what would u do if you found out that your partner has another bf/gf?

Philippines
March 23, 2009 8:30am CST
i just need your opinion guys...how would u handle a situation if your bf/gf has a bf/gf off shore...would you still hold on to the relationship or would u let go though u still could feel that you are special to him/her?
7 responses
• India
23 Mar 09
Umm...good question..dats a very common thing u get to face wen ur in a relationship though i have been lucky enuf not to have faced such things till now..but i have seen many of my friends having d same prob..n wen they confront their partners ...d common reply comes.."its just a frnd".."ur being too suspicious"..or even "it cuts d monotony of d relationship." n frankly speaking i don't know d solution. Though, d frnd is offshore n very little chances r there of them being together..and break a long-standing relation at an impulse...but its impossible to trust someone so fickle-minded.For me..i would frankly speak my mind to my partner..dat this kind of thing i won't allow n i guess ijm more important n real to him dan his so called virtual relation..n give him time.If he still can't control his impulse..den its better to let go dan hanging onto a unfaithful relationship.
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
thank you for sharing your inputs to me...i really appreciate it
• China
23 Mar 09
I will try my best to maintain the relationship and i will not others to break it. if our love can not go on any more, i will jsut let it go.
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
i appreciate the idea but what if you found out that the other person was his/her first gf/bf...before you came to his/her life? would u still hold on?
@coldmoon (1088)
• France
24 Mar 09
I always give to my partner a freedom as he needs. He always has the right to choose between me, the girl beside him through difficulties, or a new girl with new passion. If he doesn't choose, I'll choose for him : I'll fight with my best to show that I'm the number one in his heart.
@sirrob (4108)
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
If you are very sure of it then let it go. What's the point of holding on if there are two of you. It could never be alright in the long and you will just be hurting yourself if you won't let it go. How sure are you of that feeling, that you still feel you are special to him? Is it because you are still in love with the person? Or is it because you are afraid to lose him? Or you are not ready yet to let go of the love for him. Even so and in the end, your boy is still cheating on you and who knows until when would it last. Yet, it's your choice to make. We can tell someone what is right and what is wrong but we cannot teach our heart to fall in love with someone we don't like.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
23 Mar 09
kick them to the curb cya
• Philippines
23 Mar 09
i'll end it! no room for him and his gf on my mind! so i'd rather not waste time thinking of them!
@savypat (20216)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I'd dump them, one at a time is my choice. If nothing else I'd be worried about STD maybe the other GF/BF also has another friend? This is one way these things get spread