How do you feel about giving advice to grown children?

United States
March 3, 2009 11:49pm CST
Do you only give advice when asked, do you offer it anyway? I f you see something that they could do better , or maybe they are just wrong, would you say something?
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Hi eaforeman6! Most of the time, I really don't give advice unless I am being asked. And there were times that I will offer it anyway. I guess it depends on the situation and how I perceived the person. There are those times that they won't be asking but you can feel or sense that they are really needing one. Take care and blessings to you. lovelots..faith
• United States
12 Mar 09
Thats really good because it sounds like you have a good plan on this! Take care and all best wish's to you! Thank heavens for good advice! We all need it sometimes. Appreciate the response!
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
12 Mar 09
Hi dear friend! You are right--we all need good advice! lovelots..faith
• United States
15 Mar 09
Yes I give advice to my grown children. My son and his girlfriend just had a baby and mom has asked me a lot of questions about what to do with the baby. I have also suggested things when she says things have come up. My son does not take the suggestions as well as his girlfriend does. When they first had the baby they where trying to burp him by patting him very gently with their fingers on his back. Well I am a patter from way back. They would say, "Here go to Granny she is a good burper or she can seem to get you to burp" I had to tell them I pat and they where to gentle. They soon learned how to burp my grand son.
• United States
18 Mar 09
They are really lucky to have you there to help them. It is really hard when you are learning and do not have a teacher. Appreciate the response and have a greatt evening!
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@GardenGerty (101688)
• United States
5 Apr 09
I try to think twice then speak once. My daughter and son in law are pretty cool with it, even if they do not agree. My only person who is not cool is my daughter in law, and she gets really bent out of shape. Her mom has always given her lots of unwanted advice.I know she responds to me out of her experience, but I have to bite my tongue or tred lightly.
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• United States
14 Apr 09
I love your idea, think twice and speak once, let us now pass this on the higher ups making the decisions for our country.....you are wise in your thoughts, my friend and we should all follow your example.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I don't give advice unless they ask me for it...but on occasion do offer a suggestion as to how to do it better....but only in the right instance...not when they are fighting with their spouse or something...LOL...I steer clear of trouble when I can!
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• United States
9 Mar 09
Good suggestions are great! I usualy say, you might want to... so that it does not sound like some type of order or demand...I never want to come off sounding like a bossy person. I appreciate good advice. If it can save time and money,or trouble then I am all for it.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I have given advice because my mom and my mother-in-law always gave me advice.. It isn't always taken nowadays because children have different degrees of respect for parent than we did as younger adults.. I didn't always go by the advice that I was given but I listened anyway.. I wished that I had taken every bit of their advice because now as I am getting older and "wiser", I know they were giving me the best advice that I could have ever gotten from anyone.. We all have to learn from our own mistakes and that is sad because we could benefit greatly from the advice of the elderly.. We need to listen because they know what they are talking about.. Now with a grown son, I know guess he is making all of his own mistakes and my advice is not needed, so I keep my mouth shut, because I know he will not be listening..
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• United States
9 Mar 09
Isnt, that true. It easier as we get older and wiser. I know that I wish I had listened to more when I was younger.. Hope you have a great day my lotting! Best wish's and appreciate you sharing.and Happy my lotting!