Is waiting for someone bad?

hate to say it but life goes on even when we seem to have stopped. don't just wait occupy your time with other things and give her some space. not saying that if she calls you dont answer just dont seem to desperate. and if it was your childish ways then you have serious mommy issues and learn to move on your own. That could be one major reason she found you childish. So show her that you can live in your world and be happy with out her. I know it sounds hard but if you keep your mind going on something else then when she comes around she will see that you weren't just pine after her, you were taking it like a man. Now if its been a few days don't call to talk about things - call and tell her you just wanted to hear her say hi or something then let it go. don't go all mushy and say how much you miss her just give her enough to get the hint that she ment something to you. Then if you get to the point of a date again then go all out. do the thing that you knew she wanted to do when you were together and if it means the ballet or whatever do it. then again i could just be talking out of my who haa

Maybe she is still waiting for you to show her you can be mature. Part of maturity is showing you can do without someone you care for, but still acting like the person they want you to be. Stay in touch with the friends you share. Let them know you are still thinking about her, but keep the qualities she wants as part of your behavior. You don't have to change all at once, and you must, no matter what, keep the changes true to your self-don't be something you can't be. What I mean is, spend some serious time alone doing deep soul-searching. Talk to friends you can trust to tell you truthfully what is immature about you. These kind of actions will bring up goals you can really work on. For instance: a sign of immaturity is taking things personally when someone points out a flaw in your character. It is not an insult, but a form of friendly assistance in improving yourself. The same can be said for them, but you can't simply point out flaws as a form of retaliation. My brother did this a lot when we were growing up-when someone asked him "What's wrong with you?" which would have been an invitation to tell them why he was upset, he responded even louder, "What's wrong with YOU?!" That is immaturity. Maturity is often shown by not responding sarcastically to someone's personal revelation or laughing at another person's vulnerability. Think often of what she said in any arguments, and use these responses as indicators of where to start. Take them with a grain of salt, as many may have been in the heat of the moment, with anger instead of sincerity. Never take a comment directed at you as personal unless the one making the comment escalates the intensity of the comment or the negative level of the comment. Even then, resist getting into an argument, much less a fight with the person. Some people can instigate an argument without actually wanting to fight, just to see if you are mature. Women are very capable of this, as emotions are a daily thing with them. Men act more on an instinctive level, so feeling is not so much a thing we think about as something we just do. Anger, Love, Jealousy, these are things we don't think about much, so we have to be careful to recognize them. Being aware of what we are feeling increases our ability to act appropriately, to resist arguing when we are angry, or to show our love for someone instead of expecting them to know we love them. Immature people assume this, mature people SHOW that they love someone. Mature people are not afraid to open themselves up to the one they love, because they are worth the risk of rejection or humiliation, we value them that much. These are the things she may be looking for.

Hello taki. I don't think that it is bad to wait for someone you love, but she is really hanging out with someone else, then I don't think that there is any need to wait for her to waste your time. I think that it might be her excuse to say that you are immature in some ways. You know, it is very human for anyone to be immature in some ways. We cannot be perfect in all ways. But anyway, I wish you good luck finding someone who cares about you as much as you do to her. Take care, my dear new friend.

No, I dont think that waiting for someone is bad. But if she has moved on since last June, then maybe you should not wait. Just enjoy life, doesnt mean you have to chase after anyone either, but if another one comes along, go for it! Follow your heart

i think that if you really like this girl and she is nice then i think it's worth to wait.

If it were me, I would just move on. Waiting and pining over her does nothing but make you miserable all the more. If she can't accept you for who you are, then you weren't a good match after all. Be yourself. Even if you act like a kid sometimes, that is who you are, don't try to change yourself to please someone else... someone will appreciate you and not leave you hanging and wanting.

Not sure if you know this but timing is very important. Many things in life we missed because we spend time waiting for something or someone that isn't meant for us. You might think you are still young, but time can pass by very quickly. I'm not saying she is not worth your time, but you are in love now so you will see everything about her is beautiful, perfect etc. ask yourself, is she really that perfect? or did you just fall for her due to opposite attract? No one wants to have a relationship with childish person, so if you are sure about her, then do your best to change. in the end, however, it still depends on her decision to accept you back or not.

