a chance your not only helping him your also helping yourself to be freed by what if's and regrets. If he hurts you again then at least you gave your best and its not your loss anymore but his. so go girl! just keep on fighting we might not now things will turn out just fine.
@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
Hello cabinet24! That's what I'm hoping for then, but I was wrong. You can read my full story, go to my profile and please read my discussion entitled; "A Special Friend(Second Chance 2)" for you to know what happened. Thanks for your response my new friend....
