Does ur frnds hurt u in d disguise of joking..??

yes one of my friend with whom i just broke my relation did this always.she use to behave a bit abnormal and use to insult me badly and now this was knowing or unknowing am unaware of it because no one till yet had insulted me or ever bugged me the way she use to do. she alwayskept on interefering in my personal life too. and i kind of was very uncomfortable with her, with her behaviours and gestures, they were very irritatting sometimes. rather now i just told her that it is better i dont stay with her, because my tolerance was out of limit.lol and now am happy alone again

At times I think friends hurt other friends not because they are trying to poke fun or insult that friend, but for numerous other reasons. Sometimes people are harboring anger for whatever reason, and if the friend they seem to be making fun of is able to live the life they wish they could live... well, maybe that contributes alot to the outbursts. It would make it even more difficult, if you knew that friend didn't understand fully what you've dealt with or lived with, because he or she was able to just go on about his or her life. I realize the end result is still the same, but the pain for both people can be just as great.

My daughter was just telling me today that there is a boy at her college that does this to many of the friends in their social group. One day, she was resting on a bench between classes and he walked up to them. He looked at my daughter and said, "Oh my GOD you have a big butt!" Now, you should know that she is 5'10" tall and weighs under 150 pounds, so she is not a heavy girl. She has a bit of a curvy rear end but most of her friends seem to envy her figure. I know I do! LOL! In any case, it seems this guy does this to everyone. He points out if they are wearing clothes that don't match, he tells people that certain colors don't suit them and what other colors they should wear instead, he tells them if their hair is "too messy" ... but he does all of these things "jokingly". She tells me that he is about 6'3" and heavy himself. He complains all the time that he can't shop because nothing ever fits him, so I tried to tell her that he might make hurtful "jokes" about other people's appearance because it makes him somehow feel a bit better about himself. She tries to be patient with him and laughs off his comments but, like you said, it's definitely hurtful.

These kind of things happen often with my friends.But by hurting me they are not going to get anything and by way of mocking me I'm not going to lose anything.So if someone is always there making fun of me,I'm just going to be the same.Life is short,if we are going to be bothered by those people we are making things difficult for us.So the best way is to just keep on moving with those kind of people and never,ever accept them as your trusted friends.

Hi, I faced similiar incidence. Knowing weak points(secrets)of a friend and expose it even in disguise of Joke is not a true-friendship activity/attitude. I told him straight,"It Hurts!' It was never repeated. U may try. =Lahiri,Kolkata,India.