The Wrong Foot

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
March 16, 2009 3:06pm CST
A friend request gave me the idea for this discussion. Has this ever happened to you here on MyLot? You get into a heated discussion with another member on a certain post and you later wish that you could have handled it better. This has happened to me on a few occasions. I am happy to say that I later became friends with them. I was in a heated exchange with this person a couple of years ago over something that was said in a post. I really don't remember what the topic was anymore. It is a good feeling to know that someone you have had past differences of opinion with has moved on and would like to be your friend.
6 responses
@mummymo (23707)
16 Mar 09
This has definitely happened to me! I have on some occasions wish I had handled things better and on others handled them as well as I would have liked , treated the other person with the respect that they deserved. I have been on the opposite side of an argument on some pretty serious and emotional subjects and gone on to become good friends with them! I think it is a good sign that people can accept each others opinions and still respect them - I love when that happens! xxx
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
It's all about respect, mummymo! We don't have to become mortal enemies just because we happen to disagree on any given thing.
@mummymo (23707)
23 Mar 09
I couldn't agree more - it just seems so silly to me when people behave that way! xxxx
@weemam (13377)
16 Mar 09
No pal this has never happened to me , But I am so pleased that it all turned out all right for you and that you made a new friend too Wee xx
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
You're always so soft-voiced, weemam, that I think we would all be shocked if you got into a shouting match with anyone!As for me, I can come across a bit harsh at times without meaning to.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
16 Mar 09
I always think that when two people can have a debate it makes the friendship stronger, rather than agreeing with everything, it makes it more exciting too, I am glad that it has turned out well and you've got a friend through it, so many people get on their high horse over heated exchanges refuse to back down and retaliated with hostility. We do have differences, accepting them and understanding the other's person's opinions with good grace is the key. We all have off days where we could have handled things better. Not everyone is going to agree with you naturally and sometimes things can get heated but if you can laugh it off afterwards and agree to disagree in an amicable way, then that is good grounds for a friendship!
• United States
16 Mar 09
When debates get too heated, I try to opt out before it escalates into a situation where someone is asking for my banning from mylot, or wherever. Some people are thin-skinned. I do have strong opinions about things, but I try to keep my discussion of such material within certain limits.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
You always seem to be the voice of reason, wolfie. Of course our differences of opinion sometimes make for a livelier discussion.
@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
20 Mar 09
That is nice isn't it? Some people really have a heart and know they also are only human. The passion of a good argument can be a good thing. It is good for people to has h it out in a nice way and come to terms. This site is very good for that. I appreciate alot of the interplay on here just because of that. Life is short and grudges and such are kids play anyway. Glad it worked out this way for you!
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
Your words are full of wisdom, celticeagle, and I agree that MyLot is a great venue for hashing out things - and making friends!
@winterose (39918)
• Canada
20 Mar 09
Yes I think we all have gone through that at one time or other. It is nice when that happens that we can move on, but some people choose to have revenge and they troll you and that is very sad when that happens.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
I just wish that we could all move past our little differences, winterose. MyLot is lucky to have so many level-headed members.
@GardenGerty (99193)
• United States
17 Mar 09
I am sure I have said and done things that offend others, unintentionally. I think the fact that we stay at this site, and get to know each other better leads to the kind of thing you describe. We learn that we have more things alike than different and we appreciate each other for who we are.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Mar 09
This is true for the most part, GG, but occasionally someone does need to be taken to task a bit.