Rihanna Needs Professional Help!!!

@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
March 6, 2009 5:27pm CST
I don't normally talk about subjects like this. For one thing, I barely know anything about Rihanna and Chris Brown. But I know more than I care to admit about abusive relationships and I can not believe that this young lady has reconciled with this monster. Last night I was watching the news and for the first time I saw how her face looked when he got finished with her. Why is it that our young people go back to this kind of madness? Certainly, she does not need him. I hope she does not think that he loves her or that she can change him. So what is the problem? I will be honest, the more that I think of this, the more angry I get. Our children look to these people as role models and right now they are doing exactly what we talk ourselves blue, trying to get them not to do. But I was thinking, this is the perfect example to use to let our children know that this is animal behavior and not acceptable at all. My guess is that Rihanna is feeling like she deserved what happened to her, just because she read something that was really known of her business. But I say, just because you think you have a reason to beat on someone, that does not give you the right to do it. Young men and women need to also learn that they do not own their girlfriends and boyfriends. You can not control what a person does, the only thing that you can control is how you respond to it. I hope that both of these young people come to their senses in a hurry.
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@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I can't agree with you more. Number one, how do we know Chris Brown hasn't abused her previously, but it just didn't "show" up before, at least not to the extent of the injuries she recently suffered but being repeatedly hit by Brown, and even heard he bit her left ear while in the car that night. The problem as I see it, and have no idea of Rihanna's background, but who knows? She may (or may not) have come from a history of abuse in her background..maybe her parents? Some women too, seem to be drawn to abusive relationships with the idea that they can change their man. She's a total fool for reconciling with Brown since who knows? The next time she's abused by him, she might not be so "lucky"---I understand from the news media that there exists a worse picture of her that really shows the real extent of her injuries but hasn't been released yet.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
Please don't tell me that it is worse than the media has shown. It breaks my heart to see such a young woman go through something so horrible. I hope she comes to her senses before this man kills her. But this is one of those decisions that only the victim can make.
@alexsis (2149)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I've been in an abusive relationship. I had left him when he had physically abused me for the second time, but sad to say I went back to him. I had loved him too much and he had said that he would change. But he never changed. He said he was sorry and that he would never hit me again. A couple of months later he hit me again and thats when I had enough courage to leave and never go back. Its been 3 years since I've been gone and I'm not going back ever. So I know what Rihanna is thinking and going through. She loves him too much, but he doesn't love her because love doesn't hurt. And she feel for his apology and felt sorry for him just like I had did. But I promise you he will hit her again. They both need professional help. She need to move on with her life without him in it. Some sources are saying that they are married, but not legally married(like Tracey and Eddie Murphy). Rihanna is a beautiful young lady and she can get anyone she wants, so I'm hoping that she is not thinking that Chris is the only one that wants her.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
I was so shocked when I heard that she had went back to him. My first thought was where is her family. I remember being in an abusive relationship for many years. There was a time when we were going to marry. But when I spoke to my aunt about it, she told me that if he hit me once, he will always hit me. I was so glad that I listened to her. To this day, he is still angry at her for telling me that. I left him for good in 1997, but we still talk on the phone sometime. He is very sick right now. But I will say this, no one has ever done me like Cris did Rihanna. You would not have to convince me to get away from that.
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Its nice seeing you. I so agree with you on this subject. Actually I think he needs to be beat like what he did. Who the heck does he think he is. What he did is horrible and he needs to have some big trouble from it. She needs to wake up, is this what she wants, is this how she wants to live. If she does stay with him, the next time (and there will be a next time)might be fatal. I have had a few experiences with guys that thought they were going to hit me, I don't think so, I hit back, I am no mans punching bag. I always taught my son not to be hitting girls and I have told his girlfriends and now his wife, that if he ever thought he was going to hit them, that I expected them to press charges and throw him in jail. Abuse like that should not be tolerated by anyone.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 Mar 09
Thank God for mothers like you. If there were more mothers like you, this world would be a much nicer place. He has already threatened to kill her and he will. Especiallly, since he has been publicly humiliated and is facing jail time. I just hope that they both get help before it is too late.
