I've been shunned for a WEEK! What do I do?!
By bloo_equinox
@bloo_equinox (422)
United States
March 6, 2009 8:45pm CST
Alright. Hi, it's me again... those of you with friends, have SOME point in your life had a fight about something. Boys, Girls, didn't bring back CD or Record you borrowed or they borrowed... well... My friends and I are in a fight right now. All of them...against me.
No one else in my school talks to me, just me and my so-called friends would hang out in our commons area all the time... and last monday... two of my friends, they are dating, were talking, and they looked upset. I walked up to my guy friend, michael, and I said "hey" like any other morning. Heather, my gal friend, michaels girlfriend, just kinda ... ignored me. Usually she says a BIG hi and we hug and go on with the day, USUALLY...Michael says some crazy comment and we laugh and just hang out. You know...Friend stuff. Normal, usual friend stuff...
Well, after I said "hey" they just ignored me. They both looked REALLY upset, so I was like "well...if you guys need to talk about anything, I'm here for you both." and I left them alone, assuming that's what they wanted.
Now: Today is Friday. They have been acting like I DO NOT exist for about a week. I know some of you who respond to this will say stuff like "well then they aren't your true friends." Yea, I know that now... true friends won't do that. But I have no one else in that school. Everyone else makes fun of my weight or the fact that I'm bi, so I'm literally just shunned. All my other friends know that I'm bi and told me they have NO problem with it, coz they know me and think I'm an okay person... So what could POSSIBLY be so wrong?! They ignore me... AND TALK TO EVERYONE ELSE ...EXCEPT ME. What did I do? It's like I'm dead to them...
Someone needs to tell me what I should do, because I've tried everything!!
2 responses
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
7 Mar 09
write them a note. apologize first (even if you don't know what you did. just to set the mood.) point out that they're still your friends even if they don't like you and you're willing to do whatever it is to make up for any offense you've committed.
@hanasays (212)
• United States
7 Mar 09
I agree.
It's important to keep in mind that you may have actually done nothing wrong. It sounds like you may be a teenager, and sometimes teenagers, for lack of a better phrase, "just act like that". If you apologize and they still won't tell you what is wrong or how to make it up to them, or if they continue to make you feel terrible once you have done everything you can, it may be best to find new friends who don't play games like that.
But I hope it turns out to be something minor and everything is quickly smoothed over.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
7 Mar 09
Have you asked them what the problem is? If not...ask. You can't work things out if you don't know what's going on. If you've tried and no one is telling you then, I'm sorry but you're going to have to face the fact that they're not really your friends. Remember this, too. There are *always* people who you overlook when you have a group of friend who would like to be your friend. If you're on the outside of your usual group start talking to other kids. Everyone is NOT against you so put your best face on and be friendly. Don't let these guys make your miserable.
@bloo_equinox (422)
• United States
12 Mar 09
everyone is NOT against me? Lolz... u dont know my school too well then... no offense...but if you were me in that school...you would take that comment back and probably realize that there ARE places that shun people who mean so well and who are REAL with themselves and people around them... they're against me. I've asked...and they still wont talk to me. I have 0 friends now. :)