I thin kthe reason stated by her is truly absurd. I think it is time for you to move on from this relationship. I think you should get out of it and try and leave things behind. Start afresh and don't loose out on hope. Everything happens for good and take care !!!

you are very young looked at your profile before answering this.Maybe it is time to move on and find someone else or maybe have a good time on your own,you are suffuring a broken heart and I feel for you as we have all been in your position,there is plenty of time to grow up a bit and get some more experience of life you will meet someone one day settle down and have a home,wife ect,just try to take it easy and enjoy your freedom.Take care mate.xxx

Because she is entertaining someone else, the chances of her considering you at this point in time is unlikely to happen. So, if you think you really love her and she is the one, then there is nothing wrong in waiting. Time brings about a lot of changes. Both man and woman grow and learn with the experiences in their lives. So when her existing relationship ends (I'm not wishing that for her. But from what I've seen of life, there is a good possibility that it will end as she seems to be looking for Mr Perfectly Mature from what you tell us, and that search is not likely to end that easily. sorry to sound blunt). So when she is out of her existing relationship and is healing, then is when she will remember you again, because of all the caring you have showered on her. Keep your doors (meaning your phone and email) open at that time. Women love it when they get a shoulder to cry on at such times, and your persistence and reliability are what will win her back for you. Good luck.

I would ask her one more time about your relationship. But if she still does not know or make up her mind I would have to say you need to move on with your life. Talk to her & see what she says instead of doing nothing & just waiting. At least you will know where you stand & if you should try to move on with your life.

Eight months have passed,the time when she decided to put an end to the relationship. If you can`t get a glimpse of hope from her, you just better give up on the idea of waiting for her. Maybe your waiting will only be a hurdle to your personal growth. Instead of waiting for her to love you again, why not spend your time getting to know yourself. After that, find ways to enrich the areas of your life that needs improvement. Be a better person for your own sake! After that love will not be so hard to find. Maybe she`ll comeback to you after she sees the improvements or you`ll find someone better...

wait til there's nothing left for you to wait wait til there's nothing left for you

I think waiting for someone is not wrong it is just showing that you still love the person and still longing for her it is about the courage to know that you still want to win her and ask for another chance

It's hard to tell if waiting is ever right. Does she show interest in getting back together with you? Even in the slightest? If she does then she might come back to you someday but you can never tell with those things and that is a big MIGHT. Sometimes it helps to move on and get out in the world if not only to make the other person realize that they want you. Good luck with this person. If you ever need insight into her side, I'm there right now.

Wondering how often have you two communicated since the break-up. If you haven't had any communication then it appears she has moved on and may very well miss out on a better match by waiting on her. By going out with someone else you may very well find it easier to get her off your mind. Don't allow this to become an obsession. You could be waiting a very long time.

Do you think she moved on? If yes, please love yourself. There's nothing you can do. There were things in this world that you cannot control and you just have to accept it. you might not find someone like her but what if someone better come and you are not prepared for it. You'll lost again and again if you can't accept it. God Bless friend.

I think that your ex is not appreciating you as you are her backup plan. If the guy she likes doesn't like her, she can always go back to you. Maybe if you show her that you are not as available as she thinks, she will finally learn to appreciate you as a person.

How long has she been seeing someone else? After all the 2 of you did break up. Are you still seeing her as a friend? Keep improving yourself and show your maturity. If she doesn't like it, then she really is not sure of what she wants either. You will better yourself, by letting yourself grow too. Good luck to you

i don't think waiting is wrong especially when it involves love. it just shows that you really love her. i myself, have been waiting for this guy for a long time now, without any assurance.. hehe. you have a better situation than i do so just be patient dude.. and don't be afraid to show her other sides of you. if she really loves you, she'll accept whatever kind of person you are. hehe.. so there. good luck!