Do you monitor your spouses spending habits?

@vivasuzi (4125)
United States
March 4, 2009 12:20pm CST
Ever since my husband and I got married and merged accounts, I find it hard not knowing what he's spending money on. I used to ask him all the time what that charge was for or why he took out x dollars of cash this week, etc. I do think that in the beginning that I learned a lot about where he spends money and now I know when I see charges what they are for. I think it's good to do this because both parties should know where the money is going. Now it's been almost 2 years and I still get curious when I see he took cash out today, and last week, and the week before. It's harder with cash b/c you don't know exactly what's being purchased. however I've learned that I can usually figure it out if I really think about it. I'll say Oh yeah, he went to that sporting event this week, and we did the fundraiser last week, and after I do a little thinking I don't even have to ask him (even though I still feel the urge!) I figure as long as he is not going nuts I don't need to know where ever 10$ bill goes. So how about you? Do you monitor closely every single dime your spouse spends? Some families have one person who takes care of all the money and they actually give their spouse a monthly allowance. I don't want to do that at all, I am more just making sure he's spending money wisely. After all, I sometimes am on sites like mylot or writing reviews just to earn 20$ a month - I wouldn't want to find out he is wasting 20$ a month on junk after all my work. But at the same time I've learned to be less focused on the minor expenses and only question the big ones.
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@cream97 (29167)
• United States
4 Mar 09
I wouldn't say monitor... But, I do notice how he spends the money. HIS money that is. I don't work, I wish that I could.. When it comes to our tax refund money, I will ask him how much is left. Because I was told that half of that money is mines.. But he keeps it all like it is his... I don't get half.. Not even close.. That is one of the reasons why I wished that I was not married. If he wanted me to pay for something, he will give me the money. But he holds all of it on him or in his bank account.. We don't have any joint accounts together..
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@vivasuzi (4125)
• United States
5 Mar 09
It sounds like something you guys need to work out. All the pre-marriage sessions said money is a big issue and you should definitely have joint accounts. Your his wife so even if you don't work it is YOUR money too!