@mrsyen (43)
• Philippines
6 Mar 09
This is so common among abused women. Most of them go back to the abusive partner even after they get the living crap beat out of them. Some do it out of mistaken love, others suffer from very low self-esteem and insecurity that they will have no one else in their life. The sad part here is that they almost never listen to good advice from people close to them. It is unfortunate that someone like Rihanna, who seemed to be a strong, independent, modern woman, should be drawn into this kind of trap. She definitely should seek professional help!
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 Mar 09
The way he beat her, the next time he will surely kill her. He already said it and there is nothing to covince me that he will not follow through completely.
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
6 Mar 09
I think so too after the way he beat the devil out of her. I would never let him near me again. That man has problems and he also need professional help. Did you hear the them describe how he beat her repeatedly? No way not me I am not the one.
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@mrsl2008 (634)
7 Mar 09
It is common for abused men or women to return to their abuser because they feel it is their fault. Domestic abuse comes to light with the Police/authorities roughly after the 26th event or there abouts according to research, so chances are something similar but not as severe has already happened. Her face was awful and there have been pics in the paper of her blood inside his car. MrsL x x
@mrsl2008 (634)
7 Mar 09
Oops!! Half my comment got wiped! I hope she gets help & strong enough to walk away from him & show it can be done!! I would be happier if she could turn it around to give a positive spin for anyone else who is going through this sort of thing. MrsL x
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
This is one of the reasons that I am so concerned. These two are role models whether they choose to be or not.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
Hi Rozie dear! How are you? I completely agree with you that she needs someone to make her realize her true worth and that no one has the right to hurt anyone that way. Hopefully there are some people close to her who would advise her properly and hopefully she would listen. With her experience, I do hope that many will learn from that and hopefully those who are still in the same situation would come to their senses and have the courage and strength to walk away from an abusive relationship. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
I believe that one of the reasons that this is hitting me so strongely is that a lot of young people look up to them and will think that getting back together is the right thing to do after being abused like this. Some young people are being abused in silence, so it is important for their parents to take this opportunity to talk to them about the right and wrong way to handle this type of thing.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
11 Mar 09
Hi dear friend! yes, I do agree that many young people idolizes these two celebrities and getting back may send wrong signals to the youth. lovelots..faith
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
8 Mar 09
Hi, Rozie37. And like all others I have been through mental and verbal abuse, some physical as well. I have never gotten hit or beaten down. But, I have went back to my husband. Right now, I am praying that God will show me the way if he wants us to be together. Right now, my husband is not feeling too well. He had surgery on his arm. So, as his wife, I am being there for him. But, if he ever had to beat me like Chris Brown beat Rihanna, then I know that it is time for me to go! That is when he can kill me and that is no love. I can sympathiize with Rihanna. I know how hard it is to leave someone thast has abused you in any way. My husband has told me during our marriage that I have abused him. I disageee... I believe that he is the one that has done most of the damage, making many threats that were verbally done. So, with Rihanna, I feel sorry for her. I really do. Chris bruised her all up. That is not a forgiving thing that I could do. The only reason why Chris wanted to get back with her, is because he knew that his fame and career was in Rihanna's hands. He did not want it to go to waste. So, that prevented her from testifying against him in court. He was let off that easily. It could never have been me. He would have went straight to prison, no celebrity or not. What he did was wrong, and if Rihanna grabbed his phone, that still gives him no reason to do what he did. I think that Chris has mental problems. And there are stories that he has been trying to cheat on Rihanna many times. I really don't think that he loves her at all! And I heard, that she was pregnant with his child, that may could be another reason why she chooses to hold onto Chris. This is very sad. And I admit that they are sending the wrong message to many young people.. Plus old too.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
I have not heard that he will not be doing time for this. I would hope that this is not true. They were saying that he could get anywhere from probation to four years. I hope that he gets the maximum and that Rihanna moves on and finds true love during that time.
