Are You Extremely Social On Line, But Almost Anti-Social Off Line?
March 8, 2009 10:41pm CST
That's me in a nutshell!!!! I have never been extremely social. My mother and teachers pushed me to be social with my peers from pre-school right up through high-school, and I resisted, doing my own thing. It all paid off. I got on line, made friends all over the world, and met an older man, who I later married. You've probably seen him around here on MyLot, as Vladilyich1. Anyway, Vlad and I couldn't be happeri. We're now living in my hometown. He was in AZ before, but changes to his vision (I've been legally blind all my life, he's still getting used to it) and the cost of living made him decide to come up here to Canada where it's chaper, and we have a good transit system. No way to get around in Sedona AZ with no car, and it's expensive as all hell!!!! I've made loads of other friends here on Mylot, on Gather, and all over the place. Some of us are almost local (in the greater Toronto area) and we've gotten together for radio club meetings, for example, others are farther away, like my friend Svetlana in Russia. She's become another sister to me. I love meeting people on line. We can find friends who share our interests better than just taking a chance with people we may run into. The internet has a wonderful way of sorting itsself into interest groups. I love it! I'm sure my husband will agree with me.
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9 Mar 09
My personality has always been more suited to non-personal communication. I spent 17 years as a disk jockey where I could talk my brains out, but didn't have to meet in person. Following that was television where the only people around were a couple of cameramen. I also have no problem with public speaking because the speaker can't see the audience due to the lights (most people don't realize this). Same for theatre. In person, I normally remain very quiet. I will attend a party, but will normally be off to myself or with ONE person that I know.
• United States
29 Mar 09
I was so shy i wouldn't speak when I was a vvery young, I just started speaking more a few years ago. I love meeting and finding friends online.you can share shared interetes and hash out different views it is great.I have a dear friend from London , A guy I would have Never met if it wern't for My Lot.
3 Jul 09
Well, I am not super social , but not shy either. And usually I am the same both in online and off. Actually probably a bit less online. I think myLot is the only place that I come to that is of a social nature. Offline, I do have a more or less - more less LOL - ok social live although I have noticed recently that every once in a while I have been avoiding big gatherings to just stay home with hubby - a bit antisocial.
• United States
20 Mar 09
I have to agree that my socialization changes dramatically when I come online, although I do have a small social network offline, as well. But online it seems that my writing skills come out and I can better attract friends, AND it seems that the men seem to think that I am something different on here, as well. I did meet BOTH of my husbands through correspondence.........snail mail......and the internet brought me a 3 year relationship, and now many friends who are much closer to me than the ones I have known for 30 years!! I am currently seeing a man who I met on a site here and there are several others who are telling me that they "love" me, from very far distances.......but that is not something that I have gotten into with any of them!! My 4 very BEST friends are online friends and are the ones who I share my secrets with, and I have actually met 2 of them.
17 Mar 09
I never had a problem making friends since I became an adult, people genuinely like me, but I am chosey as to whom I call my friend. I have always had a core group of really close and good friends. Mylot and all my internet associations have been extremely wonderful, especially since I am disabled now and can hardly walk.
12 Mar 09
I'm both..I am extremely social online and off line..like you i made lots and lots of online friends on which i even give time to give them a call once in a while..In here i met a wonderful friend from Ohio..I call her mommy as i treat her as my own mother and she does the same and treat me as her own daughter..we get along together very well..we exchange e-mails every chance we get and even chat on yahoo messenger..your right, having friends online makes it easy..when we can talk about almost everything..its fun and its an amazing thing that can happen once in a person life
• Hong Kong
11 Mar 09
I haven't been reaching that extreme yet, but I notice that I am going there. I could go to forums or even mylot to make friends and constantly chat with them. But in real life, I don't go out that often and me and my friends seldom contact each other (unless something comes up!). I wish I could be more sociable in reality, but sometimes I just don't enjoy going out at all.
• United States
10 Mar 09
Oh gawd...that's me as well. I don't know why that is but most of us are like that. I suppose it's because we're able to be more comfortable, not worried how we're looking or how we're sounding online. But, I'm more vocal online than I am in real life for a single reason: people don't hear what you're saying nor does a situation make it sound better. I was at the store the other day trying to be social and this lady misunderstood me and embarassed me. I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend stationed in Iraq and I could tell we were getting annoyed with the quality of the phone line and the noise in the background. Let's see...from my boyfriend's friend and others, I've met so many people online that I find myself more sociable here than in real life. I do have a life, it's my children. But the times when I need some adult interaction, I go online to reach out to others. *Pleiades
• United States
9 Mar 09
I am not sure I am the most social person in the world online, but I am certainly more social here than I am offline. I am painfully shy in social situations. Shy probably is probably even too mild a word - I have extreme social anxiety. There are two mediums this has never applied to, however, and this is on stage and through writing. I have found these two mediums to be very effective for me because I am one of those people who has a lot to say and does have very deep thoughts and heartfelt ideas just like any other creative person, but just do not express myself well verbally (unless I have rehearsed what I am about to say for hours on end...), nor do I feel particularly comfortable expressing myself that way... I guess being online with my websites and whatnot feels somewhat more like performing than it does social graces because a lot of my viewers and readers begun as "fans" of my work before we started being friendly (it's a good form of promotion for artists as well, especially now with all the sites that pay you to show off your stuff!)... I was pushed to be social by my parents/teachers, etc. as well, and just never really could get into the idea. I always had very little in common with the other kids and vice versa, so we had great difficulty relating to one another. For some reason it has been much easier to find like-minded people online than it has been in any social setting close to home. I managed to make a most remarkable friend who agrees with me on everything under the sun, including politics, shares all my same thoughts, insecurities, neuroses, sense of humor, etc... Since I am a most arcane and obscure person, this has always been nearly impossible to find... I have also made some wonderful friends in the music business (which I am very grateful for because it is close enough to my industry - dance - that they know how to offer support, but not so much like dance that I feel as though they're trying to outdo me...) You're very right, and I almost wish I had thought of this discussion myself because it is very much like me. I thank you, however, for taking the time to bring this up. I thought I was the only one more at ease on-line than off (socially speaking at least)!