Do you expect your children to be in the honors list?

@meticulo (1286)
United States
March 24, 2009 8:52am CST
There would be no more classes!!Yehey! The students would then be so happy because it's vacation time. But before they're able to rejoice, some students have gone through a mental torture because some parents imposed rules that they would be included in the honors list. Thanks God my children did have medals even though I didn't expect that they'll have.How about you? Do you expect much from your children? Do you punish them if they don't get a medal or any recognition?Aren't you proud of them if they don't received at least one?Please share...
5 responses
@ulqu1orra (308)
• Philippines
17 Apr 09
I'm not a parent but all I can say to this is you must not told your son that he/she was intelligent because if he/she trust what you've said to him/her, he/she will develop a habit of why should study more, "matalino naman ako eh" mentally that will make him/her to be lazy studying. I honestly feel that way too way back on my high school days but as I grow old, I'm now facing the fact that there are lots of things to know in this world and the life that will be given to you to live on this world were not enough to all this things.
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Thanks for your comment ulqu1orra! Happy mylotting!
@xtedaxcvg (3191)
• Philippines
25 Mar 09
Well, I wouldn't expect my children to have medals although it would be a lie if I would say I wouldn't hope for them to have some. All parents desire greatnest for their children and I believe it's just fair to hope for your child to get at least a medal or two. What I would do is guide them to the fullest and inspire them to achieve greatness that they deserve.
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
18 Apr 09
You said it right! I hope parents will also understand that every child has different levels of understanding or his mental ability. We just have to encourage and guide them all the way. Thanks!
@zedlav23 (458)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I don't want to precondition myself and expect my kids to be in the honor's list. I know that would be a father or a mother's pride to see their kids garnering those recognitions. But what i want is for them to enjoy school. Punishment is out of the picture. I don't think they deserve to be punished for something they can't reach. If they may not perform academically, i'm sure they have some strength beyond what academics measure.
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
18 Apr 09
Very well said zedlav! We just have to encourage them and if in any effort they still didn't turn out to be an honor students then it's the best time to understand them not to punish them.Thanks!
@bluishrose (2291)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I don't expect but I'm hopeful for them to have honors. But if its not god willing I just hope for my kids to have average grades and live a normal and happy schooling. even if kids have honors and their parents push them its still not healthy for the kids. Later on they become rebels and often parents are confused why they have become like that. A passing garde is enough for me as long as my kids are happy and living a normal life and stress free =)
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@meticulo (1286)
• United States
18 Apr 09
You are right bluishrose! Kids are fragile, they deserve to be treated with care.We just have to encourage them to study more and provide them with the necessary things they need for school.If they turn out to be an honor student during recognition we'll it's a bonus for parents. But we should also recognize their effort if they don't have medals and ribbons, at least they have finish a certain step in the ladder of success they are climbing.Thanks!
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
24 Mar 09
I am a mother of one and he is still a baby. He will turn six months old next month. I can see myself as a parent that would impose rules regarding receiving honor once my son gets to school. I think it is not bad to wish a good education for your child and a reward at the end of the school year as long as you know how to implement the rules in a nice way. We should instill early discipline to our kids but not to the point of putting too much pressure on them. If they can't graduate with honor then at least make sure you send them well to school and you did your part. I was always a student who was under pressure when I was in elementary. I graduated salutatorian from grade one to six. When I entered high school, my great grandparents and real parents in abroad never put pressure on me. I was the one who put pressure to myself because I want to reach the goal of being on top. Luckily that was granted and I was consistent for four years. Until I entered college I still graduated with flying colors. It is not to brag here but my main point is that there will be a great chance of becoming a responsible person and a person who has good direction in life if you raised someone in a good way at young age. I could still recall that my great grandmother made me memorized the alphabet at the age of 4 and she gave me a book that I was able to memorized before I entered grade one immediately after turning six years old. I never went to pre-school, nursery or kinder. I was the youngest in my batch from elementary to college because of early education at home instilled by my great grandparents. I never blamed them because it turned out to be for my own good. I think I will do the same with my son but I will not pressure him to much. I will make sure that learning will be fun for him and that he will enjoy every step I make to help him reach success.
@meticulo (1286)
• United States
26 Mar 09
It's great that you plan already the things best for your child while he is still young. You're right I guess we can only guide our children the best way we can without putting too much pressure on them. I believe it's also up to them on how they understand the things we want supposedly for them.Very well said Yori! Thanks for the responce!