What do you do if you don't love you hubby?

@lingzi (567)
China
March 9, 2009 9:44pm CST
As yourhubby ,you must love him very much,or he can not be your hubby.if one day two day past , you find that your hubby is not the most lover, but you have two children yet , he loves them so, what do you do??to tell him the truth or go on living without love for him ? one of my friend is in the truoble like this? thank you in advance.
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@preppy (28)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Mar 09
In my opinion for a situation like this and i have fallen out of love from my hubby and we have kids i would evaluate the reason why a married him in the first place.. we married someone in a lot of reason one of these are for practical reason that people wanted security in life and the other is we marry someone because we love them. If one instances that you fall out of love it doesn't mean that we jump into conclusion of telling him that you don't love him or leaving him... You married because of love and now your leaving together and you found out the negative aspects he has, in the first place loving means loving a person unconditionally for who he is or what he is. and it comes to a point that you fall out of love try to realize all the aspect or qualities that he have, all the moments you shared together that makes you happy once you gather all that think about it why you have fallen in love in the first place and for this you might realize things that could make you fall for him again. And if in case that this things did not help you should be honest to him about your feeling.. honesty can maintain the respect for each other.
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• Singapore
10 Mar 09
Does she have someone else in mind? I think that she should ask herself why she's feeling in such a manner. Is the presence of someone else making her change her mind about her current husband? Is there something missing in the marriage? I think she should try to rekindle the love and romance between the two and see if it would make her love her husband more. It could just be a phase she is experiencing. And everything would get back to normal once her husband takes time to be with her again.
@lingzi (567)
• China
10 Mar 09
she told me there was no man but her hubby in mind, maybe she didn't realised.
@rsa101 (37968)
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
Well everybody deserves to be happy of course, she has the option to tell him that but what do you think may happen to her if she tells that to him. If the feeling is mutual then she is lucky and may get out of the marriage pretty soon. But if it is the other way then what else can she do? I really do not know what are the options that are available there in your place
• China
10 Mar 09
i think if there is no love,you'd better separate.
• Philippines
10 Mar 09
i'll stay even if i dont love him anymore, the important thing is that he loves me and our children!