Shouldn't women discover love from friendship and not courting?

March 21, 2009 8:31pm CST
I'm always interested on how people think about this. A guy would ask a girl if he may court her, then the girl would say yes. Afterwards the guy now would then start to pick the girl after school or something, give her presents epcecially on her birthdays, gives flowers on valentines day, and most importantly showing the lady how good and what kind of man he is. I mean hey! Is'nt this kind of absurd, it may be sweet yes but if you think about it the girl would only see the good side of the guy. And when the two of them are together the girl would usually see the real guy and discovers he's not the one she's looking for. On the other hand if they girls befriend the guys first, then they would see the real inside of a man. Is'nt that how should it be?
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@Canellita (12058)
• United States
22 Mar 09
The object of courtship is for a couple to get acquainted spending time together in public in settings that will be comfortable. Once upon a time a young man would call upon a young lady whom he liked and possibly hoped to marry at her home and the two would sit in a room with a chaperone and hold a conversation. Eventually, as trust was gained the two might be allowed to go on an outing such as taking a walk or going on a picnic, which might still have been chaperoned. These outings would still be quite innocent. Coutship has nothing to do with one person giving gifts to another person. It is about two people getting acquainted to see if they have enough in common to build a relationship.
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
Thanks for your nice reply.