now...its my time
March 8, 2009 6:03am CST
i have always been close to my parents.. the kind of relationship we had was something i can really be proud of.. they did everything to provide for us even though my father has a physical disability and my mom has not finished high school.. now, my father is suffering from different diseases, he had stroke and heart attack..were just glad he was strong enough to survive all those.. its our time to show him how much we appreciate him .. i and my other siblings just give him everything he needs... sick people could get pretty stubborn at times but its better .. at least we still have a somebody we call dad.. do you have sick or disabled members in the family? how did you relate to them that made them feel your support? please share you thoughts and experiences...*smile*
9 Mar 09
First can I say I am not asking for sympathy here as we have fun in our family and lots of it , I care for 4 of mine ,we are a very close family too My hubby has had a triple heart bypass and my son has CP but the hardest to deal with is my parents who both have Alzheimer's , I am an only child and still mange to care for and keep them together in their own home , It is so hard to watch them fade away day by day and I know just what you mean , I think of it as returning some of the care they have given to me over the years , When things get bad I always recall some of the good times we have and hold on o that God Bless you XX Wee xx
• United States
8 Mar 09
I was the disabled member of the family. Now I live on my own with government provided support. When my parent get unable to care for themselves, they'll move in with me until they can get their own support services (also paid by they government). Then they can live by themselves again, as I do now. I'll help them adjust to being empowered disabled people at least that's my plan. I can be Ms. B*tch when it comes to getting people services and for my parents, trust me I would be.
8 Mar 09
HAI SUJUWONDER, i m also proud of u man in this time,GOD BLESS U.such parent caring and good hearted men r raely possible in present time,i did not faced this situation but i seen my uncle who sufring from kidney failure ,i felt very sorry because we cant do anything because his blood group was not available.i will pray for u so that u remain that much strong and ur good desires remain intact.
9 Mar 09
hope u and your family good luck,my dear friend. although i haven't got any disabled members in my family,i got a broken one. For god's sake,mum has two daughters but dad is a businessman with no son,they got a divorced after years of unhappiness...at that time i was still a little girl and just couldn't help asking why. mum never left her two daughters alone,in that case,she became even stronger in order to make a living.so,i think each family has a story just like u.don't give up,things will soon become better.
9 Mar 09
hey dear.it sreally heart touching the way u care for ur parents........... i know how it can be.i ahve seen my grandfather being stubborn n childish when he was old n sick.........i know how much better it can be if the cooperate.but still hatsoff to you for ur courage n strngth with which u r handling things n life............... i would like to suggest that if we treat them like as if nothing is wrong n they are as normal as us,we talk to them about their interests,ask them about their experinces in life maybe they will atleast for sometime forget what the situation is at present n be happy remembering the happy past......... i tried n it worked.i hope it does for you tooo........... and i will surely pray to god that he provides you with the strenght to tackle with the situation so bravely always........ tc
9 Mar 09
I admit that I am not really close with my parents.. When every time I encounter problems I don't usually tell this to my parents, I'll just keep it on my own or just tell this to my friends or my boyfriend.. Well, even though were not really not close with each other at least we communicate very well and we were spending time with each other.. We can still show that we love each other and we were always stay together no matter what happen.. Both my parents were sick but not having disability like your dad.. My mother has a problem in her liver but according to her doctor it can still cure by drinking a lot or water, eating healthy foods and drinking the prescribe medicines.. While my father has a diabetes.. Well, this kind of sickness cannot be cured but at least he is doing his job in controlling and taking good care of his body/health for us.. Sometimes, he is very hard headed but he still listen afterward.. My parents are the best parents that I have.. Even though we were not that rich and we always encounter problems in money at least we had finished our school in one of the exclusive school in our city.. I have 3 siblings, my older brother and sister were already graduated their college degree many years ago and I had just graduated last year.. While our youngest sister were already graduating in high school this year..
8 Mar 09
Hi Sujuwoder! I am moved to pity by ur suffering. I don't have the same sadness as you have, but my father has a mental sadness. He used many special medicine and... perhap, he recover from it almost completely. However, his characteristic change much, from my lovely dad to a person I am afraid of. As the time go, my parents had some arguments, and some bad events happened to my family as well; after all,their marriage ended in divorce. I still love my dad so much, miss him and I believe that if he did not get the disease, my family are living in happy now. You have a father who love you, and have a happy house where you and your relatives share the hardship together. Wish your father quickly be healthy again... Goodluck- Sujuwonder Hong Son...
8 Mar 09
Hi, I've my parents still alive.85 & 80. Live with us.One thing I follow,whatever I'm today without their sacrifice & contribution it would not have been possible. Thus,at very end of life they also look forward some helping hand,specially when they are sick.Not as expectation,but as desire. I think,it's our duty to provide them that support.My son is also watching my actions.I will reap,what I sow with my parents. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.