@cher913 (25887)
• Canada
7 Mar 09
well she sure needs something. men that hit their wives/girlfriends once are definitely bound to do it again. she needs something to give her the self confidence to move on.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
You are absolutely right.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
I love hat you said "Just because you think you have a reason to beat on someone, that does not give you the right to do it". You are right on that! Simple but clear! I remember before when I was so mad at my boyfriend I wanted to slap him so hard but then I controlled myself because though I am so mad at him, still wouldn't do me any good to hurt him. I wish people would learn to have self control especially when it comes to their anger.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
Self control takes a lot of discipline and work, but first the person has to see the need and want to be more in control of themselves.
@Zeens86 (60)
• India
7 Mar 09
I know that they have reconciled, just goes to show that love is blind. And Rihanna will realize that Chris isn't the one for her,and when she does it will be too late for her. I don't care about Chris brown, his reputation just dropped in front of all his woman fans.And i got more pissed that he isn't taking this situation seriously.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
The thing that scares me the most is that a lot of his young fans may not stop liking him because of what he has done. They may start to think that it is alright for a man to hit them in such a way.
• United States
7 Mar 09
You know what? I starated a discussion on abuse and women staying in it. You should try to look it up. I don't understand it either. My sister has done that, and her excuse is she likes being treated bad. I mean I don't believe in this kind of behavior I agree with you 100%!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
Maybe your sister does like being treated bad. But ask her if she is willing to die too. Eventually, a lot of these situations lead to that.
@hotsummer (10465)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
i am too was surprised why she got back to chris after what he had done to here. don't she feel threatened that this man may in another time hurt her again if not more badly. cause i feel that once has done it once the chance of this act being repeated is so high. that most people who do this kind of thing to women have some emotional and psychological problem and there is no way that they can stop this from happening. and so i think that the best to stop this is to get out of the relationship as soon as possible. no women deserved to be beaten and hurt by their man physically or even emotionally and mentally.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
They say that he bit her, for goodness sake, that is the behavior of an animal. Maybe she should speak to Robin Givens. Mike Tyson was a biter too. Remember he bit his boxing opponent?
@cripfemme (7714)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I don't understand why she went back to him either. I bet a bunch of her woman fans are going to stop liking her because she did that. As far as I am concerned with any person, I may love you but if you hit me we are done. There is no second chance it my opinion, unless of course the person was really high at the time and get help from an organized program like AA or NA. Then I might consider taking them back ;note that I said might;. No guarantees!
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
Some of her male fans may go after Cris Brown. You know how obsessed fans can become. But he is young enough to change his ways, if he desires, but they are the only ones that can do what is bast for themselves.
• United States
7 Mar 09
i understand where you are coming from.. my husband and i read the report this mornign and i was so shoked on how bad he beat her. i think he deserves to lose everything he has got after this. i totally lost respect for him. i think girls are quick to stay because we dont want to look for "love" all over again and i think sometimes we think "oh it was just a one time thing" or maybe that we can make a difference...but most times it is not that way.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Mar 09
She might as well keep looking for love, she certainly has not found it in Cris Brown. The sooner she realizes that, the better she will be.
• United States
6 Mar 09
Did rihanna actually give Herpes? Lol I guess this happen because.... hmm I dont know. People fight people forgive some people just let it stay a grudge. I dont know what the world has gone to. Maybe he was drunk thats why he beat her, or maybe it was that car accident lol, his car looked fine from the reports.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
7 Mar 09
What is your point????
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
11 Mar 09
I am very surprised they reconciled so soon - she's a beautiful women and can have anyone she wants, but she chooses to stay with this idiot - it's going to happen again for sure unless they both get serious counseling. I wished she just stepped away from it all and took the time to heal and sort herself out FIRST before even thinking about reconciling or seeing him again. Would jail time do him some good? who knows, he needs counseling, much more than just anger management I say.