Killer Kids

@TLChimes (4822)
United States
March 5, 2009 10:30am CST
We've all heard the stories and they are getting to be more prevalent. Too many very young kids are killing. And sometimes over the littlest things. Now I know some of them are "sick" and others abused but still others come from "good" homes and everyone is surprised. So I often have several thoughts that come to mind. Maybe we can talk about them and see if we can figure it out. What makes a child kill? What is a good punishment for a child that kills? At what age should they be held as an adult? What signs do you see a head of time that can be a clue to stopping it from happening? Here's a great site to check out real quick **** Not a referral link**** http://www.violentkids.com/violence_facts.html This a great article too: http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/pto-19920901-000027.html
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I honestly think that some kids just don't think through the consequences when they deliberately hurt someone else. I think they are so angry at the time, that they just can't think clearly. Do they know better? I think so. I think a five year old would know that you should "kill" anybody. What does their actions stem from? Could be any number of things: abuse, teasing, harassment, they feel threatened, etc...Sometimes, a child that age doesn't know how to ask for help or they don't really understand what they are feeling. A good punishment for a child that kills? Depends on their age. That 11/ or 12 year old boy should be sent to some type of juvenile facility. He should remain there until he is 25 years old. He should be allowed to finish his education while working on how to handle his feelings in a more appropriate manner. You never know what might drive someone over the edge, therefore I reason there is no room in our society for bullying or harassing and those that are dishing out the harassment should be punished as well.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You are very right. I don't think young (9) kids understand that there is no going back from something like this. I think perventing is the best we can hope for. I think jail time is the harshes thing they face. Too bad we aren't good at chatching things before they get too bad for a kid to handle. Thanks for stopping in!
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@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
6 Mar 09
some of the signs are 1: thier behavor is changing 2: being crule to aniamls 3: becoming with drawn 4: hanging out with a new group of friends. i think they might hear what parents are saying and even doing to that tech them this hate. and most parnets want to ignore the signs they are seeing and hearing for thier kids. saying oh it's nothing kids will be kids. or saying my kids won;t do that. but i think if the kids who wants to do a grown up crime should get sentace as an adult. if the kids are being abouse, and others see this. people need to step up and get more involve with the cause. if i saw someone kids who's being abuse i would report famiy, or friends don't matter too me. but the biggest part starts at home, people can it's the games, music or movies but it's the parnets responablies to teach them the different. kids need more things to do then watching, playing and listening to music. i notice most parents aren't wanting to give the kids things to do around the house. and if the law allows to whip the crap out of our kids when they do bad it will be different. look in the pass when we were kids, we got spankies and no kids ever killed another
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• United States
6 Mar 09
yeah i watched dr phil yesterday about kids. one thing i've notice parnets are too worry about hurting thier kidds feelings when they do wrong. i used to tell my kids, i can your friend or your dad. you do good then i am your friend, but you do wrong i am your dad who will whip your a$$, it's cause i care, and love you. i am a true beliver in tough love, hell my kids knew they didn't have to call the cops on me, i took them to the cops and said here keep them. my two knew i didn't play at all with them.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You, my friend, are a good man. The past is sadly gone. Kids are to empowered by laws meant to protect them. I am of the mind that there is a big difference between disapline and abuse. And I too would (and have) report abuse no matter who was doing it. Parents need to know their kids and many are "too busy" or simply don't care. Thank you for stopping by!
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I guess, parents should explain this to children. children see things on television, and we as parents need to explain the difference between reality and non reality. In the same way we explain superheroes arent real. Maybe we assume they will already know it isnt ok.... This isnt for all of them, as some do know the difference yet choose to do it anyway. I dont know what causes it, but I do know there are very early warning signs, and sometimes parents, dont want to think that way about their children, which could lead to denial, or not getting them the help they need early on in order to prevent something like this. I hope this makes sense.
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@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
5 Mar 09
I think it can be contributed to many things in our society. I have seen many parents not correct their child when they have done wrong. Actually they encourage misbehavior by laughing and thinking it is cute. What does that teach a child? Nothing. Video games have nothing on a parent that don't teach their children right from wrong. Certainly kids in the 70s and 80s watched violent cartoons and none of them were shooting up schools, at least we never heard of it back then. Violent games is just a scapegoat for poor parenting. Parents too busy with careers to give a rats behind what their children do. End of rant.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Mar 09
You rant so well. You're right... it's a parents job to teach right from wrong and like I've said be aware of what their kids are doing. Parents take on that responsibility when they make that child theirs. But then look at all those parents who kill or mistreat their kids. UGH.... imagine what our future holds.
@emilie2300 (1882)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think people should see the warning signs and get the children help to prevent it. Like the boy that killed the dads girlfriend. He made a statement in december about wanting to kill her. These comments kids say need to be taking very seriously because you just never know it may be all talk. But it may be very real and there screaming out for help and we need to get the help for them. Before it is to late. Inocent people do not need to be killed.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I agree with all that I have. People need to learn to listen to their kids. They need to learn to watch and be aware... so things don't go this far and this irreversible. Thanks for responding.
• United States
7 Mar 09
Your welcome. It is very true we do need to listen to our children. We may not want to hear what there saying or belive we are hearing it. But we need to wake up and take care of it before it is to late. Then we look back and say yeah I think I should have done something it might of not happen this way. No do it as soon as you see the warning signs. They are serious.
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@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
there was a recommendation that i saw on tv that if a child cannot be tried as an adult then, maybe, the parents be the ones to take the place of that child. absurd, yes. if people and the justice system deem that a child thinks differently from an adult then, who should take blame and responsibility for the crimes of these kids? the victims? i would like that day to come that people who are responsible for the onset of this killer behavior of children be the ones who would be tried. let's see if these killer kids wouldn't diminish in number through the guidance of the very same people who are also responsible for them getting out of control. life isn't all about work and trying to find another person so you can marry again and dream of more children. once you have a child life is enough already. a child isn't an animal that you can let out after a few hours for they can take care of themselves. i thought 18 is the legal age. after that parents have no hold anymore. what are the parents of these killer kids doing from their birth up to the time they reach 18? obviously, with the result: just thinking only of themselves. so who do you think should be tried in place of these killer kids?
@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think that if the kids aren't held responsible then they will do it again so I don't think In Place Of, is a good idea. I also don't think trying the parents will work as a deterrent or a lesson. I do think they should be held in account if they have done nothing to prevent things, or have done things to cause the problem. There are 9 year olds killing their father because he spanked them too much. A 12 year old killed his step mom and her almost due baby girl because she yelled at him too much. There is something seriously wrong with kids this young even being able to get to weapons let alone using them.